There are two kinds of wanting: one that makes you miserable and one that brings you peace. Here’s the difference.

This paradox feels like a flaw:

Alan Watts even called it a law.

The more that you chase

Your joy, love, or grace

The more that it seems to withdraw.

* the difference between wanting and expecting

* the difference between expectation and attachment

* the difference between attachment and entitlement

* the difference between “desperately wanting” and “feeling moved to”

* The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, by Mark Manson

* When there’s something you can’t stand about yourself and you keep trying to change, but failing

* It’s okay to not be happy all the time

* See also “The lollipop” chapter in our book, The Usual Error

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