‘If you mess it up you can clean it up’ 

In this 4-part mini-series about Saboteurs, Emma examines the saboteurs that are stopping you from achieving your goals. 

This podcast reveals how perfectionism manifests itself and the positive actions you can take to let go of it and move towards the life you truly want 

  

  KEY TAKEAWAYS 

Being a perfectionist is about doing it all right or all wrong, there are no grey areas; 

Believing that you can be perfect is a fatal imperfection; 

As a perfectionist, you probably won’t even start many things because perfection is too hard to achieve, and perfectionism only gives you one chance to fail;

It is far more empowering to remember that if you screw it up you can clean it up;

Within a relationship what you think you want is rarely what you actually want and on the journey to finding what you want, you will usually have to kiss a few frogs along the way!

Usually, when you make a judgement about someone that judgement relates to a characteristic you have, in reality, you are making a judgement about yourself; 

If you think everything should be perfect, consider the amount of time you spend before you start something thinking about the worst-case scenario and then examine whether that worst-case scenario did it come true? There is no evidence that it will happen, and it usually doesn’t; 

If as a perfectionist you don’t acknowledge that we all have a light and a dark side then you are pretending that 50% of yourself doesn’t exist and this results in you functioning as half a person (see also episode 5 for more on this!); 

If you don’t start then things can’t go wrong, however, things in life do go wrong and the most important thing is that you get a chance to clean up;

‘If you screw it up you can clean it up’ ;

 

BEST MOMENTS 

‘Want to get rid of all the old junk hanging about inside your body and inside your mind’ 

‘Let go of it and clear the path for you to have the life you truly want and deserve’ 

‘You might have to kiss a few frogs to get there’ 

‘See yourself as less than’ 

‘Acknowledge your dark side’ 

‘We are all human’ 

‘If you are perfect all the time people aren’t going to like you’ 

  

VALUABLE RESOURCES 

www.bodymindandspirithealing.com 

www.amazon.co.uk/Insanely-Gifted-Demons-Creative-Rocket-ebook/dp/B01A5U3D58/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1550137182&sr=8-1&keywords=insanely+gifted    

www.amazon.co.uk/Power-Vulnerability-Teachings-Authenticity-Connection/dp/B00D03UHMK/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1550137265&sr=8-1&keywords=the+power+of+vulnerability+brene+brown 

 

ABOUT THE HOST 

Emma Murphy MIACP, BA (Hons) Psych, PGDip Counselling & Psychotherapy, Certified Disordered Eating Practitioner (NCFED UK), FETAC Trainer, Certified Self-Love Coach and all-round Good Egg. 

Likes old rock music, eating food and being outside in the sunshine. Has a Boxer called Boots and a Jack Russell called Millie, both rescues. Married with a cute but pain in the arse 13 year old daughter.  Either she’ll grow out of it or I’ll therapy it out of her! 

I now train other therapists in my Disordered Eating program – Eating Freely – for Binge Eating, Emotional Eating and Bulimia. If you are interested in learning more about this specific area of my work, visit www.eating-freely.com.    

  

CONTACT METHOD 

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