The Life Shift

The Anger She Keeps: Finding Home After Abuse & Trauma | Alyse Maslonik


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In this episode, Alyse Maslonik shares her story of surviving domestic abuse and sexual assault during her childhood. She talks about the constant state of fight or flight that she lived in and how it affected her personal development. Alyse also discusses her upcoming book, "The Anger She Keeps: A True Story of Rage and Redemption," which explores the theme of holding onto anger as a way of healing.


"I get if no one wants to believe me, but I wouldn't feel right or if I would just not try one more time and then someone else becomes a victim. So that is why I told my mom. But it's interesting. There was so much turmoil in my life, even when I told my mom, it was not a turning point."


Alyse challenges the societal notion that anger is a negative emotion that must be suppressed, especially for women and victims of trauma. She shares her experience of how harnessing her anger helped her find healing and move forward. Her healing journey was not linear, however, and she had to overcome obstacles such as her mother's initial disbelief in her accusations of abuse, which led to a decade-long estrangement between them.


Despite these challenges, Alyse could understand her mother's perspective and extend grace to her. She also had to relearn the concept of love through her husband's actions, which were different from what she had experienced in the past.


Key Takeaways:

  • Trauma can have a lasting impact on a person's life and development, and it's essential to recognize and address this impact to heal.
  • Anger can be a powerful and useful emotion when harnessed properly rather than suppressed.
  • Love can take many different forms, and it's important to recognize and appreciate how people show love through their actions.


  • Alyse's journey from a difficult childhood to success in the corporate world led her to found RedefinED Advisors LLC, a strategic development partner for non-public and private schools. Through the Triumph Over Tragedy Scholarship Award, Alyse continues her lifelong mission of helping underprivileged children achieve their full potential by providing additional scholarships to students who have demonstrated resilience in the face of adversity.


    Visit http://www.redefiningeducation.org/ to learn more about RedefinED Advisors LLC and the Triumph Over Tragedy Scholarship Award.


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    Trauma healing, Personal growth, Finding hope after trauma, Breaking cycles of abuse


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