The Adored Woman- Dating and relationship advice for women

He texts regularly and even tells you he misses you — but the moment you ask what you actually are, he goes quiet. This episode breaks down why emotionally unavailable men keep circling back without ever committing, and why this hot-and-cold pattern is one of the most common ‘bad feeling’ relationship dynamics women fall into without realising it.

In this episode:

• ​The four real reasons he won't commit but won't let you go
• ​Why this isn't about you not being "enough"
• ​The one question to ask instead of "why won't he commit?"
• ​How to set boundaries, stop providing access, and step back for good

Want to know if he's actually capable of showing up? Listen to Episode 16: Is He Emotionally Available? 8 Signs He Is — https://open.spotify.com/episode/0duqOArYVq1v54h0Tfi2nh?si=Q0ESIjMcTWS60kCGKFGVKg&utm_source=copy-link

Get the free training, The Nine Aspects of the Adored Woman: https://naomiethompson.com/home#freetraining

Ready to stop attracting hot-and-cold men for good? Book your free session with Naomie: https://calendly.com/naomiethompsoncoaching/free-session

Is It My Intuition, Or My Fear Of Intimacy? How To Tell — with Raj Lehl Holistic nervous system specialist. The nervous system, dating anxiety, and how to tell intuition from fear

Ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same kind of relationship, even when you swore you'd do it differently? Or why your body feels on edge the moment things get closer — even when your head knows better?

In this episode, relationship coach for women Naomie Thompson is joined by holistic nervous system specialist Raj Lehl to explore the real, physical side of love. So much of what we chalk up to bad luck in dating, or "just being anxious," is actually your nervous system trying to protect you — based on things your body hasn't let go of yet.

If your head and heart are saying yes but something in you says absolutely not, this episode is for you.

We cover:

• How stored trauma shows up in dating — cancelling dates, scanning for red flags, pulling away when it deepens

• Why self-aware women still repeat the patterns they understand cognitively

• How to tell the difference between intuition and fear of intimacy

• Exercising your right to say no — and walk away — without explaining it to anyone, including yourself

• Why we're drawn to the wrong man because his unavailability feels familiar

• The airport story: how Raj moved through a big trigger without taking it out on her partner

• Congruent communication, and how it creates a sanctuary relationship in moments

• Two tools for hard conversations — walking side by side, and staying in physical contact

• Why calm is contagious, and how we mirror each other's nervous systems

• Knowing yourself as the real meaning of being an adored woman

Raj shares some free resources, including a panic attack recovery guide and a meditation — links below.

Work With Naomie:

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Contact Raj:

Website: https://rajlehl.com/

Raj's Insta: https://www.instagram.com/rajlehlhealing/

⁠Free Panic attack/ Anxiety Recovery Guide ⁠

Am I in a situationship? If you're unsure then this episode is for you.

You're seeing someone. It's been months — maybe even years. And you still couldn't say what you actually are to each other, because neither of you has ever had the conversation.

Relationship coach for women Naomie Thompson explains what a situationship is, how it differs from a committed relationship, why they've become so normalised, and the six signs to look for. Then, more importantly, what to do next — whether you're in one now or want to guard yourself from drifting into one.

Because a situationship is not a natural stage of the relationship process. And it's costing you time, energy, emotions — and maybe even your baby making years.

Whether you're dating in your 40s, dating after divorce, or stuck in something that's never moved forward, this episode will help you see where you really stand — and give you the words to find out.

We cover:

• What a situationship actually is, and how it's different from a committed relationship
• Why situationships have become normalised — and why they're not a stage you have to go through
• Six signs you're in one, including the mixed signals most women explain away
• Who's avoiding the honest conversation — and why
• Why oxytocin bonds you to a man regardless of whether he's right for you
• Why his silence dysregulates you — and why that's your nervous system, not neediness
• The relief when he comes back, and why it isn't the sign of love it feels like
• Being unbothered vs pretending to be unbothered — and why the cool girl act is just another audition
• Why the relationship you want is the prize, not the man — and how to become the star of your own show
• The leaky boat: why a lovely man who isn't ready can't get you to your destination
• How to have the conversation from your feelings rather than an interrogation
• Watching his actions over weeks, letting him earn your commitment, and knowing when it's time to go

Mentioned in this episode: Hearing His No — how to hear what a man is telling you even when he doesn't say the word. https://open.spotify.com/episode/2pnddSeyXgFSObPZcWiKke?si=4de34af10d4045e3

Naomie is currently taking 1:1 coaching clients. Book your free session with her now.

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What To Do If He Says He Doesn't Love You Anymore Why "I don't love you anymore" isn't always the end — and how to respond with strength

Hearing the words "I don't think I love you anymore" from a long-term partner or spouse can be utterly devastating. But those words don't always mean what you think they mean — and they don't necessarily mean the end of your relationship.

In this episode, relationship coach for women Naomie Thompson offers a different, more emotionally mature way to respond when a partner says they've fallen out of love. One that takes the pressure off, protects your dignity, and gives your partner the space to discover what they're really feeling.

Because sometimes, when someone says they've fallen out of love with you, it’s possible what they've actually fallen out of love with is their own life. They feel lost and low, and they're projecting it onto the person closest to them — you.

Naomie shares the exact words you might use, why giving space works when grabbing on doesn't, and how this painful experience can become a powerful opportunity to grow your inner strength, self-love and self-respect.

****IMPORTANT!: this episode is about fundamentally good, long-term relationships going through a low. If your relationship is abusive, hostile, or unfaithful, the priority is your safety and wellbeing — Respect and kindness from a partner are always non-negotiable as a bare minimum in any relationship.*****

We cover:

• Why feelings of love naturally fluctuate in every long-term relationship

• What your partner might really be saying when they say they don't love you anymore

• How projection works — and why it might not be about you at all

• The instinctive reaction most of us have — and why it usually backfires

• A template for what to say instead, with strength and grace

• Why taking the pressure off gives your relationship the best chance

• How to let go of attachment to the outcome while still living fully

• Why respect and kindness are the non-negotiable minimum, always

• How to grow the kind of inner strength that means you'll be okay no matter what

Work with Naomie:

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What To Do When He Pulls Away. How to handle it when a man goes distant in dating — and what his behaviour is really telling you

That sinking feeling when a man who's been coming on strong suddenly goes quiet — it's one of the most destabilising experiences in dating. And the instinct to reach out, to chase, to do something about it is completely natural.

But it's usually making things worse.

In this episode, relationship coach for women Naomie Thompson shares what's really happening when a man pulls away in early dating, the three most common reasons it happens, and what to do instead — including the counterintuitive move that actually works.

Drawing on her own experience of chasing a man who kept disappearing — and the link she eventually traced back to her relationship with her father — Naomie also shares a beautiful client story about a man who went quiet for a whole weekend, and what was really going on. Because there's a world of difference between a man who's processing something and a man who's simply hot and cold.

Whether you're dating after divorce, navigating online dating in your 40s, or trying to break unhealthy relationship patterns — this episode will help you understand what his behaviour is really telling you and how to respond in a way that actually serves you.

We cover:

• The three most common reasons a man pulls away in dating — and how to tell them apart
• Why avoidant men are often drawn to you when your guard is up — and pull back when you open up
• Why we unconsciously choose partners with the same tolerance for intimacy
• The chasing traps that feel like love but push him further away
• Why men fall in love through what they give being received
• What to do instead of chasing — and how to redirect an overthinking mind
• What his disappearing act is really telling you about who he is
• Why the right man won't risk losing you — and what that actually feels like

Work with Naomie:

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I Am A Recovering Needy Girl How to overcome neediness in relationships and finally feel secure in love

Do you constantly seek reassurance in relationships?

Feel anxious when he doesn't reply?

Find yourself doing too much, giving too much, and still never feeling quite secure enough? There's nothing wrong with you — and this episode will show you why.

Relationship coach for women Naomie Thompson opens up about her own experience of neediness and deep sensitivity — and shares the three things that genuinely shifted it. Not just theory.....real tools from a woman who's lived it.

Whether you're dating in your 40s, struggling with anxious attachment, or simply tired of feeling like you're too much — this episode will change how you see yourself and what's actually been going on.

We cover:

• What neediness really is — and why it's not a flaw but a sign

• Why sometimes the feelings you're having are actually a sign you're with the wrong person

• How unmet needs from childhood show up in your adult relationships

• The rejection detective — and how to put down the magnifying glass

• Why a man can never fully quench the thirst of your unmet needs — and who can

• Three ways to finally feel more secure in life and love

• The mirror practice that changed everything — and started attracting verbally affectionate men almost immediately

• How to become your own cheerleader so you stop pushing love away and start letting it in

• Why doing this work means you'll naturally stop being attracted to emotionally unavailable men — you'll just get bored of them

Work with Naomie:

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Is He Emotionally Available? 8 Signs He Is How to tell if the man you're dating is genuinely ready for a real relationship

Dating in your 40s and struggling to tell the difference between genuine connection and old patterns repeating themselves? This episode will change how you see every man you date from here on.

Relationship coach for women Naomie Thompson shares eight clear, practical signs that the man you're getting to know is genuinely emotionally available and relationship ready — not just exciting in the way that has always left you feeling anxious and let down.

Because here's the truth: instant chemistry is not a reliable indicator of compatibility. But you know you're on to a good thing when compatibility leads and chemistry grows.

Whether you're dating after divorce, navigating online dating in your 40s, or trying to break patterns with emotionally unavailable men once and for all — this episode gives you the tools to be discerning, trust yourself, and choose better.

You'll learn the 8 signs Plus — practical advice on online dating, making the first move on Bumble, and why the video call is non-negotiable.

Work with Naomie:

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She Just Wanted To Get Past Date 3 A real conversation with a former client who went from stuck to married

Dating in your 40s and wondering if it's really going to happen for you? This episode is your answer.

Relationship coach for women Naomie Thompson sits down with her former client Anne McHale, a Master of Wine and online business owner, who came to coaching in 2018 with one simple goal — to get past date 3.

She'd been stuck in the same cycle for two and a half years. She knew all the theory. She was going on dates. Nothing was working. Then everything changed — and she's now happily married.

This is the honest, practical, hopeful conversation about what it actually takes to break unhealthy relationship patterns and go from stuck to the relationship you always wanted — told by a woman who lived it.

Whether you're frustrated after years of online dating, wondering why knowing all the theory isn't enough, or simply need someone to tell you it's possible — Anne's story will give you exactly what you need to keep going.

We cover:

• Why group programmes and courses alone weren't enough — and what one-to-one coaching gave her that nothing else could

• The practical dating system that made two to three dates a week completely manageable

• Why setting standards for where and how you meet isn't entitled — it's essential

• How a man's response to a simple request tells you everything about who he is

• The mindset shift that kept her going through hundreds of first dates

• What her life looks like now — and why attracting healthy relationships changed everything

Work with Naomie:

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Connect with Anne McHale:📸 Instagram: @annemchalewine — wine lifestyle content and behind the scenes

If you've ever felt confused about why a man goes quiet, pulls back, or seems to disconnect after a conversation — this episode will finally give you the answer.

Relationship coach for women Naomie Thompson breaks down one of the most transformative skills in dating and relationships: feminine communication.

This isn't surface-level dating advice. This is the deep, permanent shift that changes how men respond to you — in dating, and in relationships.

Drawing on her own experience of moving from armoured, masculine-energy communication to the vulnerability that transformed her relationships, Naomie explains exactly why the way most women communicate is unintentionally pushing men away — and precisely what to do instead.

Whether you're dating in your 40s, trying to create deeper emotional intimacy with a partner, or simply tired of feeling unheard and disconnected in your relationships, this episode gives you a simple, practical tool you can start using today.

We cover:

• Why masculine energy communication kills emotional intimacy — even when it comes from love

• The difference between emotions and drama — and why men respond so differently to each

• How emotionally unavailable patterns show up in the way we communicate

• Why advising, blaming and criticising creates a cycle of withdrawal and resentment

• How feminine communication builds the kind of emotional connection that inspires a man to pursue, cherish and commit

• The three-step tool — find it, name it, speak it — for women ready to break unhealthy relationship patterns and attract healthy relationships built on real intimacy

• Why speaking without strategy is the secret to making this work

Work with Naomie:

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Break your old relationship Patterns and let your midlife era be your Adored era!

If you are dating in your 40s and wondering whether love is still possible for you — this episode is your answer.

In this episode, relationship coach for women Naomie Thompson appears as a guest on Tamra's podcast Straight From the Source's Mouth, where they have one of the most honest, practical and hopeful conversations about dating after 40 you'll hear anywhere.

Naomie speaks from personal experience — she was dating in her 40s after her own divorce, navigating the same hopeless feelings, the same old insecurities, and the same pull towards the same kind of unavailable man. She found her way through. And in this episode she shows you how.

This is for the woman who is tired of the pattern, done with the wrong men, and ready to understand what's actually been going on — so she can finally change it.

We cover:

• Why we unconsciously choose partners who match our tolerance for intimacy — and how to raise it
• Why the chemistry you're chasing is often just your nervous system recognising an old pattern
• How to stop looking for your "type" and start looking for how you want to feel
• The four-column desire exercise — a powerful tool for getting clear on what you actually want
• How to approach first dates without pressure, hope spirals or disappointment crashes
• Why you should let chemistry grow rather than chasing the instant spark
• The envy flip — a simple mindset tool to turn hopelessness into evidence that love is possible

Work with Naomie:

📞 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a free session with Naomie ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠→ https://calendly.com/naomiethompsoncoaching/free-session

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This episode originally aired on Tamra's podcast:🎙️ Straight From the Source's Mouth — frank talk about sex and dating