The 2nd Half: Your guide to a more fulfilling career (and life).

The world reacts to us: our external experiences are a reflection of our internal state of mind and state of being. Do you want your world to be easy-going, positive, flowing, joyful helpful? Or difficult, negative confronting, frustrating and toxic? You choose, it is really up to us, pick a side.

We only have a limited amount of time and energy. When we are questioning ourselves what is the meaning and the sense of what we are doing? Trying to answer the big life questions at this moment with how much there is going on it is too complex. So let’s try to declutter a bit with one question that can help us get the necessary direction to make a good choice. Especially when we are addressing a new project, our next job, a new client or the work we are currently doing.

Would you embark on a 3 to 5 year romantic relationship after a blind date in which you have only managed to ask one question? Where your date will leave the table and let you know in a couple of weeks if they want you, while you wait? Sounds pretty crazy, however that is what we are doing daily when going into a new job. Work is a relationship like any other and if we would see it as such we might be making better choices.

This week I am reflecting on how we went about #blackouttuesday as an example of how we go about our lives: many words, but little or no action. Change will not be initiated if we react out of pressure or conditioning. And it is no surprise then that our careers and lives feel stuck or stagnant. But it doesn’t need to be that way.

How we speak to ourselves and others has a very powerful effect. Words, thoughts, sounds and intentions have the capacity to affect our molecular structure. We are often using heavy negative words without realizing the impact that it can have on us. If we were more conscious of it, why would we do this to ourselves? Words are energy, it is maybe time to be more mindful of what we are putting into our system.

This episode is about impermanence, about temporary situations, the dark and the light that follows and how to deal with worry, stress and anxiety. I am sharing the story of my longest two nights in New Zealand a few years ago lost in the middle of nowhere with one of the heaviest storms the country has seen in years. Plus one question that I learned from Byron Katie

How to cope with sudden change, our remarkable capacity to adapt to extreme circumstances and the notion of “Doing your best” as a way to manage any situation we are faced with with a positive outcome.

From Spain in lockdown: It is OK if we don’t jump into learning a new skill, it is OK if we don’t do 10 new webinars. There is no need to put more pressure on ourselves, having the feeling that we are not doing enough or that we should do more...How do we move from here and what now? What are 2 good things we can take forward from this situation?

This episode I am covering two real examples of what happens when we have no clear intention: 1. We do things out of compensation for lack of fulfillment in our jobs. 2. We share with the world what we believe we have the license to do it, but it is not what we are truly passionate about. How come we keep on doing this to ourselves? What makes us impose ourselves these limitations? And what is the effect of such choices.

There are 3 words that I believe we all would be better off if we stop using them. After Should, here’s part 2 with an action that can be simple, not easy, but life altering: the removal of the word Need out of our vocabulary. We constantly say we Need something when we actually really don’t. What would actually help us to be more fulfilled would be to take responsibility and address what we want and wish.