By Matthew Bivens
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We have all been in a situation where another person has challenged a belief that we held.
Big or small, we know what it feels like to be questioned and to then feel like we need to defend our beliefs.
Well, I'm no stranger to this either, and I had an excellent opportunity to experience this very thing during a recent podcast interview!
The episode that you're about to listen to was recorded just minutes after I had my belief challenged on air. I decided that I wanted to capture the moment as it was happening, and share my experience with you.
The original episode where my previously held belief was challenged will be publishing soon (most likely directly after this one), but this episode is about what happened and how I responded.
What you'll hear in this episode:
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Monique Ruffin is a celebration of living. She is one of those people that folks say has “A beautiful soul”.
And I completely understand why.
Monique grew up in the neighborhood of Watts in Los Angeles. Yes, that Watts. It's where Sanford And Sons was set, and was where Denzel Washington and Ethan Hawke duke it out in Training Day.
That neighborhood is not known for many empowering things, but it’s where Monique called home.
Growing up in an area impacted by crack, with parents in and out of jail, many wouldn’t have been surprised if Monique failed to transcend her environment. But she did, and in a big way.
Monique is a mother, writer, creator, coach, radio host and group facilitator. But most of all she’s an example of what it looks like to live with heart, authenticity, courage, vulnerability and realness.
In our conversation, Monique and I talk about her childhood, the lessons she’s learned as a mother, and how we can all grow beyond our circumstances.
What you’ll learn in this episode:
STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659
FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/
WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
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“We are all creators. Whether or not we create is not up to us. We are human, and creating is what we do.” - Michael Gungor
You are a creator! Yes, you. Whether you not you believe it is irrelevant, because like Michael Gungor said, “We are human and creating is what we do.”
In every role we play in life -- parent, spouse, friend, lover, community member, coach -- we create experiences and meaning.
Today’s episode is an exercise in creation. I followed the advice of a friend and fellow podcaster, and recorded this episode with no notes and no script. Every part of this episode was created organically, on the spot.
I did that because I wanted to exercise my muscles of creation, and what resulted was a powerful reflection on creative, the creative process, and tapping into our creative potential.
What you’ll learn in this episode:
STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659
FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/
WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
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At the end of last week's episode I left you with a cliffhanger.
Last week I was talking about FEEDBACK and the power of feedback to ensure you stay on path in life. I introduced the question, "What's the point of being on path if you don't know where the path is leading you to?"
I left you with the promise that the next episode would be about Mission Statements and would feature a special guest.
Well...here we are!
This week I have an incredibly awesome guest with me, live in the studio (first episode with a guest in the flesh with me), and we get down and dirty on everything about Personal Mission Statements.
Most people have heard of Mission Statements within businesses or organizations. But have you ever thought about how a Personal Mission Statement might impact your life?
The difference between a life that's fueled by a clear, intentional mission, and one that is not, can be staggering.
What you'll learn in this episode:
STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659
FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/
WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint
CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan
LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684
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I’m a firm believer that life is always going to throw circumstances your way, especially when you say (or think) you’re ready to handle them.
Circumstances can look like a fender bender, a letter from the IRS, a pet needing to go to the vet, and pretty much whatever other not-sought-after experience that you can think of.
Enter Faydra Koenig, a woman who has been through her fair share of circumstances!
I was inspired to connect with Faydra after watching a personal and candid video on the circumstances that she has experienced in her life.
When we sat down, Faydra was an open book. And having listened to her podcast and spent time on her website, I didn’t expect anything less.
In our conversation Faydra and I talk about circumstances and how to not only survive them, but thrive!
What you’ll learn in this episode:
STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659
FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/
WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint
CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan
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We’ve all been through situations that, at the time, felt never ending.
Time crawls by. Our bodies respond to the tension. Our minds race from present to future to past.
Going through hell feels like going through hell.
But if you’re reading this, if you’re here right now, then that means you made it through hell.You survived!
Because when you walk through hot coals, your feet get tougher and more resilient.
Colleen Crain knows that is like. A traumatic event as a child left her physically impaired fora time, and emotionally shaken.
But she also know, first hand, that rising above circumstances is what we are designed todo.
What you’ll learn in this episode:
STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659
FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/
WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint
CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan
LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684
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What is simultaneously the most significant factor and biggest barrier to becoming your greatest self?
Without this thing, airplanes would not make it to their final destination, corporate managers would have less work to do, and you would reach a ceiling with your potential.
It's something that confronts the ego so directly that many people shy away from it at any cost. Yet, it is a powerful tool for self realization, growth and transformation.
Any ideas yet?!?
What you’ll learn in this episode:
STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659
FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/
WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint
CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan
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This powerful conversation stemmed from a tip a friend gave me, “Matthew, you have got to interview this guy!”
The guy I was being encouraged to speak with was Mike Mills.
Mike is an exceptionally unique guy. He has what I call the Small “s” success and Big “S” Success. Mike is the owner and operator of the Buffalo Outdoor Center, a lodging and outfitting resort sitting on the historic Buffalo River in Ponca, Arkansas.
The Small “s” success is the thriving business that Mike has built over the past 40 years.
The Big “S” Success is the way that Mike describes his experience of life: Heaven.
In this conversation, Mike shares his story of growing up paddling the Buffalo River, learning discipline from his father and the Marines, jumping into entrepreneurship with little money and even less business experience, and growing a world renowned outfitting resort that attracts heads of state, National Geographic photographers, and thousands of nature seekers each year.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659
FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/
WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint
CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan
LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684
CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG
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We are all influencers.
Everyday we influence, without fail, we influence three groups: our Selves, Others and Life.
However, many of us go through life unaware of just how much we influence these groups, and unconscious of the power of influence we really have.
Yet, despite this lack of awareness and intention, we are still wielding this power of influence in many ways, some more responsibly than others.
In today’s episode I share a powerful story of influence and ask you to ponder a question that will change how you look at your ability to influence your Self, Others and Life.
STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659
FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/
WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint
CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan
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Love and Fear.
It's what all decisions in our lives can be boiled down to.
Fear can be one heck of a beast!
We all know because we all can recall times when we let fear overpower our ability to make clear decisions.
I lived much of my life in fear and can vividly remember making choices from a place a fear since early on.
And I also remember the feeling after those choices. The feeling of having to sit with myself knowing that I choose a lesser path.
This past weekend I faced a different kind of fear: the fear of physical death.
I JUMPED out of a plane, and in that choice I connected with so many other choices I had made throughout my life that illuminated the fact that when it boils down to the essence we always have a choice between FEAR and LOVE.
What you'll learn in this episode:
STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659
FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/
WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint
CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan
LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684
CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG
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