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Considering the theme, vulnerability - my journey towards connecting with myself, David Taylor-Klaus  or DTK thinks out loud, “What if you started off with, what will this look like when it's easy? What a different mindset, what is a different way to look at it? Imagine how this invites possibility by envisioning? Vulnerability shows up when I bombed that one, I learned one way not to do it, considered what if I try that? If you believe that you can, you have a much better chance of being able to. If you believe you can't, you're right”.

“Excavating Memories, archaeology and home, touches on how we construct identity through things we keep by choice and by accident”, says Elizabeth Mosier.  Crucially it spotlights how we construct identity and express what we value through the things we keep by choice or by accident.  True treasure isn't the object It’s the stories the object tells, the information about people and the relationships. Often the stories sitting   in the margins speak about the people who don't have a voice, who don't own property and who are not in the public records. 

Debra Allcock Tyler’s dream for the future involves people being a bit more thoughtful and intentional. “It's not that we have to agree with each other. It's about the way we engage. I'd really like to see, some kind of kindness.” “I am the eldest of four children. I come from a massive mixed race Anglo Indian Catholic family. My mother's one of seven. I have loads and loads of cousins. I struggled a lot with mental health in my young years. I had a massive breakdown when I was in my early thirties. I'm turning 60, my mother's turning 80. My parents celebrate their 60th wedding anniversary. My nephew is 18, my niece is, 21”.

Asked what her older self would say to her younger self, Debra replies “ I would say to myself, pay more attention to what you think about you rather than what other people think about you. I would go back to myself and say, tell the truth about how you're feeling , get the help that you need rather than just keep going. My grandmother used to say, what other people think of you is none of your business.”.

“ Hope does not come out of denial. Failure comes out of denial, I've learned in the last few years to acknowledge the awfulness of what is going on and to say it's really bad. Things do get better. There have been times in my life when I've been full of despair, when things have been really, really bad for me, and I look back and remember I got through it. When there are people, there is always hope. In all the awfulness, there are always the helpers. I remember an old colleague of mine used to say, this is not all of life it's just part of life”.

Debra Allcock Tyler summaries the concept of hope, beautifully, “ When you're feeling really down and miserable, the best thing you can do is to do something for somebody else. You can’t help but feel better about yourself when you’ve done something nice for other people. “

When asked about surviving and thriving, adventurer Erik Seversen says: “In my triangle of life, there's work life, family life, and the self. I wake up excited to get to work every single day. I trained for the real mountain every day. When I climb big mountains, I go alone with guides, but I alone. I spend time thinking about how much I appreciate family and how much I appreciate easy things. I'm a better husband and father when I do the things that are exciting for me. It makes me more well-rounded as a father and a husband and for myself, I like a challenge. “

“Happiness is like a backpack. You either put it on or you don't, and it's absolutely a choice. Just getting things that are easy doesn't make us feel fulfilled. The nature of challenges and continually working towards things that matter to us gives meaning to our lives and make us feel fulfilled. As we embrace the struggle something good can be coming from it. Purpose is something bigger than yourself. Meaning could be a by-product of happiness.”

Telling her story live and uncut, Rachel Schofield, author of  "The Career Change Guide, Five Steps to Finding Your Dream Job" reminds us we are constantly evolving. There is so much of our careers that is down to being in the right place. We're human. Careers are messy things. That's what makes them interesting. Career shifts whether these are big or small are not necessarily monumental. What do I want to do with these precious years on earth? What feels meaningful? What will help me earn money that I need? What will help me feel I've done something useful on this earth? “Where does what I do intersect with my interests. What might that mean for my career?” Rachel proffers a new campaign “Lets campaign for being ordinary and go for micro ambitions. Start with some kind of micro ambition, micro goal, micro idea and take it from there. Discover where your micro steps lead. “

Uplifted under the bonnet is about bringing your authentic self to life and living. This shines a spotlight on human flourishing, the kindness, compassion, hope and empathy. Our stream of consciousness considers, where we are trying to get to in our journey through life. We reflect on what needs we are trying to satisfy. The reality is that most of us are trying to satisfy very simple needs such as living a peaceful life with our families and going about our daily live in a calm, focused, intentional and meaningful manner.

Conflict often arises from unmet needs and expectations. When we enhance our conversational capacity and our compassionate embrace to accept ourselves and others, we can be more focused and better able to handle challenging and difficult situations. Healthy relationships are built through individual and collective efforts.

Taking the time is like slowing down to speed up is the right answer. It is about the legacy we live, lead and leave.

Inspiration can be found in how Stephen Sidebottom tells his story. Finding happiness in the place you are, is the thing that matters the most.

You have a choice, which is what's your next step, and you have a choice of, am I going to be happy, or do I choose not to be? Success recognises where value is created and takes the time to think and to shape. Everything is a question of the steps you take and what you make of it. I've never been someone who has some regrets about things. I quite like nostalgia; I like thinking back about things. I grew up in with a lot of exposure to travel and spending time in other countries, and that gave me a real perspective on different values and the joy of new ideas about how the world could be and how life could be.

Adversity can lead to triumphing in the face of challenges and suffering. Deshauna Barber is doing good in the world from a place of knowing what it's like to serve. She is doing her story, being her story, telling her story. Pretty Ugly Lessons: empowering strategies to transform adversity into triumph by a former Miss USA and Army veteran is a treasure trove. Highlighted is the importance of getting balance in life through strategies for investing our energies and overcoming our fears.

Adversity is hard, painful, challenging and unsettling. Confronting crisis, chaotic situations and developments can be overwhelming. One woman, Juliet Lamin used her personal tragedy to find her purpose and passion. From Knock Down to Comeback is her personal story of the steps she took to come back from the ashes of despair. The road is towards triumph. The journey is by no means an easy one.

On 5th February 2013 Juliet received the most devastating news any mother could receive. She heard that her adorable and gifted Philip had collapsed while playing football. He was rushed to hospital. When Julie Lamin got there, she beheld the lifeless body of her son. Philip who was 16 years old had no previously diagnosed heart conditions died tragically through sudden cardiac arrest (SCA)