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The Availability Illusion: Why We Miss the Ones Who Never Chose Us


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They were never fully in.
They never really showed up.
But somehow, they’re the one you can’t forget.

Why do we obsess over people who never truly chose us?

In Episode 15, we unpack the psychological trap of the availability illusion—how our brains can idealise emotionally unavailable partners and turn their absence into fantasy.

We explore:

  • The neuroscience of obsession and memory bias

  • How inconsistent affection hooks your nervous system

  • The role of ego and unfinished emotional business

  • How fantasy bonds keep you stuck

  • What it takes to break free and heal for good

This is your wake-up call to stop grieving what never was, and start choosing what actually chooses you.

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