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Is Your Child's Self-Worth Tied to Achievement?
What happens when a child's confidence depends on their performance?
In this episode of That's Good Parenting, Dori Durbin sits down with Dr. Carla Caturia, elite mental performance coach, speaker, and founder of House of Rise, to explore how parents can help children build confidence without tying their worth to grades, sports, or accomplishments.
Dr. Carla works with tweens, teens, young adults, athletes, and families who are navigating perfectionism, anxiety, fear of failure, and the pressure to succeed. Having experienced achievement-driven perfectionism herself, she now helps families break the cycle by developing emotional resilience, healthy self-talk, and lasting confidence.
Together, Dori and Carla discuss how well-meaning parents can unintentionally increase pressure by trying to fix problems too quickly, offering advice instead of listening, or focusing more on outcomes than growth.
One of the biggest takeaways from this conversation is the importance of helping children separate who they are from what they achieve—a shift that can reduce anxiety, build resilience, and help kids enjoy the activities they love again.
In This Episode You'll Learn
- Why high-achieving kids often tie their self-worth to performance
- How parents unintentionally add pressure—even with the best intentions
- Simple phrases that help children feel heard instead of immediately "fixed"
- Why allowing kids to solve age-appropriate problems builds confidence
- How positive self-talk shapes emotional resilience and long-term success
- Practical ways to encourage growth without fueling perfectionism
Whether you're raising an athlete, an honor-roll student, a performer, or simply a child who puts a lot of pressure on themselves, this conversation will give you practical tools to help your child thrive with confidence instead of fear.
About Dr. Carla Caturia
Dr. Carla Caturia is an elite mental performance coach, speaker, and founder of House of Rise. She helps tweens, teens, young adults, athletes, and families build resilience, confidence, emotional intelligence, and healthy relationships without becoming consumed by pressure, anxiety, or achievement.
Through her SHIFT framework, Dr. Carla teaches young people how to regulate emotions, develop empowering habits, strengthen their identity, and build lasting confidence that extends far beyond sports, academics, and performance.
Connect with Dr. Carla Caturia
Website:
https://houseofrise.com
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/houseofrise
Freebie link:
https://www.skool.com/the-mental-edge-7239/about?ref=f15e91fb0ffe46449e709f6885817ea4
About Dori Durbin
Dori Durbin is a children's book illustrator, book coach, and host of the That's Good Parenting podcast.
She helps parents and family-focused professionals transform life-changing ideas into children's books that help kids understand big emotions, build resilience, and strengthen family connection through story.
Through her podcast, books, and coaching, Dori shares simple, practical tools that reduce parenting stress and help families raise confident, emotionally healthy children.
Connect with Dori
Website:
https://www.doridurbin.com
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/dori_durbin
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