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In this episode, we’re discussing the current state of online dating with my special guest Keziah Nduri. Keziah is a law graduate, model and content creator from London whose Twitter thread about how her seemingly unsuccessful voyage through the rough waters of Hinge gained a lot of attention.

VIEW THREAD HERE: https://twitter.com/nd0uri/status/1421878391624642563?s=20

TIMESTAMPS

(04:10) - QUICK FIRE QUESTIONS

(15:19) - Keziah’s Hinge experience

(21:00) - Ethnicity preferences

(30:13) - Why the “jungle” is such a wild place

(39:12) - Have dating apps enhanced or ruined dating?

(47:30) - Dating during lockdown

(52:46) - Pros and Cons of Online Dating

(58:00) - WE’RE CELEBRATING & THAT’S MAD

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In this episode, I am joined by my close friend, Dele who like me is a Black man currently in therapy.

We discuss the different forms of therapy, what made us both start, the process of finding a therapist, what it's taught us, attachment styles and much more. We also answer the questions submitted by the Adzvice community on Instagram, introduce two new segments and share a lot of laughs along the way.

TIMESTAMPS


(07:10) - THIS OR THAT?

(10:30) - What prompted our therapy journeys

(25:06) - Is therapy expensive?

(28:02) - Lessons learnt from therapy

(34:00) - Transactional analysis and attachment styles

(44:28) - Answering your questions

(53:25) - Adzvice for those considering therapy

(56:15) - IS IT JUST ME? / THAT'S MAD!

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FURTHER READING/INFO

Useful article explaining attachment styles: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/attachment-theory-and-the-4-attachment-styles

After my recent hiatus, which I explain on the pod, I am finally back and discussing the 'Ask for ANI' domestic abuse codeword scheme that stands for Action Needed Immediately. Joining me for this week is Patricia Wharton who is a presenter and someone with extensive experience in domestic abuse awareness.

I also explain the bittersweetness that is supporting England as a non-white person as well talk about 'The Serpent', my pick of the week.

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Check out 'The Lets Talk' show by Patricia: https://www.instagram.com/theletstalkshowuk/

In this episode like no other, an emotional Bonita explains why she had to make a very tough decision regarding her future involvement with the podcast.

The guys also discuss the increased violence between Israel and Palestine, talk about the impact of shit managers and share six pieces of advice regarding money that they wish they knew sooner.

TIMESTAMPS

(18:39) - THAT'S MAD: The violence between Israel and Palestine and what we can do to support

(36:43) - WE'RE CELEBRATING: The launch of Freepour

(43:18) - The effects of having a shit manager and stories from the community

(56:16) - 6 things we wish we knew about money sooner

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RESOURCE for writing to your local MP regarding the situation in Palestine: https://palestinecampaign.eaction.online/parliamentannexation

Ade and Bonita discuss the topic of oversharing in this week’s episode. Why do we do it? What are the implications? Is it ever beneficial? and more. First up in the conversation, is a quick chat about therapy.

TIMESTAMPS


(11:43) - THAT’S MAD: India’s Covid Crisis and the ‘new norm’

(18:40) - WE’RE CELEBRATING: Black and brown-led collectives doing amazing things

(34:01) - MAIN DISCUSSION: Oversharing,

(42:40) - How Gen Z differs from Millennials when it comes to oversharing

(51:00) - Negative vs positive oversharing and who determines it?

(59:55) - FLOWERS: Bonita’s colleague Freddie and PICKS OF THE WEEK: Line of Duty (BBC) and Invincible (Amazon Prime).

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"Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery that mediocrity can pay to greatness". The second part of this famous Oscar Wilde quote is conveniently left out of the conversation when we speak about imitation but it's not the only thing left undiscussed. What happens when that imitation forces you out of your job, affects your finances and impacts your mental health?

Ade and Bonita are joined by Daniel Oduntan, an interdisciplinary media artist to discuss this very topic and why he took to social media to create a 5-day gallery exposing his former employer, the V&A Museum, for ripping off and erasing the ideas of he and other black creatives.

TIMESTAMPS

(11:24)- THAT'S MAD: The son of an ex-couple in the middle of the UK's largest divorce case has been ordered to pay his mum $100m.

(18:50)- WE'RE CELEBRATING: Black British excellence in TV and Film.

(22:31) - Discussing the serious revelations about Noel Clarke's behaviour.

(26:01) - MAIN DISCUSSION with Daniel Oduntan and why and how he challenged the V&A.

(50:33) - Why creative plagiarism needs to be discussed.

(54:09) - Advice for others to manage and prevent creative plagiarism.

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When we talk about violent crimes within the community we don’t often discuss the hurt and trauma it causes the families of the victim even years after the incident. Ade and Bonita tackle this important topic with the assistance of this week’s guest, Rachel Duncan.

Rachel Duncan is a mother, school governor, active leader in her community, and an ex Metropolitan Police Officer. Also, Rachel is the aunt of James Bascoe-Smith, a 17-year-old teenager who was tragically stabbed multiple times in an unprovoked attack in Brixton on February 23 2021.

TIMESTAMPS

(02:50) - THAT'S MAD: Deepfake AI technology used during a zoom call with European MPs

(06:17) - WE'RE CELEBRATING: The guilty verdict of Derek Chauvin over the murder of George Floyd

(17:07) - Reflecting on Stephen Lawrence Day

(25:03) - Bonita’s lived experience and the story of James Bascoe-Smith’s unprovoked stabbing

(32:13) - How do we safeguard young kids and make real change against violent crime

(43:38) - Should drill music be banned?

(53:00) - How violent crime affects the people closest to the victim

(62:52) - Flowers for Ade and Bonita’s CEO

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Our generation talks about moving out and gaining independence a lot but one thing not discussed enough is the realities of adulting once you've finally left the nest.

Ade and Bonita each share three lessons that they've learnt since moving out as well as a discussion about Ramadan, £10 sofas and Addzvice's 5th year anniversary and they also share this week's flowers and picks of the week.

TIMESTAMPS

(09:43) - THAT'S MAD: ASDA’s £10 sofas and similar brand blunders including one company that cost itself £48m settling lawsuits.

(24:18) - WE'RE CELEBRATING: 5 Years of Adzvice and the lessons learned over the years.

(38:50) - MAIN DISCUSSION: Personal accounts of moving out.

(49:02) - Tips on cohabiting, saving, watch-outs, renting, mindset changes, furnishing your home and more.

(68:15) - Summary of the 6 things we wish we knew sooner.

(70:38) - FLOWERS: Bonita’s Colleagues and PICK OF THE WEEK: Undone (Amazon Prime Video).

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Alex Holmes, award-winning podcaster, emotional resilience coach and writer joins Ade and Bonita to talk about his debut book, 'Time To Talk'.

Alex describes his book as a love letter to all the men who have lost their way and to the women that love them.

TIMESTAMPS

(07:48) - THAT'S MAD: People turning grief into an opportunity for clout

(15:43) - WE'RE CELEBRATING: NHS England to launch mental health hubs for expectant and bereaved mums

(19:32) - MAIN DISCUSSION: Alex Holmes' 'Time to Talk' book.

(26:47) - How a serious accusation online drove Alex to delete his Twitter

(41:25) - Inspiration for the book

(50:50) - Has mental health become a buzzword?

(60:00) - Therapy barriers for black men

(67:00) - Do you need a black therapist as a black person?

(78:17) - Why Women need to invest in Men’s Mental Health too

(82:01) - PICKS OF THE WEEK: Seaspiracy (Netflix) and Uncoded Bias (Netflix)

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TW: Not ones to shy away from an uncomfortable topic, Ade and Bonita discuss self-harm.

To help navigate the conversation is special guest, Janet - a student mental health nurse, blogger and writer who has been featured in BBC Three, HuffPost, Black Ballad & more. Janet has also publicly discussed her journey to overcoming self-harm and shares advice for others in similar a position.

TIMESTAMPS

(06:43) THAT'S MAD: Britain isn't institutionally racist according to a recent report from Number 10.

(29:22) WE'RE CELEBRATING: Students and staff of Pimlico Academy for protesting against the school's discriminatory new uniform policies.

(34:04) MAIN DISCUSSION: Self-Harm (Trigger Warning).

(41:29) What sparked Janet's self-harm and how her family reacted.

(49:47) Seeking help and helping others.

(72:12) - Helpful list of self-harm services to check out

(73:13) - PICKS OF THE WEEK: Industry (BBC iPlayer) and Invincible (Amazon Prime Video)

JANET'S BLOG: https://www.lifeonplanetja.net/

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