Having It A.L.L.

By Matthew Bivens

Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations des... more

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July 31, 2025 The Invisible Weight You’re Carrying Through Your Life
What happens to your body when your thoughts turn on you?
In today’s episode, I walk you through two real-life moments from the gym that illustrate just how powerful your inner dialogue truly is. One man dropped the weight the moment fear crept in. One woman nearly fainted from the emotional weight she carried into her workout. Both were physically capable—but their thoughts hijacked their performance.
Your mindset is a multiplier—or a limiter. And the stress you feel in the gym? It mirrors the stress you’re carrying at work, in your relationships, with your kids, in your own head.
This episode is a challenge to be more mindful of what you’re thinking… because what you think is what you train. And what you train becomes who you are.
STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659
FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/
WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint
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28min
July 23, 2025 The Game You’re Playing Is Working - Even If It’s Wrecking You
What game are you playing so well… it’s keeping you stuck?
If you feel like life isn’t working, pause before you call it failure. You’re winning. You’ve just been unconsciously training for the wrong game.
This episode isn’t here to fluff you up or give you a participation ribbon. It’s here to hold up the mirror and show you exactly where your energy, time, and identity are going—and what it's actually producing.
Because whether it’s the Game of Burnout, the Game of Victimhood, the Game of Playing Small, or the Game of “I Can’t”—you’re clocking W’s every day. You're just not enjoying the spoils.
I’ve played all of those games. I’ve collected those trophies. And I made a new choice.
Tune in if you’re ready to flip the board, shift your scoreboard, and start playing for power, peace, and principle.

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July 15, 2025 The Real Reason Your Breakthrough Keeps Dodging You
We all say we want change—more peace, better health, deeper connection, stronger boundaries. But the results we crave only show up when our effort matches our expectations.
In this episode, I explore the invisible gap between what we say we want and what we’re actually doing to create it. Inspired by those powerful before-and-after transformation stories, I draw the connection between physical weight loss and the emotional, mental, and relational baggage we claim we’re ready to release.
But here’s the truth: losing 100 pounds of emotional weight takes just as much grit, discipline, and full-bodied commitment as dropping 100 pounds of body fat. You can’t shortcut the reps. And you can’t fake the intention.
So the question becomes—are you going all in?
This episode is a mirror. If you’ve been frustrated by stalled progress or unmet expectations, this is your chance to check in honestly, recalibrate, and decide if you’re truly ready to put in what the outcome demands.
Let’s talk about where your walk needs to catch up to your talk—and how to finally align both.
STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659
FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/
WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint
CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan
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CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG
https://www.matthewbivens.com/
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18min
July 08, 2025 The Real Test of Growth: Will You Choose Integrity Over Approval?
What do you do when your values get tested—and the cost of staying true is real?
This episode is about the moments that reveal who you actually are—not who you say you are. Not the version that shows up in your journal, on your vision board, or in your next coaching session. But the version that steps forward when life applies pressure.
Because the truth is, your growth isn’t proven by how many books you’ve read or breakthroughs you’ve had. It’s proven by how you respond when staying in alignment comes with consequences. When your principles aren't popular. When the easy path tempts you with comfort, validation, and old habits.
In this conversation, I share a personal story that challenged me to walk my talk in a deeply uncomfortable way. It involved family, identity, and a decision that didn’t earn me applause—but did bring me closer to integrity.
If you’ve ever felt the pull between being who you’ve always been and becoming who you say you want to be—this one is for you. Especially if you're the one people look to for answers, strength, or leadership. Because the pressure you’re under? That’s not a problem. That’s the invitation.
Let’s talk about what it really means to stand on your principles when no one else is standing with you.

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22min
July 01, 2025 7 Must Haves For Stellar Relationships (They Are Not What You Think)
Ever find yourself stuck in the same kind of relationship drama—even when you swore it’d be different this time?
In this episode, I’m breaking down seven relationship must-haves that go way deeper than communication skills or love languages. These are the tools I wish someone had handed me years ago—before I got tangled up in relationships that looked good on paper but left me feeling lost, drained, or straight-up stuck.
We’re talking about the internal work most people skip: knowing your mission, owning your values, getting clear on your standards, and having the guts to hold them. Because here’s the truth—if you’re not grounded in who you are and what you stand for, you’ll always be at the mercy of someone else’s wave.
This isn’t theory. I lived it. And it wasn’t until I did the work—with my wife Sarah, and on my own—that I understood what truly fuels a thriving partnership.
Whether you’re in a relationship, healing from one, or gearing up for the next, these seven tools will help you stop defaulting to old patterns and start building something real—something powerful—something that lasts.
STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659
FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/
WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint
CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan
LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684
CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG
https://www.matthewbivens.com/
GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW
[email protected]

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30min
June 25, 2025 Why Self Love Feels Off (Even When You’re Doing All the “Right” Things)
You hit the gym, eat clean, take the solo date—but deep down, something still feels off. Why?
In this episode, I unpack a version of self love you don’t hear about often: the kind rooted in standards. Not surface-level habits or nice-sounding affirmations—but the real, gritty way you build self trust by keeping your word to yourself.
This one came to me mid-walk (literally—I recorded it while heading to the movies solo). I started reflecting on how treating myself to a film was more than just a fun outing... it was a personal standard. And that’s when it hit me: most of us confuse self love with self care, but the real game-changer is honoring the bar you’ve set for your life.
If you’ve ever lowered your standards to stay comfortable, keep the peace, or avoid being alone—this conversation is for you.

STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659
FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/
WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint
CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan
LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684
CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG
https://www.matthewbivens.com/
GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW
[email protected]

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13min
June 13, 2025 STOP Ignoring This Feedback, If You Want Your Life To Change
Are you filtering out the very thing that could break your patterns?
You say you want to grow. You say you’re ready for the next level. But when feedback hits—do you lean in, or get defensive?
In this episode, we break down the three essential types of feedback that shape your evolution. I’m pulling back the curtain on why you're seeing the same results in your life—over and over—and how these feedback loops are your invitation to change, if you’re willing to receive them.
This isn’t about criticism. It’s about awareness, accountability, and growth.
It’s time to check your scoreboard. Let’s go!

STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659

FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint

CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan

LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684

CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG
https://www.matthewbivens.com/

GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW
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38min
June 03, 2025 The "Be-Do-Have" Paradigm And The Simple Mindset Shift That Will Realign Your Life
Ever feel like you're doing all the right things but still not getting what you want?
That’s where the Be-Do-Have paradigm comes in. Most people have it backwards. They think once they have the success, time, love, or clarity—they’ll do the right things and finally be who they want to be.
But that’s not how it works.
If you want lasting results, alignment, and peace that doesn’t crack under pressure—you’ve got to flip the script.
In this episode, I break down the Be-Do-Have framework through a powerful lens—drawing from the book Beyond Body Beyond Mind by Dr. Sukhi Muker.
I walk you through how to live it out, how to spot where you're off, and how to train the habit of BEing in real-time—especially when life feels chaotic.
This isn't theory. It’s the difference between temporary change and transformation that sticks.
Let’s get into it.

STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659

FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint

CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan

LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684

CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG
https://www.matthewbivens.com/

GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW
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24min
May 28, 2025Stop Drifting—The 5 W’s That Realign Your Life
Are you really living... or just reacting?
In this episode, I’m handing you a tool for deep, no-BS introspection: the 5 W’s of Radical Self Awareness.
This isn’t some surface-level journaling prompt. This is a mirror. A spotlight. A call-out and a call-forward—all in one.
You'll explore:
Who is influencing your thoughts, energy, and identity

What you’re truly committed to (and what you say you're committed to)

When you tend to abandon yourself

Where your environments are either draining or fueling you

Why you haven’t leapt yet—even though you know it’s time
This episode was sparked by an email from a listener, Benjamin Foley. We connected over our shared approach to fear—leaning into it. Not running from it. Benjamin’s article, “Advice On Anxiety No One Tells You”, lit a fire under me, and now I’m passing that torch to you.
You don’t need another checklist. You need a pattern interrupt.
You need to sit with these questions like your life depends on it—because in a way, it does.
Radical self awareness is the first step to radical self leadership. And the only person who can give you that… is you.

STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659
FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/
WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint
CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan
LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684
CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG
https://www.matthewbivens.com/
GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW
[email protected]

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30min
May 23, 2025The Truth About Balance: Why You’re Out of Alignment (And Don’t Know It)
What if the reason life feels so off... is because your wheels are out of balance?
In this episode, I introduce you to a powerful framework called The Body Vehicle—a tool I learned through the YourDay Balance Game that completely shifted how I understand (and live) life balance.
Here’s the idea:
If your life is a car, you’ve got five essential wheels—Spiritual, Mental, Emotional, Social, and Physical.
When those wheels are under-inflated, over-inflated, or straight up missing... your ride through life gets bumpy.
Uneven.
Chaotic.
This isn't just metaphor—it’s feedback.
And in this episode, I break it all down:
What each of the 5 wheels represents

How to tell when you're out of alignment

Simple ways to get back in balance without adding more to your plate
If you’ve been grinding through life, wondering why it feels so damn hard despite doing “all the right things,” this episode is your mirror.
Time to check your tires.
Let’s smooth out the ride—together.

STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659
FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/
WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint
CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan
LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684
CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG
https://www.matthewbivens.com/
GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW
[email protected]

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