TesseTalks

Future-Focus, Well-Being and Resilience focuses on journeys that can keep us well and support our resilience. No two journeys are the same. We also recognise habits, practices, lessons that nurture us and help us flourish, support us to be fruitful and enable us to move from surviving to thriving.

1. We love to capture and share pearls of insight and wisdom. These are aired in our podcast, blogs and guest appearances across the world.

2. We touch on hope as the gift that keeps giving . We explore being future focused as we are shaping our pathway through life and living.

3. We revisit our definition of success especially in the face of adversity. How does pain become part of our life story?

4. Borne out of the Wellbeing and Resilience Leadership initiative, we are taking a pragmatic view of Wellness, Wellbeing and Reliance. Prepare to be thrilled, informed, inspired and motivated by Future Focus wellbeing and resilience.

Tesse Akpeki says " When I prioritise finding joy in what I do, success follows naturally. Creating balance, addressing a tendency towards workaholism, seeking meaning and purpose as I aim for excellence are important features as I flesh out my pathway to wellbeing.

A few years ago I came to the conclusion that I wish to enjoy what I do. Work hard, yes of course, but not at the expense of burning myself out. Exploration, discovery, learning and cooperation feature highly through my lens of what matters. I am ecstatic when the work I do makes a difference to my clients and the organisations I serve."

Leading and governing effectively recognises that "people are an integral factor to ensuring things are done effectively. Board members, staff, and volunteers need to be empowered, trained and equipped to serve. The concept of service needs to be embedded within the infrastructure. Internal audit is an essential part of this pathway. Different systems need to be managed, controlled, and reported upon, on a frequent basis. Where things are not happening as expected, they are investigated, then discussed and corrective action is taken". Morlai Kargbo, an Association of Chartered Certified Accountants (ACCA) award winner, sets the scene for a fascinating conversation.

Lead with two rules philosophy serves as a foundation for building wide support for the social, emotional, learning, and mental health needs of students. Through the years, Brenda Yoho has seen this and has witnessed the transformative impact, prioritising these essential aspects of education while contributing to a positive and nurturing school environment. What can we do to make change? What do we see? What do we want to see? What do we need to see? How do we see?

Brenda's book, "Lead with Two Rules, Feeling Good and Feeling Safe" is a conversational exploration of the origins of the philosophy and offers a detailed account of its practical application.

Celebrating my brother, a sister's tribute is a special place. Lucy Harrison gives so much of herself to other people. When TesseTalks sat with Lucy as she paid a tribute to her brother Peter, we knew we were listening to something really special. Lucy is passionate about bringing awareness to the sibling bond. Understanding how it is when you lose a sibling is so important and it is not talked about much.

"I'm a bereaved sister "says Lucy as she talks about her grief. Peter wanted to live life all the time and have fun. He was so always in the moment. When he was tragically killed, for Lucy it was a trigger for change.

Wild waters are always going to be there. They may not be raging at this precise moment, but the potential for that disturbance and that turbulence is always there. Good Leaders Turbulent Times And How To Navigate Wild Waters At Work, Martin Farrell's book is an enriching and purposeful read, full of good, uplifting stuff, with a good dose of reality.

"Suffering happens, pain happens. We'd better get used to living with the turbulence, which has always been there and is now greater. Leaders need to find ways of dealing with the pain and suffering that comes up." says Martin.

Help can be very humbling. It is hard to admit I need help right here. When I see someone or something that needs help, my first response is to go help. But is that the best thing in the moment, "What kind of help is needed here"? asks Erin Randall as she notes the seismic shifts that emerged for her as she read The Super-Helper Syndrome.

Systems are greater than goals. If your goal is to be a healthy helper, what are the systems that you need to build in order to make that possible? She muses. Helpfully this compassionate guide addresses the question, how can we encourage or constructively challenge or ask others to remain healthy? How can we find ways out of unhealthy patterns of helping?

The Super-Helper Syndrome: A Survival Guide for Compassionate People authored by Jess Baker & Rod Vincent, serves up a rich meal to underpin what healthy helping looks like.

"Do all things with great love. Avoid helping as a from of rescue, there needs to be reciprocity in helping. People who are helped need to have opportunities where they feel like they can be helpful to others as well." shares Erin Randall.

A healthy helper is one that is able to help in the way that they desire and see fit. Help has a mental and physical aspect. As a helper, your self worth does not depend upon helping people. Healthy helpers have boundaries that they hold for themselves that aren't porous and that other people are not able to run over.

They are able to sustain themselves as well as the work that they're trying to do. A crucial question is asking, "what kind of help is needed here"? An essential element is the recognition of space. Saviourism is dangerous. The person being helped needs to be treated with respect and dignity while being encouraged to be independent and enabled to move forward in a manner that is best for them.

Fran Borg-Wheeler describes Heart Centred Leadership as being about connection, compassion, care and harnessing the power of kindness in leadership.

"My vision was for young people to be able to have safe place to live and for them to get the support to be able to flourish in life and create better futures. I was starting to experience some mini strokes. My health was a little bit questionable, but it was very important to me that I didn't leave my role until I'd completed the mission of raising £1 million. It took me four years. The project is up and running now and I know it's making a difference to young people's lives. This is an example of an ambitious goal that I managed to achieve by focusing on a heart centred approach".

So, heart-centred leadership can involve forging connections, showing compassion to others, caring deeply, and leveraging the strength of kindness in leadership.

Excavating Memory, Archaeology and Hope is an invitation by Elizabeth Mosier to listen to the objects speak. The true treasure is not the object at all. Instead, it is the stories the object tells about the people who owned or used it, what the thing tells you about the person and what is of importance to them. Once Elizabeth embraced that concept. It changed everything about the way she viewed objects.