On today's episode of Ten Minutes with Tracy, We discuss changing your divorce story. Tracy and Lesa talk about becoming better listeners and diving into the art of understanding. When going through mediation, marriage counseling, or divorce, there are many benefits to listening to the other person's perspective and not feeling like you have to respond. We also discuss the stories that we tell ourselves that others learn to know about us that create our identities. Tune in today to learn how to look at these identities differently and allow yourself to see what you are becoming.

In this episode:

[1:06] The importance of listening and understanding. [4:43] Becoming divorce and becoming the next version of yourself. [5:43] When working on yourself, be intentional about listening and understanding; most of the time, the other person follows suit. [7:32] The stories and meaning that we create for our lives.

Key Takeaways:

Your current identity does not have to be permanent. You are allowed to become someone new and create a new identity of yourself if the old one no longer serves you. Your spouse, loved ones, and friends may carry the identity you have created with you and tell your story even if it doesn’t serve you any longer. Breathe in your new identity and move towards the next version of yourself, then share that with those close to you so they can also communicate the next version of you. Listening and understanding do not require responding. Learning to be intentional in listening and hearing what someone else is telling you is sometimes all that is needed. Knowing where they are coming from and not feeling the need to agree or disagree is a skill that can take you far in life.

Quotes:

“If we can remind ourselves that all we need to really do is understand the other person. So we could actually enter into a conversation with the commitment to listen so intently that we understand their point of view.” - Tracy Pleschourt

“It requires you to give up that story, that belief that you have about that person, and really just take under consideration, what if that story is wrong, what if that isn't even inaccurate. Just allow yourself to take that in for a moment; it opens up the door for so many possibilities.” - Tracy Pleschourt

Guest Bio:

Tracy Pleschourt, the Founder of Self-Made U helps men and women create Self-Made wealth and wellness through life coaching. Tracy has mastered and now teaches the critical skills necessary to manage your mind and overcome any obstacle, including overeating, over drinking, time management, career & relationship changes.

Resources:

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