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The ABSOLUTE BEST Way to Show Up with Confidence


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Feeling like you're just going through the motions, even while achieving "success"? πŸšΆβ€β™€οΈ What if there's a more profound way to engage with your work, your relationships, and your life? This isn't just about "authenticity" as another buzzword; it's about how you consciously choose to be present in every moment.

Meet Marcy Axelrod, bestselling author and management consultant, here to explore her transformative model from "How We Choose to Show Up." ✨

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So many of us, especially high-achieving leaders, struggle to show up as our true selves. (A recent study found 95% of female executives face this challenge!) The fear of judgment – whether real or just in our heads – often leads to performative behavior, not genuine presence. This disconnect contributes to a common modern regret: "I wish I'd lived a life truer to who I am." πŸ’” Often, societal "lies" about what constitutes success steer us away from our own authentic path.

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Marcy introduces a simple yet powerful 3-level model of how we show up: Level 1: "Barely There" – Disconnected, disengaged, essentially on autopilot. 😴 Level 3: "Truly Showing Up" – Fully present, deeply connected, thriving. This is where meaning and true success lie. Level 2: "Just Showing Up" – The vast middle ground where many operate, like sleepwalking through life on remote control. Marcy's research suggests 80% of us are here 80% of the time, a major source of later dissatisfaction. 🀯

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Did you know you have two distinct attention systems governing your experience? Your Left Hemisphere: Often task-focused, control-oriented, sees individual pieces. While vital for execution, over-reliance can lead to disconnection and a lack of meaning. βš™οΈ Your Right Hemisphere: Sees the bigger picture, fosters deep connection, empathy, and a sense of integrated meaning. This is the seat of true presence. Actively shifting to your right hemisphere attention system can enhance positive neurochemistry (boosting oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin!) and reduce stress.

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When you "Truly Show Up" (Level 3), you embody three roles simultaneously: Your authentic, individualized self. Deeply connected within the immediate situation and to those you're interacting with. Simultaneously aware of being a member of something larger – your team, family, community, even humanity. While this shift can happen subconsciously, you can learn to consciously choose it. A simple question can be your anchor: "How am I choosing to show up right now?" This alone can shift your entire state of being. ❓

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Our bodies are inherently wired for deep perception and intuition – ancient skills often suppressed in modern life. We can sense others' emotions with remarkable accuracy, even through subtle, non-visual cues like a brief touch (validated by research from UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center). Practice "Truly Showing Up" in daily life: Observe strangers without judgment. Try to feel what they might be feeling, using the "Just Like Me" compassion approach. This practice builds empathy, diminishes your own tendency to judge, and makes you less susceptible to the sting of others' judgments.

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What happens when you're triggered and react with anger or defensiveness? You're often operating from a disconnected, reactive state. The skill here is grounding. Marcy's work details how to recognize these moments, access the choice point, and consciously shift your attention system. Surprisingly, many highly successful individuals don't even realize they have a choice in how they show up until this framework is revealed. It's about moving from automatic reaction to conscious, chosen response.

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The ultimate aim? To live the life you were truly meant to live. By understanding and consciously choosing how you show up in each moment, you forge deeper connections with yourself, with others, and with all your experiences. This isn't just about feeling better; it's about adding profound meaning to your life and work, fostering genuine innovation, and achieving a more holistic form of success. πŸ’ͺ

Now What? ➑️

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Visit the HumanOp Website (https://humanop.com/) to discover tools and frameworks for bringing greater clarity and conscious presence to yourself and your employees.

Explore Marcy Axelrod's transformative work on "Showing Up":

  • Visit her book's website for more on this #1 Bestselling model: https://choosetoshowup.com/ (Her book, "How We Choose to Show Up," offers a deep dive into the research and practical application).

Connect with Marcy:

  • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marcyaxelrod/
  • LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marcy/


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