The Aggressive Life with Brian Tome

What if the idea of finding your soulmate is actually keeping you from finding a great marriage? Brian Tome has been married to his wife, Libby, for 38 years, and he's convinced of one thing: soulmates don't exist.

In this episode of BT's Minority Position, Brian challenges the popular belief that there's one perfect person out there for everyone. He explains why great marriages are built, not found, why being the right person matters more than finding the right person, and what an ancient Bible story reveals about choosing a spouse.

Plus, Brian tackles a lightning round of other unpopular opinions, including when it's acceptable to start listening to Christmas music, whether reclining your airplane seat is rude, and if sleeping in an RV actually counts as camping.

If you're single, dating, or married, this conversation might change the way you think about love, commitment, and what makes a relationship last.

“God will never give you more than you can handle.” It's one of the most common things Christians say to encourage someone going through a hard time. But is it actually true? What does the Bible say? Brian thinks we've got it all wrong.

In this episode, Brian challenges this popular Christian belief and explains what the Bible really says about pain, suffering, and God's promises. Drawing from Scripture, his own recent struggles, and a grueling experience in the Alaskan wilderness, Brian makes the case that God absolutely allows us to face more than we can handle. But that doesn't mean He abandons us.

What if the point isn't that you're strong enough to handle everything life throws at you, but that you were never meant to handle it alone?

What are you waiting for?

Brian Tome spent two weeks deep in the Alaskan wilderness with his son Jake and two of his closest friends, chasing a lifelong dream of hunting moose. What followed was an adventure filled with grizzly bears, brutal weather, questionable decisions, plenty of bourbon, and a moment between father and son that Brian will never forget.

Joined by his friends Log and 512, Brian relives the highs and lows of the trip, including the moment he realized his son could physically do something he no longer could.

But this episode is about more than hunting. Inspired by the book Die With Zero, Brian challenges you to rethink how you're spending your time and money, stop postponing meaningful experiences, and make memories with the people who matter most.

Because someday you won't be able to do the things you can do today. The question is: What are you going to do about it?

What scares Brian Tome? What has he changed his mind about? And what does he really think about getting older?

In the first episode of Ask BT Anything, Brian answers questions submitted by listeners, with no preparation and no idea what's coming. He gets personal about his biggest fears, what he's learning in this new season of life, his changing beliefs about the Holy Spirit, and what his kids have taught him about himself.

He also tackles how to know when God is speaking, whether you can forgive someone without restoring the relationship, and a few completely unexpected questions along the way. Plus, a surprise call to his wife Libby for an update on how she's doing.

It's honest, funny, personal, and a little unpredictable. Exactly what happens when you can ask BT anything.

Drew Lynch built the career most comedians dream about. Millions of followers. Sold-out shows. A successful stand-up career that grew out of the very injury that nearly ended his dream of performing.

But eventually, none of it felt like enough.

Drew joins Brian Tome for a surprisingly deep conversation about the traumatic brain injury that caused his stutter, turning adversity into a career, the relentless pressure to perform, wrestling with control, and rediscovering his relationship with God.

They talk about what happens when your identity gets tied to achievement, why success can't tell you what you're worth, and what it looks like to stop trying to control everything and surrender what's next.

Funny, vulnerable, and much deeper than you might expect.

How do you know what God wants you to do with your life? We spend a lot of time looking for signs, waiting for clarity, and worrying that one wrong decision could take us outside of God’s plan.

But what if God’s will isn’t nearly as hidden as we’ve made it?

In this episode, Brian looks at what the Bible actually says about finding God’s will, making big decisions, and moving forward when you don’t have a clear answer. Maybe you don’t need God to show you the next ten years. Maybe you just need to do the next right thing.

Why do men need other men—and why is it so hard for guys to build real friendships?

Rory Lawrence and Matt Fortin join Brian Tome to talk about what happens when men stop trying to do life alone. They unpack the friendships they built through Man Camp, why men need people who will challenge them instead of just agreeing with them, and how doing hard things together creates relationships that actually last.

The conversation gets into isolation, brotherhood, faith, becoming stronger husbands and fathers, and why training alongside other men can change the direction of your life.

If you’ve ever felt like you have plenty of people around you but very few real friends, this episode is for you.

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Matt Chandler is coming to Man Camp.

He and Brian Tome talk about why men need something like Man Camp, what Matt’s looking forward to when he gets there, and why being around other men and tackling challenge matters.

They also get into life, faith, friendship, hard seasons, and a whole lot more.

Matt will be at Man Camp 2026, a three-day Christian men’s event in the woods in Ohio this October. You can sign up at http://www.mancamp.us

What do you do when you get it wrong? When people get hurt or when the easy way our is to defend yourself and move on?

Brian has spent the last six months wrestling with those questions. In this episode of The Aggressive Life podcast, he talks candidly about what’s been happening, what he’s had to own, and what it looks like to actually repent and change direction. Sometimes the best way forward is the hard way forward.

Watch the full episode on YouTube here.

To watch Brian's May '26 sermon referenced in this episode, click here.

The average age of retirement is 64, while the average age of death isn’t till 82. What are you going to do with your 18 years? No matter how old you are, the answer to the question starts today. Most men work to reach retirement without a goal of how to spend it—leaving the majority of them lonely, depressed and without purpose. That’s not Dale Tesmond. A former CEO and corporate storyteller, Dale spent his working years helping brands develop their stories. The lessons he learned then have turned his retirement years into the most fulfilling of his life. Whether you’re just starting your career, or you can see the light at the end of the tunnel, the choices you make today will determine whether you thrive, or flounder, in your retirement years. Time to make some aggressive moves. 

Connect with Dale at his podcast, The ReDirect Podcast, here.

Watch the full episode on YouTube here.