Do you find it hard to land on moderation in your parenting and to help your children find moderation in their activities? Adam and Bonnie discuss the ins and outs of finding balance in everything from technology to emotions—and sometimes it requires allowing the discomfort of the lack of it.  Anxiety is becoming pervasive in childhood. Moderation is the antidote. Rather than swinging to one end of the pendulum or the other, finding the gray areas in the middle means letting go of what we might think is right. Your tone sets the stage.

EP 7 Parenting In Public 
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tell-me-about-your-kids/id1524545638?i=1000489718226

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: [email protected]

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch

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Deb is in shock since her once “good” girl has turned 15 and is budding into her teen energy and behavior. Fear takes over and blinds Deb to the strong connection that is there with her smart, responsible daughter who needs her trust. When fear takes over, trust is lost, and Grace feels it. Grace has no choice, she thinks, but to sneak to get what she wants.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: [email protected]

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch

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Kate’s 8 and 7 yr old boys love to roughhouse and tease their little sister—common, ordinary kid behaviors that can provoke real fears and even panic in the most progressive of parents. Fear and projections of her own past play into how Kate mitigates this natural kid behavior. Bonnie shows how storytelling, natural consequences and letting kids come up with the answers are far more effective than lecturing or punishing when managing potentially dangerous behaviors.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting

Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: [email protected]

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch

 www.echofinch.com

After a father’s sudden death, trying to pull life together can leave big holes in a family dynamic. Nate, the 20 yo, tries to fill his father’s shoes leaving 15 yo Julia struggling with the loss of her father, the pandemic, her working mom, and starting high school remotely. Alone in her pain all day, her world begins to unravel. When her mom is upset with sinking grades, Julia’s internal world crumbles leaving her external behavior as cries for help.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

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Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: [email protected]

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch

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Friendship isn’t parenting, right? “I’m the parent and my kids have to learn to do what they’re told.” But when you parent from this perspective, your relationship with your child is at risk. You are likely setting up an obligation-based relationship. Do you want your goal to be friendship or obligation? Do you feel obligated to your parents? Listen in as Bonnie and Adam dig into the whys and wherefores of relationships and how to end up with the relationship you want with your kids. Read Bonnie’s article about Your Parent Authority - https://bonnieharris.com/using-your-parent-authority/ 

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting

Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: [email protected]

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch

 www.echofinch.com

Barbara has brought up four outspoken children unafraid to share their opinions about life and politics. Their dinner table is lively. As proud as she is of their confidence, Barbara feels hurt, criticized, and dismissed in the face of them doing what she taught them to do—exactly the feelings she once felt when faced with her exacting, critical grandmother. Listen in and see how the dots get connected to help her regain her bravery.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting

Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: [email protected]

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch

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To end the year, Adam and I chose some choice clips from several of the most popular podcasts of 2021 (Two of the top 5 are in 2020). As we replay them for you, we comment and recap the moments together. As it turns out, so many of the issues parents bring to the podcast have similar themes that point out the fears and catastrophizing that keep all parents stuck in the heat of the moment with angry reactions and out of the moment of connection. So much can be learned from listening to multiple sessions with multiple parents.

Here are the podcasts we grabbed clips from:

Episode 63: In the Heat of the Moment—When Your Button Gets Pushed

Episode 59: “We can’t make him do anything.”

Episode 64: “She’s taking up all the space.”

Episode 61: What’s the Password for My Kid?


Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting

Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: [email protected]

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch

 www.echofinch.com

Veronica is emerging from that dark place in parenting when you feel you have no control over an out-of-control child. Her 10 yr. old has gone from rage to bullying his parents and sister—just like her brother did with her. Veronica’s growing self-awareness is giving her a better view of where it’s all coming from. Now she must help her children find a sense of security that her parents couldn’t help her with. 

The When Your Kids Push Your Buttons Audio Seminar - https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-parenting-seminar/

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Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: [email protected]

Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available)

            Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 

            8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With 

Audio Books

The Buttons Audio Course 

Counseling/Coaching

All books and audiobooks can be purchased here: 

https://bonnieharris.com/shop/

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch
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Leeann and Mark have a very challenging, impulsive 4 yo. There is nothing wrong with this sweet, loving, smart little boy who is easily provoked when he perceives he has been done wrong—the signature of an Integrity child. Bringing his behavior in line without triggering shame and more anger is the job at hand. When a child thinks he is bad, he behaves badly. After Jax has given his teacher a fat lip with a punch, Leeann and Mark are desperate for his behavior to stop. Listen in and learn the many ways of looking into the problem without only looking at the problem.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting

Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: [email protected]

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch

 www.echofinch.com

Andrea fears that if her 10 yo boys stop believing in the magic of Santa, bad things are just around the corner. If she can keep them innocent, she can avoid the complexities and problems of their upcoming years. Tune in to see how allowing her son to become a keeper of the secret instead of remaining a believer becomes a lesson in trust—even as her son sees the whole Santa thing as a lie.

Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. 

Website: bonnieharris.com 

Email: [email protected]

https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting

Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch

 www.echofinch.com