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The Art of Fighting Fair
Welcome to the very first episode of Spoken For, a podcast about love, relationships, and the beautiful (sometimes messy) reality of long-term commitment. I’m your host, Sydney, and I’m so glad you’re here.
If you’ve ever found yourself in the middle of a kitchen spat about the dishwasher, glaring across the sofa at your partner, or arguing over holiday plans, you’re not alone. Every couple fights. The real question isn’t whether you fight, but how.
In this debut episode, we’re unpacking The Art of Fighting Fair - why conflict doesn’t have to corrode your love, and how, done right, it can actually bring you closer.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- Why every couple fights (and why that’s actually a good thing).
- The difference between corrosive conflict and constructive conflict.
- How to spot the real issues beneath surface arguments (spoiler: it’s usually about respect, care, or control).
- Practical ground rules to keep your fights safe and fair.
- How to prevent pointless arguments before they start.
- Simple repair strategies that strengthen intimacy after conflict.
Real Talk Moments:
- The recurring “landmines” that show up in long-term relationships, including my own.
- Why bickering is like mold - and how to stop it before it spreads.
- The fight over cushions at 11:30pm that taught me everything about arguing with love.
Episode Resources & Mentions:
- Esther Perel - relationship therapist and writer on intimacy and conflict.
- The Gottman Institute - research-backed insights on marriage and communication.
- Jefferson Fisher - lawyer turned communication coach with practical advice for tough conversations.
Key Takeaway:
Fighting does not mean your relationship is broken. What matters is how you fight. When you argue with respect, protect your partner’s dignity, and prioritize repair, conflict can become a doorway to deeper connection.
Let’s Stay Connected:
Got a relationship dilemma or a question you’d love me to cover in a future episode? Send me an email at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you (all questions kept anonymous).
Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/altarandtoast
Email → [email protected]
Wedding vows & speeches → www.altarandtoast.co.uk
Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):
https://uppbeat.io/t/walz/ryan
New episodes every Thursday. Hit follow so you don’t miss a thing!
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By Sydney ShannahanWelcome to the very first episode of Spoken For, a podcast about love, relationships, and the beautiful (sometimes messy) reality of long-term commitment. I’m your host, Sydney, and I’m so glad you’re here.
If you’ve ever found yourself in the middle of a kitchen spat about the dishwasher, glaring across the sofa at your partner, or arguing over holiday plans, you’re not alone. Every couple fights. The real question isn’t whether you fight, but how.
In this debut episode, we’re unpacking The Art of Fighting Fair - why conflict doesn’t have to corrode your love, and how, done right, it can actually bring you closer.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- Why every couple fights (and why that’s actually a good thing).
- The difference between corrosive conflict and constructive conflict.
- How to spot the real issues beneath surface arguments (spoiler: it’s usually about respect, care, or control).
- Practical ground rules to keep your fights safe and fair.
- How to prevent pointless arguments before they start.
- Simple repair strategies that strengthen intimacy after conflict.
Real Talk Moments:
- The recurring “landmines” that show up in long-term relationships, including my own.
- Why bickering is like mold - and how to stop it before it spreads.
- The fight over cushions at 11:30pm that taught me everything about arguing with love.
Episode Resources & Mentions:
- Esther Perel - relationship therapist and writer on intimacy and conflict.
- The Gottman Institute - research-backed insights on marriage and communication.
- Jefferson Fisher - lawyer turned communication coach with practical advice for tough conversations.
Key Takeaway:
Fighting does not mean your relationship is broken. What matters is how you fight. When you argue with respect, protect your partner’s dignity, and prioritize repair, conflict can become a doorway to deeper connection.
Let’s Stay Connected:
Got a relationship dilemma or a question you’d love me to cover in a future episode? Send me an email at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you (all questions kept anonymous).
Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/altarandtoast
Email → [email protected]
Wedding vows & speeches → www.altarandtoast.co.uk
Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):
https://uppbeat.io/t/walz/ryan
New episodes every Thursday. Hit follow so you don’t miss a thing!