The Dervish and the Mermaid

Podcasting five years, it’s been swell!

But now we are saying farewell.

Let’s talk about why

We’re saying goodbye

With many more stories to tell.

A last parting gift, our ten jewels,

Ten easy-to-memorize tools

For living intentionally

And unconventionally:

They’re what we call our House Rules.

Pace & Kyeli’s House Rules

* Resilience, Not Perfection

* How About Now?

* It’s Always OK to Ask; It’s Always OK to Say No

* Always Mumble

* Never Hurry

* Never Wait

* Just Keep Crying

* Grown-Ass Women

* Assume Love

* You Are Not Alone

* Don’t Be Creepy in the Bathroom

* WCML 004 – Living in an Instagrammed world

* WCML 068: Wild Crazy Meaningful Death, with Caitlin Doughty

* WCML 107: What Kelly learned from living with us for a year (and vice versa)

* Direct vs. subtle communication (aka ask culture vs. guess culture, low context vs. high context communication)

* WCML 070: Wild Crazy Meaningful Day Job

* We are selling our RV and moving to Portland. Here’s why.

* “Be a tube, not a bucket”

* WCML 051: Love Like You Don’t Share a Bathroom with Patty Newbold, assumelove.com

* Why I hate compassion

Thanks for listening to The Dervish and the Mermaid! If you miss us, you can find every episode we’ve ever recorded at PaceSmith.com.

That’s also where you can download my free ebook, Find Your Path Now. It’ll help you stop living on autopilot and start living a wholehearted, intentional life.

Kyeli helps Pace deal with her attachment to other people being moved by her creation.

Before my creation is hatched,

I’m already hella attached.

If nobody cares

To sample my wares,

My plan might as well stay unhatched.

* bitching vs. venting

* game jams

* Compass Rose

* September Safari

* Games

* The Usual Error

* Time & Again

* internal motivation vs. external motivation

* “How do I want to feel while working on this?”

* “How do I want to feel once I’ve released this into the world and nobody gives a shit?”

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This applies to any fandom that strongly relates to its characters. Spoiler warning for Undertale.

To choose a new topic at random,

Consider the Undertale fandom.

Some say they’re the best,

Some say they’re obsessed,

But we want to just understand ’em.

* What is Undertale?

* What is a fandom?

* Immersion, empathy, and fourth-wall-breaking in Undertale

* Ryukahr playing Undertale

* Is it important to respect the gender of fictional characters? Yes.

* Gendered Tetris

* SJWs

* The 2 reasons Undertale fans are perceived as annoying by outsiders

* Potterheads

* Steven Universe fans

* Coca-Cola fans

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Why is our culture obsessed with believing in some dogma and sticking to it 100% obsessively? Why doesn’t 99% count for partial credit?

Another fine myth to debunk:

100 percent or you flunk.

Eat one bite of meat

And you’re now obsolete,

99 percent’s basically junk.

* allergic to chocolate

* If you’re a Quaker, you don’t have to serve in the military. But if you “just” think it’s wrong to kill people, oh well, here’s your gun. “does not include essentially political, sociological, or philosophical views, or a merely personal moral code.”

* “I can’t go up or down steps”

* If everyone ate 50% less meat, that would be just as good for the planet as if 50% of people became vegetarian. But this all-or-nothing mentality discourages people from even trying.

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You live, and you do, and you age.

Why not go explore the backstage?

What makes people tick?

Is this safe to lick?

Don’t go through the motions, engage!

* game like a designer

* observe without judgement

* ask why

* Myers-Briggs S vs. N

* everyday philosopher

* “I don’t know for sure, but here are my thoughts”

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When you’re watching a kitten be cute

But your camera’s not all set to shoot

By the time that you’re ready

The cat has already

Moved on, and so you follow suit.

So unless one is very astute

It is hard to get proof absolute

Of a cute little cat.

So why does just that

Doom weird shit into disrepute?

* Radical Wholeness, with Philip Shepherd

* pseudoskepticism

* physics envy: wanting softer sciences to be more like physics

* Kyeli’s 7th grade science story: “You stayed open and curious!”

* Persimmon Village

* Staying open and curious, and modeling it for others

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Is it out of the question or sinful

To live lives that are just uneventful?

Can the phoenix be plucked,

Or are we simply fucked?

Can we just be at peace and contentful?

* “I don’t deserve happiness”

* comfort is outside my comfort zone

* a pattern of moving after trauma happens, moving to escape the pain

* shame around that

* Phoenix addiction

* motion vs. progress

* The Divine two-by-four

* Pace’s spiritual philosophy: “shit happens”

* The answer: Can we settle down and live lives that are comfortable and stop growing? No. If we stop growing, we will become unhappy. But can we settle down and live lives that are comfortable, and keep growing? Yes. Yes we can.

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Philosophical geekery. No quantum mechanics.

Liquids flow always downhill.

Physics prohibits free will.

But with complex machines

Like computers or genes,

There might be some wiggle room still…

* the dice-rolling machine

* “Any sufficiently complex system is indistinguishable from randomness.” -Paul Lagasse

* The Sims

* the butterfly effect

* the meaning of life

* How would you live your life differently if you knew your “free will” was fake?

* Heisenbugs

* software as ecosystem

* programmer becomes trainer, minder, friend, lover

* AI

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We each have a certain number of spoons each day, some more than others. If your spoons are limited, you’ll have to learn how to manage them, and how to deal with people who don’t understand.

Plundering hoards of doubloons,

Gallivanting in saloons,

Using willpower,

Heck, taking a shower:

These things can exhaust all your spoons.

Curling up in warm cocoons,

SGDQ afternoons,

Taking it slow,

Or just saying no:

These things can conserve precious spoons.

* what is a spoon?

* spoon denial

* invisible spoonometer

* stair blindness

* Spoonie Killjoy

* “No one likes a spoonie”

* you are not alone

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If there’s one thing we’d love to destroy,

One missile we yearn to deploy,

Its target would be

Not the patriarchy,

But the very emotion of joy.

* anti-joy vs. anti-cruelty

* Logical Fallacy #1: The Slippery Slope

* Logical Fallacy #2: The Scarecrow

* killing our own joy

* Hating the patriarchy does not mean hating men

* shoutouts to Ryukahr

* “Be critical of the media you love” -Anita Sarkeesian

* Errant Signal

* Tropes Vs. Women in Video Games

* Innuendo Studios

Thanks for listening to The Dervish and the Mermaid! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your friends to PaceSmith.com.

That’s also where you can download my free ebook, Find Your Path Now. It’ll help you stop living on autopilot and start living a wholehearted, intentional life.