The Becoming Her Podcast with Dr. Bethel Chioma

I know life can be very overwhelming sometimes, and it can be very tiring . I know we are tired of hearing any motivational crap that tells us that life will get better . I understand that the current situation is so overbearing that we are tired of waiting for things to even get better . I know that there is nothing I want to say that you have not heard before. 

But I want you to understand one thing, GOD CAN SAVE YOU . He said “ come unto me , all ye that labour and are  heavy laden , and I give you rest” Matthew 11:28.  God can give you rest . He can wipe away all your tears . 

Anything that has been very heavy for you , that you don’t know what else to do because  you have tried every single thing and nothing is working , I want you to give it back to God , I want you to trust that you have a Father that can do all things for you . There is nothing God cannot do . 

I have been at a place where I felt very helpless and tired , but God brought me out of a sunken place , and I know he can deliver you too . He can deliver us . 

In this episode, we spoke about how to rejuvenate your faith in God and how to stay calm despite what you are going through . 

I want you to know that your current situation will not swallow you , your story is not over yet . You are created for a reason , You are created because you are needed, and because you are needed , you must fulfill your purpose in this earth . YOU ARE BLESSED. 

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When you protect your peace, you safeguard your mental health , when you safeguard your mental health your life improves drastically.

One of the reasons why we are still stuck is because we are staying in situations where we feel unloved and we are not doing anything about it .

When people continuously talk down on you , when people continuously act like you don’t matter , and you let them to keep treating you badly and you don’t do anything about it , you are destroying your mental health .

Protecting your peace means letting go , it means cutting off from anything or anyone that’s ruining your life. The truth is without peace you cannot go anywhere far in life .

Have you ever noticed that when you’re mentally stressed , you can’t even function properly, you can’t even work properly. Have you ever had an issue with a close friend, and went to work that day ? Did you notice that you were not able to function well because you were sad ? This is because your mind was unsettled.

This is the reason why you need to protect your peace. When you Protect your peace , you begin to work on your dreams more effectively, you begin to reach towards your goals , your life expectancy increases and generally your life becomes better.

In this episode, we discussed about ways in which you can safeguard your mental health . We buttressed on Discernment as that is the key factor to knowing who needs grace to change and who you need to cut off from your life totally .

At all cost , PROTECT YOUR PEACE

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You are not alone, you are heavily guarded and protected. I understand that sometimes life can be very demanding and difficult that it makes us want to seclude ourselves because we feel like no one is truly going to understand our situation.

I understand that we are so used to shutting off when life becomes very heavy that we simply zone off when faced with tough situations. I understand that when we are praying and the answers are not coming immediately, it makes us very discouraged.

I understand that we are honestly tired of listening to anyone that tells us that everything is going to be fine, because the situation doesn't seem like it's changing so it's giving us anxiety.

Do you remember the last time you went through a very difficult situation that you thought that there was no escape route? But somehow you got out of that situation? What makes you think that God will not bring you out of this situation? I want you to trust him. I want you to cast all your cares on God for he cares for you, he really does love you.

Instead of worrying, I want you to dedicate that time praying . I want you to be more solution oriented. Do you know that sometimes leaving a toxic environment requires proper planning and strategy. I want you to dedicate the next few weeks , to planning your escape route from toxic situations. YOU CAN HEAL, YOU CAN GET BETTER.

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The reason why most financial expert teach about compound interest is because they understand that when an interest is compounded over time , the profit is massive . This is the same thing that happens when you decide to do things daily that can change your life . 

Do you know that if you can dedicate the next 90 days to your dreams and goals , you can form a habit and that habit slowly builds your future . 

But what if you simply gave yourself 90 intentional days?

90 days of waking up and choosing yourself.
90 days of keeping promises to yourself.
90 days of working on the thing you’ve been postponing.
90 days of healing instead of returning to what hurt you.
90 days of learning instead of scrolling.
90 days of showing up even when nobody is watching.

Do you know your life can get better the day you decide it should get better . What if we stop procrastinating and start doing the internal work ? I understand that betting on your yourself can be difficult especially if you have failed many times trying to do that ? But what if you decide today that you will make intentional decisions to grow every aspect of your life . 

You can do it , don’t let your mind lie to you . Keep pushing , keep grinding , keep becoming . We will get to the permanent site soon . God is in this story . 

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When you finally have the courage to leave a toxic situation, you become so unstoppable . I understand that sometimes our mind makes us believe that no one is going to love us , so we prefer to stay in a familiar place than leaving a painful situation. When we spend years in the wrong situation , our mind tricks us into thinking that this is all there is , so we don’t even want to make a change because we are scared of what the unknown will bring . 

Healing takes time , healing doesn’t happen abruptly. But one thing I need you to know is that healing is an intentional act . You have to decide that enough is enough at a point . You have to love yourself to the point that you don’t take any ill treatment from anybody . 

In this episode , we discussed on steps to know the pattern that is keeping you stuck in a toxic situation and how to slowly start choosing to do better and heal .

You will achieve a lot of things when you have peace of mind . Peace is one of the greatest gift of man kind . Choose peace over chaos . Choose Happiness over strife . You gat this , you can liberate yourself. 

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When you go back to a place where you were mistreated , disrespected and abandoned, it says a lot about how you see yourself. And the person that you are returning back to won’t even value you because he or she understands that you don’t hold yourself in high esteem. 

I understand when we have built emotional attachment with people , it’s sometimes difficult to let go , because we are scared of the unknown. We rather stay in a place that is familiar , than being alone or than getting to know new people . But you have to choose yourself. Choosing yourself means letting go of anyone or anything that will disrupt your mental health . Choosing yourself means saying NO and meaning it . 

When we tell people, that they can disrespect us and enter back into our life , we are simply telling them ‘ I don’t love myself ‘ so don’t love me too much, that’s simply what we are doing . And it’s causing us more harm than good . 

In this Episode, I explained how I helped myself when I was faced with similar situations, and how you can help yourself too . You are not alone . 

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When you become self aware , it helps you take a step back and reanalyze your life . It helps you trace your habits , and to understand the role you are playing in your suffering. 

Sometimes, the problem are not always other people, sometimes , we are the weapon fashioned against ourselves. Not to sound harsh , but this is a wake up call . If you really want your life to get better , you have to look inward . You have to self analyze. 

The truth is that the one person we cannot lie to is ourselves. You might portray to have a flashy life , portray to live a good life , but when the doors are shut and you are by yourself, you know what you do in the secret , and you have to check if what you are doing is making or marring your life . 

Self Awareness is the first step to self liberation. If you want to move forward in life , sit with yourself for minutes, take a paper and write , what can I change about my behavior, about my character that can change the trajectory of my whole life . 

Again , nobody has life all figured out , so take it easy on yourself . But please do the internal work deliberately to liberate yourself totally . 

In this Episode, we discussed on steps to start your self awareness journey. 

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Forgive yourself about the mistakes you made when you didn’t know better , forgive yourself for your past , forgive yourself for your shortcomings. 

In life , sometimes we have to make mistakes to learn , to grow , to become better . So forgive yourself. Beating yourself up won’t help you , ruminating about the past and why you made such mistakes won’t help you . Instead it starts to turn to Self-Sabotaging attitude that now hinders us from moving forward. When you forgive yourself you become free . You break lose from shackles of the past and you start to make steps into a better tomorrow. 

The choice is yours , nobody can make this decision for you , you have to do it for yourself, to liberate yourself from the chains that has held you stuck for so long . You gat this , you can do it.

In this episode, we explained steps to take to start the journey of Forgiving yourself and how to avoid self-sabotaging attitudes . 

There is a lot we can become , a lot we can achieve together. The sky is your starting point . 

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Sometimes it’s really difficult to forget our pain because of how deeply wounded we felt by it . Sometimes we want to change from being good people because of our experiences . 

Most times it’s easier said than done , when people tell you to forget your past , let it go , and preach a bunch of things , we start to say things like ‘You have not lived in my shoes , so you don’t know my pain . And we hear people say , the pain is so deep so it changed me . 

Yea pain actually does change people , but I want you to let the pain change you positively. I don’t want you to go inflicting pains unto others that didn’t do you anything. I understand that most times we want to seek revenge , we want to hurt back , Infact we go as far as hurting people that didn’t do us anything because we want to heal from the pain that other people caused us . We think that hurting more people will make us feel better , but believe me it doesn’t help . 

Do you know what I want you to do , I want you to learn from what the pain is teaching you , practice more discernment, ask God for direction and keep moving .  

Let’s us stop recycling hurt , instead let’s choose healing . Healing will help you mentally , physically and emotionally. In this episode,we discussed deeply on how to save yourself from the pains that is keeping you stuck . 

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Know your worth , Queen 👸🏽. You exude so much power , so much essence, so much elegance to settle for less . You are worth more than silver and gold , Infact there is no price tags to your worth because you are priceless! ACT LIKE IT . Carry yourself like it . 

Do not stay in situations where you are not valued, where you are not loved , where you are not respected. You should have list of non negotiables , you should state how you want to be treated , and anyone that doesn’t want to meet up to the standards you created for yourself, you should leave the situation. 

I understand that most times , because of how emotionally attached we are with some people , it’s difficult leaving even when we know they are not good for us . But I want to to decide that ENOUGH IS ENOUGH, I want you to love yourself to the point where you no longer wanted to be treated less . 

Trust me , people watch how you treat yourself to know how  to treat you , so treat yourself with so much kindness and love ! Carry yourself like the queen that you are and do not take any less treatment from anyone. 

We have accepted Breadcrumbs for so long , it is time to level up ! You deserve anything beautiful. 
I LOVE YOUUUUU MY SISTER🩷. 

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