July 26, 2016

The 6 F's - HIA Framework Part 3

34 minutes

This is part 3 in my series where I'm breaking down the meaning of A.L.L. - Abundant Loving Life, and where I'm sharing my framework for having it all. In the A.L.L. framework, I've chosen to focus on what I think are 6 key areas of life: Faith, Family, Friends, Fitness, Finance, and Fun. Faith: belief in something bigger than you; believing in something you don't understand.

Not talking about religion specifically. You can have FAITH and not consider yourself religious. That's how I feel about myself.

Family: the people in your innermost circle.

Think of the symbol for Target (dot, circle, circle). The dot is family. Circle 1 is inner friends. Circle 2 is outer friends/acquaintances.

Not always blood.

Listen to my convo with Robert Monroe, and he'll shift how you think about family (Robert was orphaned at age 12, but knows he has a large, loving family, including multiple mothers and fathers)

Includes romantic partners as well (spouse, significant other)

Friends: the people who are in your inner circle. Your personal tribe.

There to support you; see the greatness in you.

Tell it like it is; tell the uncomfortable truth.

Have your back; will defend and stand up for you.

However else you define friends.

Fitness: your health.

Is your body in a state of DETOX or INTOX?

Are you treating your body with kindness?

Being mindful of what you put in your body: food, drink, information, environments, people/conversations

Your ability to heal (HEAL is the root of HEALTH)

LIFEstyle versus DIEt

Finance: your ability to generate what you need to live the life you want

Not talking about being wealthy, although that is the goal of many

Are you living within your means?

What is your relationship like to your finances?

For many years, and still to this day, my relationship to my personal finances has been up and down. At times I feel great about my finances, confident, in control, knowledgable, following a plan -- abundant. Other times I feel lost, without a plan, lacking knowledge -- scarce.

Your quality of life improves as your finances improve, to a point. At around $75,000 per year it rounds off, and then more money doesn't mean more peace, happiness or emotional health. It can actually go down.

It's not about how much you make or spend, it's about your relationship to it all.

Fun: your ability to let your inner kid out, laugh, let go, and enjoy life.

This is where I personally thrive!

Fun means different things to different people. YOU define what fun is for you.

Many of us are not regularly making time for fun. It happens only on the weekends, or maybe even only on vacations. Otherwise we're hustling and working and just surviving.

Plenty of studies out there to support the importance of FUN, so I won't get into that.

You can survive without fun, but I argue that you cannot THRIVE without it!

Measurements (Accountability) on the 6 F's Faith - 10 couple meditations/prayers Family - 15-20 family dinners, 10 family playtimes Friends - 4 couple outings Fitness - Regular weekly exercise, join a running group or fitness class. commit to doing a few small fitness things each day. Finance - Enrolilng in Financial Peace and going through the 7 Baby Steps Fun - 1 vacation out of country, 1 vacation in states

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