Part 2 of this insightful conversation about the often-overlooked power of touch in relationships. Centered around Barry McCarthy’s “five gears of touch” model and the Touch Continuum. The group explores how intentional touch builds emotional connection, bridges intimacy, and opens clearer communication between partners. They highlight how modern couple life often bypasses the rich middle gears (sensual/playful), jumping from affectionate directly to intercourse, and discuss how this affects long-term sexual vitality, consent, cultural norms, aging, and even self-touch rituals. Listeners are encouraged to notice their own “gear usage”, speak about preferences, and reintegrate meaningful touch into their lives beyond the screen era.

• “Five Gears of Touch” by Barry McCarthy
• “The Role of Touch in Couple’s Sexuality” – overview of touch as foundational beyond intercourse. 
• Enhancing Couple Sexuality by McCarthy– for deeper explanation of the gears.
• “Exploring the Five Dimensions of Touch” – applying gears in real-world relationships. 

This is Part 1 of a 2 episode series of a warm, insightful conversation about the often-overlooked power of touch in relationships. Centered around Barry McCarthy’s “five gears of touch” model and the Touch Continuum. The group explores how intentional touch builds emotional connection, bridges intimacy, and opens clearer communication between partners. They highlight how modern couple life often bypasses the rich middle gears (sensual/playful), jumping from affectionate directly to intercourse, and discuss how this affects long-term sexual vitality, consent, cultural norms, aging, and even self-touch rituals. Listeners are encouraged to notice their own “gear usage”, speak about preferences, and reintegrate meaningful touch into their lives beyond the screen era.

• “Five Gears of Touch” by Barry McCarthy
• “The Role of Touch in Couple’s Sexuality” – overview of touch as foundational beyond intercourse. 
• Enhancing Couple Sexuality by McCarthy– for deeper explanation of the gears.
• “Exploring the Five Dimensions of Touch” – applying gears in real-world relationships. 

In this powerful and deeply personal episode, we explore the complex, often silent world of sexual trauma. They open with a candid look into their own healing journey — from surviving childhood trauma to becoming a certified sex coach and advocate for survivors — before the group unpacks the different forms of sexual trauma, including “big T” and “little t” experiences, and how they manifest in the body and relationships. Together, they discuss stages of trauma recovery, the importance of trauma-informed care, and how creativity, breathwork, and body connection can be tools for reclaiming pleasure and empowerment. This heartfelt conversation reminds listeners that healing is not linear, survivors are not alone, and post-traumatic growth is possible through compassion, community, and the courage to feel again.

Show Notes:

• RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) — 24/7 confidential support hotline and resources for survivors of sexual violence.
• International Creativity for healing trauma
• The Body Remembers by Babette Rothschild — A guide to understanding trauma and the body’s memory.
• The Courage to Heal by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis — A workbook for women survivors of sexual abuse.
• Trauma and Recovery by Judith Herman — Foundational text outlining the three stages of trauma recovery.
• Take Back the Night — Nonprofit supporting survivors of sexual violence through awareness and community action.
• Somatic Experiencing® by Peter Levine — Body-based approach for releasing trauma stored in the nervous system.
• Succulent Wild Woman by SARK (Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy) — Inspirational healing and creativity resource for survivors.
• Find a Pelvic Floor Therapist Near You — Directory of licensed pelvic floor physical therapists.

In this powerful and deeply personal episode, we explore the complex, often silent world of sexual trauma. They open with a candid look into their own healing journey — from surviving childhood trauma to becoming a certified sex coach and advocate for survivors — before the group unpacks the different forms of sexual trauma, including “big T” and “little t” experiences, and how they manifest in the body and relationships. Together, they discuss stages of trauma recovery, the importance of trauma-informed care, and how creativity, breathwork, and body connection can be tools for reclaiming pleasure and empowerment. This heartfelt conversation reminds listeners that healing is not linear, survivors are not alone, and post-traumatic growth is possible through compassion, community, and the courage to feel again.

Show Notes:

• RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) — 24/7 confidential support hotline and resources for survivors of sexual violence.
• International Creativity for healing trauma
• The Body Remembers by Babette Rothschild — A guide to understanding trauma and the body’s memory.
• The Courage to Heal by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis — A workbook for women survivors of sexual abuse.
• Trauma and Recovery by Judith Herman — Foundational text outlining the three stages of trauma recovery.
• Take Back the Night — Nonprofit supporting survivors of sexual violence through awareness and community action.
• Somatic Experiencing® by Peter Levine — Body-based approach for releasing trauma stored in the nervous system.
• Succulent Wild Woman by SARK (Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy) — Inspirational healing and creativity resource for survivors.
• Find a Pelvic Floor Therapist Near You — Directory of licensed pelvic floor physical therapists.

In this vibrant episode, we dive into the playful intersection of sex and exercise — or “sexercise.” Together they explore how movement enhances sensual awareness, body confidence, and connection, touching on everything from coregasms and pelvic health to aging, embodiment, and pleasure as a lifelong practice. With humor and honesty, the conversation reframes fitness as more than physical strength — it’s about awakening desire, celebrating your body, and cultivating deeper intimacy with yourself and others.

Show Notes:

• Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy — For pain, orgasm difficulties, and pelvic health
• Orgasmic Yoga 
• Forest Bathing 
• Jane Fonda / Olivia Newton-John / Jamie Lee Curtis fitness icons — Cultural examples of sexualized exercise in this movie
• National Institute of Health (NIH) study linking aerobic exercise to improved sexual function and reduced erectile dysfunction

In this essential episode, we dive into sexual accessibility for differently abled bodies—because everyone deserves access to pleasure, intimacy, and fulfilling sexual experiences regardless of ability. Join us as we break down harmful myths, discuss practical modifications that make sex more accessible, and share valuable resources that support disabled individuals in their sexual journeys.

Urge.org (or Urge.com.org) - Provides education, materials, advocacy, and community support for people with disabilities exploring their sexuality

SRHM.org (Sexuality and Reproductive Health Matters) - Education and advocacy resource

Dr. Patti Britton's book on hosting your own SAR (Sexual Attitude Reassessment)

Silc Arts: Pleasure within reach

In this two-part conversation, hosts and sexperts explore one of the most universal and challenging topics in long-term relationships: how to maintain and cultivate desire over time. They dive into the realities couples face—including dwindling libido, caregiving responsibilities, stress, aging, myths about spontaneity, and mismatched values. The discussion reframes boredom as a potential catalyst for creativity and emphasizes the importance of adaptability, curiosity, and playfulness in intimacy. Practical tools like novelty, role play, chore play, card decks, sexcations, massages, and erotic teasing are highlighted as accessible ways to rekindle connection. They also stress the need for empathy, communication, and redefining what sex and intimacy look like as we grow and change. Ultimately, sustaining desire is about cultivating a garden—requiring effort, curiosity, and joy—to keep intimacy alive and rewarding throughout life’s seasons.

Show Notes:

• Book: Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
• Netflix series: How to Build a Sex Room
• Yes/No/Maybe Guide (resource for couples to explore desires)
• Couple’s Card Decks: Hedonism and Debauchery & Our Sex Game

Bluetooth-controlled sex toys:  

• We-Vibe Bond: Wearable Stimulation Ring
• Lovense Max 2: Male Masturbator w/ remote app
•  Lovense Hush 2 Bluetooth Vibrating Butt Plug
•  Lovense Ferri: Vibrating Panties 
•  Zalo Aya: 2 Ways Wearable Vibrating Panties
• . Lovense Lush 4: Remote G-Spot Vibrator
•  Satisfyer Pro 2: Remote Air Clit Stimulator 
•  Lovense Gemini: Nipple Clamps
•  Lovense Nora: Remote Rabbit Vibrator
•  Lovense Max Male Masturbator

In this two-part conversation, hosts and sexperts explore one of the most universal and challenging topics in long-term relationships: how to maintain and cultivate desire over time. They dive into the realities couples face—including dwindling libido, caregiving responsibilities, stress, aging, myths about spontaneity, and mismatched values. The discussion reframes boredom as a potential catalyst for creativity and emphasizes the importance of adaptability, curiosity, and playfulness in intimacy. Practical tools like novelty, role play, chore play, card decks, sexcations, massages, and erotic teasing are highlighted as accessible ways to rekindle connection. They also stress the need for empathy, communication, and redefining what sex and intimacy look like as we grow and change. Ultimately, sustaining desire is about cultivating a garden—requiring effort, curiosity, and joy—to keep intimacy alive and rewarding throughout life’s seasons.

Show Notes:

• Book: Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
• Netflix series: How to Build a Sex Room
• Yes/No/Maybe Guide (resource for couples to explore desires)
• Couple’s Card Decks: Hedonism and Debauchery & Our Sex Game

Bluetooth-controlled sex toys:  

• We-Vibe Bond: Wearable Stimulation Ring
• Lovense Max 2: Male Masturbator w/ remote app
•  Lovense Hush 2 Bluetooth Vibrating Butt Plug
•  Lovense Ferri: Vibrating Panties 
•  Zalo Aya: 2 Ways Wearable Vibrating Panties
• . Lovense Lush 4: Remote G-Spot Vibrator
•  Satisfyer Pro 2: Remote Air Clit Stimulator 
•  Lovense Gemini: Nipple Clamps
•  Lovense Nora: Remote Rabbit Vibrator
•  Lovense Max Male Masturbator

In this enlightening episode, the hosts dive deep into the wonderful world of orgasms, debunking the myth that they're "one size fits all" and celebrating the incredible variety of orgasmic experiences available. From the commonly known clitoral and vaginal orgasms to the lesser-discussed cervical, anal, energetic, and even "coregasms" from exercise, the panel explores how pleasure extends far beyond what we've traditionally been taught. They tackle common shame and misconceptions, emphasizing that all orgasms should be celebrated equally while offering practical advice for exploration including pleasure mapping, mirror work, and understanding the neurological connections that make transcendent, full-body orgasmic experiences possible.

Show Notes:

• "Hysterical Literature" videos (women reading while using magic wand)
• Betty Dodson's educational videos on real women having orgasms
• Magic Wand Vibrator
• Dipsea App (for audio erotica)
• Research on paralyzed woman experiencing orgasms
• Pleasure mapping techniques
• Five dimensions of touch
• Mirror work

In this episode, the host explores the fascinating intersection of sex and cannabis, discussing how this plant can enhance connection, increase sensation, and support deeper intimacy. Dr. Norelyn, as a certified cannabis health coach and sex coach, shares personal experiences and insights into mindful cannabis use, emphasizing the importance of understanding the endocannabinoid system. The conversation addresses common myths, ingestion methods, and potential risks, while offering practical guidance on how to incorporate cannabis into sexual wellness practices. The episode concludes with a discussion on the VIBEs method, a holistic approach to combining cannabis and sex.

Show Notes:

• If you or someone you know is interested in learning more about Cannabis for sexual wellness you can reach out to Dr. Norelyn here.