Plot twist: the bare minimum became acceptable — and we all just went with it. This episode dives into how we’ve lowered our standards in relationships, work, friendships, dating, and even for ourselves. Why are we celebrating effort that should be expected? When did inconsistency become normal? And how much are we losing by tolerating things we know we deserve better than? Equal parts chaotic and honest, this conversation is about raising the bar, stopping the normalization of mediocrity, and realizing that standards aren’t “too high” just because people refuse to meet them.

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In this episode, Ania and Marisa unpack the reality of gaslighting; the subtle manipulation, confusion, and emotional mind games that can leave people questioning their own feelings, memories, and reality. From relationships to friendships, they discuss how gaslighting shows up, why it’s so damaging, and the moment you realize… maybe you were never crazy after all.

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We dive into “daddy issues” - what the term really means, where it comes from, and how any relationship with a parent (or the absence of one) can shape emotional patterns, attachment styles, and dating behavior. We also explore why being in a constant state of chaos can feel strangely comforting, and how that dynamic has shown up in our relationships.

In this episode, we’re talking about the village—the friends who carried us through heartbreak, chaos, and starting over. From group chats that doubled as therapy to the reality of making new friends in your late 20s/30s, this one’s about why you don’t have to do life (or breakups) alone.

In Episode 3, we give a quick update from last episode and talk about the red flags we completely ignored in our past relationships 🚩. Looking back, the signs were definitely there… we just chose not to see them. From things our friends warned us about to the moments that should’ve been obvious dealbreakers, we break down the warning signs we missed and what we learned from them. If you’ve ever looked back at a relationship and thought “how did I not see that?”, this episode is for you.

We thought we had our lives figured out—careers on track and long-term relationships that felt permanent. Then, out of nowhere, we both got dumped.

In this episode, we’re diving back into dating and everything no one prepares you for. First dates, dating apps, red flags we ignored (and won’t again), and how therapy completely changed the way we see love. Starting over isn’t cute… but it is a story.

We thought we had our lives figured out—careers on track and long-term relationships that felt permanent. Then, out of nowhere, we both got dumped.

In this first episode, we talk about the shock of starting over, the heartbreak no one prepares you for, and what it’s like to lose the future you thought was already set. This is where our story begins.