In this two-part conversation, hosts and sexperts explore one of the most universal and challenging topics in long-term relationships: how to maintain and cultivate desire over time. They dive into the realities couples face—including dwindling libido, caregiving responsibilities, stress, aging, myths about spontaneity, and mismatched values. The discussion reframes boredom as a potential catalyst for creativity and emphasizes the importance of adaptability, curiosity, and playfulness in intimacy. Practical tools like novelty, role play, chore play, card decks, sexcations, massages, and erotic teasing are highlighted as accessible ways to rekindle connection. They also stress the need for empathy, communication, and redefining what sex and intimacy look like as we grow and change. Ultimately, sustaining desire is about cultivating a garden—requiring effort, curiosity, and joy—to keep intimacy alive and rewarding throughout life’s seasons.

Show Notes:

• Book: Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
• Netflix series: How to Build a Sex Room
• Yes/No/Maybe Guide (resource for couples to explore desires)
• Couple’s Card Decks: Hedonism and Debauchery & Our Sex Game

Bluetooth-controlled sex toys:  

• We-Vibe Bond: Wearable Stimulation Ring
• Lovense Max 2: Male Masturbator w/ remote app
•  Lovense Hush 2 Bluetooth Vibrating Butt Plug
•  Lovense Ferri: Vibrating Panties 
•  Zalo Aya: 2 Ways Wearable Vibrating Panties
• . Lovense Lush 4: Remote G-Spot Vibrator
•  Satisfyer Pro 2: Remote Air Clit Stimulator 
•  Lovense Gemini: Nipple Clamps
•  Lovense Nora: Remote Rabbit Vibrator
•  Lovense Max Male Masturbator