Having It A.L.L.

By Matthew Bivens

Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations des... more

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July 01, 2025 7 Must Haves For Stellar Relationships (They Are Not What You Think)
Ever find yourself stuck in the same kind of relationship drama—even when you swore it’d be different this time?
In this episode, I’m breaking down seven relationship must-haves that go way deeper than communication skills or love languages. These are the tools I wish someone had handed me years ago—before I got tangled up in relationships that looked good on paper but left me feeling lost, drained, or straight-up stuck.
We’re talking about the internal work most people skip: knowing your mission, owning your values, getting clear on your standards, and having the guts to hold them. Because here’s the truth—if you’re not grounded in who you are and what you stand for, you’ll always be at the mercy of someone else’s wave.
This isn’t theory. I lived it. And it wasn’t until I did the work—with my wife Sarah, and on my own—that I understood what truly fuels a thriving partnership.
Whether you’re in a relationship, healing from one, or gearing up for the next, these seven tools will help you stop defaulting to old patterns and start building something real—something powerful—something that lasts.
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June 25, 2025 Why Self Love Feels Off (Even When You’re Doing All the “Right” Things)
You hit the gym, eat clean, take the solo date—but deep down, something still feels off. Why?
In this episode, I unpack a version of self love you don’t hear about often: the kind rooted in standards. Not surface-level habits or nice-sounding affirmations—but the real, gritty way you build self trust by keeping your word to yourself.
This one came to me mid-walk (literally—I recorded it while heading to the movies solo). I started reflecting on how treating myself to a film was more than just a fun outing... it was a personal standard. And that’s when it hit me: most of us confuse self love with self care, but the real game-changer is honoring the bar you’ve set for your life.
If you’ve ever lowered your standards to stay comfortable, keep the peace, or avoid being alone—this conversation is for you.

STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
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Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659
FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/
WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
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June 13, 2025 STOP Ignoring This Feedback, If You Want Your Life To Change
Are you filtering out the very thing that could break your patterns?
You say you want to grow. You say you’re ready for the next level. But when feedback hits—do you lean in, or get defensive?
In this episode, we break down the three essential types of feedback that shape your evolution. I’m pulling back the curtain on why you're seeing the same results in your life—over and over—and how these feedback loops are your invitation to change, if you’re willing to receive them.
This isn’t about criticism. It’s about awareness, accountability, and growth.
It’s time to check your scoreboard. Let’s go!

STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659

FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint

CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
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40min
June 03, 2025 The "Be-Do-Have" Paradigm And The Simple Mindset Shift That Will Realign Your Life
Ever feel like you're doing all the right things but still not getting what you want?
That’s where the Be-Do-Have paradigm comes in. Most people have it backwards. They think once they have the success, time, love, or clarity—they’ll do the right things and finally be who they want to be.
But that’s not how it works.
If you want lasting results, alignment, and peace that doesn’t crack under pressure—you’ve got to flip the script.
In this episode, I break down the Be-Do-Have framework through a powerful lens—drawing from the book Beyond Body Beyond Mind by Dr. Sukhi Muker.
I walk you through how to live it out, how to spot where you're off, and how to train the habit of BEing in real-time—especially when life feels chaotic.
This isn't theory. It’s the difference between temporary change and transformation that sticks.
Let’s get into it.

STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659

FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint

CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan

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24min
May 28, 2025Stop Drifting—The 5 W’s That Realign Your Life
Are you really living... or just reacting?
In this episode, I’m handing you a tool for deep, no-BS introspection: the 5 W’s of Radical Self Awareness.
This isn’t some surface-level journaling prompt. This is a mirror. A spotlight. A call-out and a call-forward—all in one.
You'll explore:
Who is influencing your thoughts, energy, and identity

What you’re truly committed to (and what you say you're committed to)

When you tend to abandon yourself

Where your environments are either draining or fueling you

Why you haven’t leapt yet—even though you know it’s time
This episode was sparked by an email from a listener, Benjamin Foley. We connected over our shared approach to fear—leaning into it. Not running from it. Benjamin’s article, “Advice On Anxiety No One Tells You”, lit a fire under me, and now I’m passing that torch to you.
You don’t need another checklist. You need a pattern interrupt.
You need to sit with these questions like your life depends on it—because in a way, it does.
Radical self awareness is the first step to radical self leadership. And the only person who can give you that… is you.

STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659
FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/
WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint
CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan
LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS
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CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG
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30min
May 23, 2025The Truth About Balance: Why You’re Out of Alignment (And Don’t Know It)
What if the reason life feels so off... is because your wheels are out of balance?
In this episode, I introduce you to a powerful framework called The Body Vehicle—a tool I learned through the YourDay Balance Game that completely shifted how I understand (and live) life balance.
Here’s the idea:
If your life is a car, you’ve got five essential wheels—Spiritual, Mental, Emotional, Social, and Physical.
When those wheels are under-inflated, over-inflated, or straight up missing... your ride through life gets bumpy.
Uneven.
Chaotic.
This isn't just metaphor—it’s feedback.
And in this episode, I break it all down:
What each of the 5 wheels represents

How to tell when you're out of alignment

Simple ways to get back in balance without adding more to your plate
If you’ve been grinding through life, wondering why it feels so damn hard despite doing “all the right things,” this episode is your mirror.
Time to check your tires.
Let’s smooth out the ride—together.

STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659
FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/
WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint
CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan
LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS
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CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG
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17min
May 21, 2025 8 Habits That Make You Unshakable In Life, Love and Leadership
Are you showing up like the person you say you want to be?
Or are you still stuck in habits that keep you in survival mode—burnt out, resentful, and playing small?
In this episode, I’m joined by my powerhouse wife Sarah—Balance Lifestyle Coach, Personal Trainer, and walking embodiment of what I call a Humble Badass. Together, we break down the 8 habits she uses (and teaches) to help high-performing women reclaim their power without losing their softness.
This isn’t about hustle.
It’s about alignment.
It’s about embodiment.
It’s about walking your talk—in the gym, in your marriage, with your kids, and in your own mirror.
We unpack her Unleash Your Humble Badass framework—a no-fluff process for cultivating self-trust, energetic presence, and a grounded confidence that doesn’t need to prove itself.
These tools aren’t magic.
They’re principles in motion.
You can use them—or not.
But if you’ve been craving a more honest, empowered, and sustainable way to show up in your life... this episode is your invitation.
Let’s go.

STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659
FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/
WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint
CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan
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43min
May 06, 2025"You Have To Move Your Feet": A Story About Seeing The Beauty In All Of Life's Circumstances with Robert Monroe
Today’s guest is a father to three daughters, a husband to a beautiful wife, friend to myself and so many others, and an economist by profession.
His name is Robert Monroe, and if you met him in person, the first thing you’d probably notice is his smile.
He’s got one of those ear to ear smiles that tends to come with a hearty laugh and come from a place of joy.
But behind the smile is a man who has been some incredibly trying times in his life. At a young age Robert was orphaned and learned some brutal lessons about life. But his smile never faded.
I’m incredibly honored to bring you this conversation with Robert, where we talk about life, family, parenthood, and much more.
What you’ll learn in this episode:
A powerful metaphor for viewing your life as a masterpiece

How to create momentum and velocity in your life

An inspiring definition of "family"

STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659
FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/
WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint
CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan
LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS
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1h 18min
May 02, 2025The Personal Development Trap: Why Chasing Growth Might Be Holding You Back
When’s the last time you stopped to actually see your growth?
Not the goal you're chasing. Not the next version of you that you think you should be. I'm talking about a real, honest pause—to look back and say, “Wow, I’ve come a long way.”
In this episode, I unpack a few powerful moments where I caught myself in the act of growth—one with my wife, one with myself—and what it taught me about self-mastery, presence, and how easily we overlook our own evolution.
If you're someone who's been "doing the work," you probably have a high bar. But here's the truth: constantly chasing better without stopping to acknowledge the wins is a fast-track to burnout and self-judgment.
In this episode I talk about:
Why high achievers struggle to recognize their own healing

The cost of skipping acknowledgment

What real growth looks like in relationships and in the mirror

How to build in reflection without losing momentum
This isn’t about staying stuck in the past. It’s about using your progress as proof—you’re not who you used to be. And that matters.

STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659
FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/
WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint
CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan
LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684
CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG
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26min
April 23, 2025The Quiet Habit That’s Killing Your Self Confidence And Self Trust
What if the real reason you’re stuck isn’t a lack of time or willpower—but a lack of trust in yourself?

Every broken promise to yourself chips away at your confidence—and you don’t even realize it’s happening. From missed workouts to late-night scrolling instead of journaling, it’s not about discipline—it’s about self-trust.

In this episode, I break down why the seemingly small commitments you flake on matter more than you think. Because if you can’t count on YOU…who can?

We talk about:
How broken promises create quiet chaos in your life
Why you’re stuck in the same patterns (even though you “know better”)
The ripple effect of self-integrity—and how to raise your personal standard

Plus, I share five battle-tested ways to follow through, even when life throws you curveballs. If you want to lead your life with intention and actually feel good doing it, this one's for you.

STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659

FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint

CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan

LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684

CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG
https://www.matthewbivens.com/

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23min

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