In this enlightening second part of a two-part series, host and trained Tantrik Dominique explores the true nature of tantra - far beyond the common misconceptions that reduce it to sexual practices. Dominique, drawing from her training with teacher Sama Zadora, explains what tantra actually means and represents and how this practice relates and is used in sexual practice. The hosts discuss different types of tantra and practices including breathwork, body awareness, and sacred connection.

Show Notes

• Urban Tantra by Barbara Carrellas

In this enlightening first part of a two-part series, host and trained Tantrik Dominique explores the true nature of tantra - far beyond the common misconceptions that reduce it to sexual practices. Dominique, drawing from her training with teacher Sama Zadora, explains what tantra actually means and represents and how this practice relates and is used in sexual practice. The hosts discuss different types of tantra and practices including breathwork, body awareness, and sacred connection.

Show Notes

• Urban Tantra by Barbara Carrellas

In this episode, Dr. Norelyn and her fellow sex coaches & therapist explore the complex relationship between alcohol and sexual intimacy, challenging the normalized use of alcohol as a "social lubricant" in romantic connections. Discussing how couples often rely on alcohol to transition from their busy daily lives into intimate moments, but reveals the hidden negative effects this dependency can have on sexual health and performance. The hosts examine the difference between using alcohol as a ritual versus a crutch, explore the physiological impacts on both male and female bodies, and offer practical alternatives like adaptogens, breathwork, mindfulness practices, and cannabis microdosing. They emphasize the importance of intentional intimacy and discuss strategies for couples who feel "stuck in their heads" during sober sex, ultimately promoting a more conscious approach to sexual connection.

Adaptogens: Natural substances (plants/herbs) that help the body adapt to stress and restore balance (i.e.):

• Ashwagandha: Calming adaptogen for cortisol regulation
• Rhodiola: Uplifting herb that helps with fatigue and focus
• Reishi Mushrooms: Available in powdered supplements or mixed with ceremonial cacao
• Ceremonial Cacao: Often combined with mushrooms for grounding effects

Our Sex Game: A sensual game recommended for couples to reduce performance anxiety

Sex Coach, Nicole and her powerhouse panel of sexperts dive headfirst into the often-misunderstood world of lube. With humor, science, and serious sex-positive vibes, they break down everything from osmolality and pH balance to the difference between vaginal moisturizers, lube, and vulva balms. Whether you’re lube-curious, facing dryness, or navigating shame and misinformation, this episode gives you the confidence and knowledge to find the right glide for your body. Plus, you’ll walk away knowing how to spot harmful ingredients, test for sensitivities, and even repurpose lube for your hair or massage. Trust us—this is one episode you don’t want to slip past.

Show Notes:

Recommended Lube Brands & Products:

• Good Clean Love (Water-based)
• Maude (Water-based with aloe)
• Uberlube (Silicone-based)
• YES Brand (Water-based, oil-based, and vaginal moisturizers): 
• Pjur (Various formulas including sensitive and medical-grade): 
• Lube Dispenser: for hands-free reapplication—this one even warms the lube!
• Ingredients to avoid: glycerin, propylene glycol, parabens, petrochemicals & artificial scents

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What’s on the bookshelf of a certified sex coach or therapist? Well, this episode spills the tea (or coffee) on the books that shape how these professionals talk about desire, relationships, bodies, and pleasure. Whether you're looking to better understand your own desires, explore tantra, spice up your relationship, or just be reminded you're not broken — there's a title here for you.

Have a book we should know about? A title that changed your relationship to your body, sex, or partnership? Drop us a message or email at [email protected]

Show Notes:

Shelf Pleasure Picks

• Come As You Are - by Emily Nagoski
• The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work – by John Gottman
• Eight Dates – by John & Julie Gottman
• Urban Tantra – by Barbara Carrellas
• The Art of Sexual Ecstasy – by Margo Anand
• The Ethical Slut – by Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy
• Women of the Light: The New Sacred Prostitute – by Kenneth Ray Stubbs
• Women Who Run With the Wolves – by Clarissa Pinkola Estés
• Acupressure for Lovers – by Michael Reed Gach
• The Multi-Orgasmic Man – by Mantak Chia & Douglas Abrams
• Contemporary Male Sexuality – by Barry & Emily McCarthy

In this heartfelt and illuminating Pride Month episode, Dominique Peters and her guests dive deep into the often misunderstood and invisibilized experience of being bisexual. They unpack the evolving language around bisexuality, the difference between bi, pan, and omni-attractions, and the myths of not being “bi enough.” With compassion and wisdom, the conversation explores the intersections of identity, spirituality, shame, allyship, and joy—reminding listeners that bisexuality is not about who you're with but who you are. Whether you're bi, questioning, or an ally, this episode offers insight, validation, and a call to embrace expansive, authentic sexuality without apology.

Show Notes:

• Klein Sexual Orientation Grid
• Kinsey Scale Overview

In this playful and insightful Part 2 Series, Dr. Norelyn and her colleagues dive into the diverse world of play parties—from cozy cuddle gatherings to steamy sex-positive soirées. They break down the spectrum, including “second base parties” for those curious but not quite ready for the deep end. With a focus on consent, communication, and curiosity, they explore how these events can spark connection, fuel fantasies, and add some extra sizzle to relationships—all while respecting everyone's unique comfort zones.

BDSM Checklist

Sex & Play Party Checklist

In this playful and insightful episode, Dr. Norelyn and her colleagues dive into the diverse world of play parties—from cozy cuddle gatherings to steamy sex-positive soirées. They break down the spectrum, including “second base parties” for those curious but not quite ready for the deep end. With a focus on consent, communication, and curiosity, they explore how these events can spark connection, fuel fantasies, and add some extra sizzle to relationships—all while respecting everyone's unique comfort zones.

BDSM Checklist

Sex & Play Party Checklist

Dedicated to mothers, this warm and insightful conversation led by sex coach Dian Handayani, focuses on reclaiming intimacy and sexual pleasure after motherhood. Normalizing the challenges of postpartum desire, they emphasize that it's entirely natural to not feel ready for sex right away and highlight the immense physical, emotional, and hormonal changes new mothers face. The discussion touches on practical and emotional barriers for mothers—from short maternity leaves and anxiety to lack of privacy and being "touched out." The group offers empowering suggestions like chore play, sensory mindfulness, reframing pleasure, scheduling intimacy, and creating a sensual environment. The overarching message: go slow, prioritize yourself, invite partner support, and give yourself permission to rediscover your body and pleasure, without guilt or pressure.

Show Notes:

• Book – Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
• Audio Erotic App: Dipsea
• More on Chore-play
• The Five Dimensions of Touch

In this episode, they dive into a real-life case study involving a couple facing mismatched libidos and communication breakdowns in their sexual relationship. Sharing the story of “Steve” and “Michaela” (names changed for confidentiality), a married couple navigating neurodiversity, sensory sensitivities, and a desire to rekindle intimacy while trying to conceive. They explore strategies to help the couple better understand their individual and shared erotic needs. They also emphasize the importance of personal pleasure practices, communication around needs, and how broader relationship dynamics affect intimacy. The conversation wraps up with tips and insights on how to choose a qualified sex coach or therapist.

Show Notes & Resources:

• Dual Control Model referenced from 'Come As You Are' by Emily Nagoski
• Five Love Languages
• Erotic Blueprint Quiz
• Sex Coach U – Global Certification Program
• World Association for Sexual Health (WAS)
• Submit Your Anonymous Case Study or Questions