Episode 45 with Ginny Poleman

Swipe left or swipe right?  We’re talking divorce and dating.  And if you haven’t been in the scene since the 1980s, quite a lot has changed.

Dating certainly isn’t exclusive to the under-thirty crowd. Writer and over fifty influencer Ginny Poleman joins The Balance Dilemma to answer all of our and your questions. From telling the kids about the divorce to writing a dating profile to catfishing and more, Ginny reveals the reality of mid-life sex in the city - dating apps and all. You can read many of her adventures in dating at betterafter50.com. And if you're looking to learn more about New York City itself, Ginny is the go-to guide. Check out NycEncounters. 

Episode originally aired live on WVOX-AM on October 13,  2022. For show notes, go to thebalancedilemma.com

Imagine having one of your toughest marital conversations as part of a groundbreaking documentary. Well, guest Emily A. Hay did just that and she shares that experience and the aftermath on The Balance Dilemma.

Not only did Emily use Eve Rodsky’s (TBD Ep 34) Fair Play methodology, but she and her husband are featured in the new Fair Play Documentary.  She describes how it is working and why she believes in work life integration, rather than work life balance.

Episode originally aired live on WVOX-AM on September 29,  2022. For show notes, go to thebalancedilemma.com

This mother, writer, professor of law, and director of the Criminal Juvenile Justice and Racial Justice Clinics at the University of San Francisco School of Law chats with TBD about her new book, Ambitious Like a Mother: Why Prioritizing Your Career is Good for Your Kids.

Lara is a writer of fiction and nonfiction who has published op-eds in the New York Times and The Washington Post and is a contributing writer for Slate with her ongoing series on criminal justice and modern family life. She is also the author of Rectify: The Power of Restorative Justice After Wrongful Conviction.

So how the heck does she juggle it all?  Lara will share her stories on career setbacks, overcoming the stigma of a divorce, and the power of passion for your work. In her words, it’s a “messy imbalance.”

But, she says, it doesn’t work for two parents to have equally demanding high power careers at the same time. Rather, she advises what she calls a “seesaw” marriage.  And most importantly, she says to have these discussions before you decide to have children.

Episode originally aired live on WVOX-AM on July 21,  2022. For show notes, go to thebalancedilemma.com.

When they said, "You can take the girl off the farm but you can't take the farm out of the girl…” they forgot to mention, it takes a businesswoman to run the farm! Adrienne Evatt left behind the big city/corporate rat race but not the knowledge she learned from her twenty-year career. Hear how Adrienne went from urban to rural to live a healthier, happier, and sustainable life with her family, running Urban Dreamer Farm and Vineyard, a family run farm stand, and baked goods business and how she coaches others to achieve their reinvention goals with her Recipe for Life on-line coaching. Among other things, Adrienne talks about the importance of dream durability: "being so set on your goal or you dream that you're not willing to let people knock you off your course."

And, for croissant lovers, Adrienne taught herself to make those fabulous pastries, and sadly confirms what we all suspected: "Croissants have a lot of butter. They have 81 layers of butter. One croissant has almost a pound of butter."

Episode originally aired live on WVOX-AM on June 23, 2022. For show notes, go to thebalancedilemma.com

If real life were a movie, guest Nina Sadowsky could write the script. Nina's experience has toggled from coast to coast and has spun from marriage to difficult divorce. Hear how, through it all, she has found success.

This former entertainment lawyer was the screenwriter for The Wedding Planner and her short film The First Year’s a Bitch won the best editing award at the New York Short Film Festival. A master of pivots, she is the Program Director of NYU’s Los Angeles while creating her own novel empire. Nina’s latest book Privacy released in June 2022.

Nina tells us that  “being an artist is .. . this constant cycle of: I'm a genius, I'm an idiot. I'm brilliant. I'm a moron." Her advice includes facing imposter syndrome with confidence and recognizing that “there’s what happens to you and there’s how you deal with it.”

Episode originally aired live on WVOX-AM on June 9,  2022. For show notes, go to thebalancedilemma.com

Skills like a mother . . . make a difference in the world. Guest Meg Kaüfer went from educator to full-time mom to President and founding member of The STEM Alliance, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit. Hear how Meg’s personal evolution, passions, and balance dilemma led her to this important role, organizing events like STEM-tastic, a hands-on festival of learning that attracted 2,000 attendees in its inaugural year.

Meg shares her views on why it is important for organizations to recognize and quantify efforts of volunteers, as well as the financial pitfalls being a stay-at-home mom.

Episode originally aired live on WVOX-AM on May 26,  2022. For show notes, go to thebalancedilemma.com

In the mood for a cocktail? Guest Ute Londrigan can mix you one with a hundred year old German tradition. In 2018, this mother and entrepreneur started craft liqueur business HEIMAT, inspired by recipes handed down from her grandmother.

From sourcing fruit locally, to designing bottles and labels, hear how Ute not only survived the pandemic but flourished, adding a woman’s touch to a predominantly male industry.

Episode originally aired live on WVOX-AM on May 12, 2022. For show notes, go to www.thebalancedilemma.com

Fran Hauser, best-selling author of The Myth of the Nice Girl, discusses with us her new book Embrace the Work, Love Your Career.

Episode originally aired live on WVOX-AM on April 28,  2022. For show notes, go to thebalancedilemma.com

Entertainment lawyer turned writer/novelist Ginger McKnight-Chavers shares her inspiration for her debut award-winning novel In the Heart of Texas, influenced in part by the lessons she learned from her mother, a prominent African-American woman of Dallas.

Episode originally aired live on WVOX-AM on April 14,  2022. For show notes, go to thebalancedilemma.com

Have you experienced a little stress over the last couple of years? . . . Yeah, us too.  Join clinical psychologist Dr. Risa Ryger, an expert in change. Risa explains her trademarked “disruptive self-ownership” and how it can help you  thrive personally and professionally. She takes us through a calming exercise and provides strategies for facing the day and world. Hear about her Four Fs and 4-4-8 breathing technique. In addition, we discuss some of the mental health challenges brought on the two years of the pandemic.

Episode originally aired live on WVOX-AM on March 31,  2022. For show notes, go to thebalancedilemma.com.