The Becoming Podcast

What does it really mean to grow with someone for decades without growing apart?

Frank Coursey has been in love with the same woman since he was 12 years old. What began as a childhood friendship with Eugenie in 1982 eventually became a lifelong love story, more than 30 years of marriage, and the inspiration for Frank's first book.

In this episode of The Becoming Podcast, Frank takes us through the story of two kids who became friends, fell in love, experienced heartache and change, and ultimately built a life together.

But this isn't simply a story about finding the right person. It's a conversation about becoming different people while continuing to love each other.

Frank reflects on what he discovered when he returned to the letters he and Eugenie wrote as children, why long-term relationships require us to embrace change, and what it means to keep choosing someone as both of you grow and evolve.

You'll discover:

• How a childhood friendship became a lifelong relationship

• What old letters revealed about love, growth, and who Frank and Eugenie once were

• Why long-term relationships require you to accept that people will change

• What Frank means by “falling in love with a different person who is still the same person”

• How friendship, mistakes, heartache, laughter, and ordinary moments shape lasting relationships

• What more than 30 years of marriage has taught Frank about choosing each other

• How revisiting his past changed the way he sees his present and future

• What it's like to become a first-time author at 56

• Why starting a new chapter can happen at any stage of life

• How choosing positivity can shape the way we experience life's unexpected turns

Frank Coursey is the author of Frank and Eugenie – Two Kids From Day One Became Friends, a book inspired by the letters, memories, heartaches, and love story he shares with his wife, Eugenie.

In this conversation, Host Otiri Enathy goes beyond the romance to explore the deeper questions of growth, relationships, identity, purpose, and what it means to keep becoming alongside the people we love.

Because sometimes becoming isn't about leaving the past behind.

Sometimes, it's about looking back, understanding who you were, appreciating who you've become, and choosing to keep growing together.

Connect with Frank Coursey:

Website: https://courseysfinds.wixsite.com/frank-and-eugenie

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61594464930474

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/courseyfrank/

What if the relationship you can’t stop thinking about isn’t necessarily your soulmate—but a mirror revealing something you haven’t yet understood about yourself?

In this episode of The Becoming Podcast, Otiri Enathy speaks with Rev. Dr. Leila Bamdad, Doctor of Psychology, energy practitioner, psychic, medium, and founder of Psychicology®, about the fascinating intersection of psychology, spirituality, relationships, intuition, and unconscious patterns.

Together, they explore why some relationships feel magnetic, familiar, or destined—and whether those intense connections always mean we have found the person we are meant to be with.

You’ll discover:

• Why understanding your trauma or attachment patterns doesn’t always mean you’ve stopped repeating them

• How we can find ourselves choosing the same relationship dynamic in different people

• The difference between chemistry, attachment, trauma patterns, compatibility, and what we interpret as a soulmate connection

• Why familiarity can sometimes feel safer than healthy change

• How unconscious patterns can influence the relationships and outcomes we consciously desire

• Why intuition is worth exploring with discernment rather than automatically assuming every feeling is either truth or fear

• How meditation, grounding, symbolism, and self-reflection can help us become more aware of ourselves

• Why not every intense or spiritual-feeling connection is necessarily a relationship we are meant to keep

• What self-love can look like when it means refusing to abandon yourself simply to be chosen

• How psychology and spirituality can raise different questions about the same human experience

Dr. Leila also shares her perspective on psychic experiences, synchronicities, energy, mediumship, and the unexplained—while exploring the tension between psychological explanations and experiences that people may struggle to explain through psychology alone.

At the heart of the conversation is a powerful question: What if the relationships we are trying to understand are also revealing something about who we are becoming?

For anyone who has ever wondered, “Why do I keep choosing this?” or “Why does this person feel so familiar?”, this episode offers an invitation to slow down, examine the patterns beneath the attraction, and become more discerning about what your experiences may be revealing about you.

Rev. Dr. Leila Bamdad is the founder of Psychicology® and The Psychic Side of Psychology. Learn more about her work at psychicologydr.com.

Hosted by Otiri Enathy, The Becoming Podcast features honest conversations about growth, purpose, faith, and the experiences that shape who we become.

The path to building something meaningful is rarely linear.

Kyle Bauder turned a winding journey through education, programming, and accounting into Zelse, an exploration app designed to get people off the couch, into their cities, and curious about the world again.

If you have an idea you're waiting to feel ready for, this conversation is your push to start.

Kyle shares how an entrepreneurship program led him from a bookkeeping concept to a scalable app inspired by friendship, gamification, and the community energy of Pokémon Go. He explains why big achievements are built through small, repeatable steps, how market feedback can transform an idea, and why taking action is often more valuable than protecting an idea in your head.

In this conversation, you'll discover:

• The difference between trading time for money and building something that can scale

• How smaller media opportunities can create larger publicity opportunities

• Why even the best product can fail if nobody discovers it

• How reading nonfiction became Kyle's “instruction manual for life”

• The danger of confusing self-improvement with self-rejection

• A practical approach to improving your career, health, and relationships through identity and incremental action

• Why exploring your own city can restore curiosity and make familiar places feel new

• How prioritizing mental health reshaped Kyle's life, resilience, and approach to entrepreneurship

Kyle Bauder is the entrepreneur and creator of Zelse, an exploration app featuring more than 650 missions across cities around the world, inviting users to explore, connect, and share experiences.

Host Otiri Enathy brings the conversation back to the deeper themes behind Kyle's story: faith, growth, purpose, curiosity, and the courage to keep becoming when your path doesn't make perfect sense.

Whether you're an aspiring founder, a lifelong learner, someone navigating a nontraditional career, or simply sitting on an idea you've never acted on, this episode offers a compelling reminder:

Action creates more action.

You don't need complete certainty to begin. You need the willingness to take the next step.

Connect with Kyle Bauder:

Zelse: https://www.zelse.app/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kyle-bauder-315032ba/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kylebauder_official/

You may not need more advice. You may need less noise.

When opinions, headlines, social media, expectations, and constant stimulation become so loud that you can no longer hear yourself think, the path forward may begin with something surprisingly simple: getting quiet.

Otiri Enathy speaks with Beverly Bradham, author of Past the Noise: A Quiet Truth Awaits, about finding clarity, self-trust, and direction in an increasingly noisy world. Beverly explores what happens when we spend so much time listening to everyone and everything around us that we lose touch with our own inner voice.

In this conversation, you’ll discover:

• What “noise” really includes—and how external pressure and internal confusion can shape our decisions

• Why silence can feel uncomfortable when distraction has become part of everyday life

• How to recognize the difference between your inner voice and the opinions competing for your attention

• Why having more advice does not always lead to greater clarity

• How mentors, coaches, friends, books, and other sources of wisdom can support your growth without replacing your own judgment

• Practical ways to create space for quiet and become more intentional about what you allow into your mind

Beverly also shares why Past the Noise brings together stories from both well-known and everyday people, creating space for reflection and personal discovery. Her approach is gentle and practical—not a call to withdraw from the world, but an invitation to pause long enough to see yourself and your direction more clearly.

If your mind feels crowded, you're questioning your direction, or you've become so accustomed to outside voices that your own perspective feels distant, this conversation offers a thoughtful invitation to slow down and listen.

Sometimes becoming doesn't require another goal, strategy, or opinion.

Sometimes it requires becoming quiet enough to hear what has been there all along.

What if your deepest loss is not proof that God has abandoned you, but an invitation to discover who He truly is?

Cathy Colver Garland shares how divorce, miscarriage, infertility, heartbreak, painful church experiences, and a serious car accident reshaped her faith and taught her to bring her lack—not her performance—to God.

A writer, speaker, mentor, theology lover, and co-author of Revelationship: Transformative Intimacy with Christ, Cathy has spent years helping people navigate profound spiritual and personal change. Drawing from her own ten-year wait for a child and seasons of heartbreak, uncertainty, and unanswered prayer, she explains how our circumstances can distort our understanding of God—and ultimately our understanding of ourselves.

In this conversation, you’ll discover:

• Why suffering does not necessarily contradict God’s promises

• How to respond when faithful prayer still ends in tremendous loss

• Cathy’s “look up, look down, look around” practice for recognizing God’s character, your identity, and where He may be moving

• What Cathy means by “revelationship” and the difference between knowing about God and knowing Him intimately

• Why theology alone does not guarantee intimacy with God

• What “absolute surrender” looks like in everyday decisions, relationships, and purpose

Cathy’s message is both challenging and deeply hopeful: God never promised us a comfortable life, but He did promise His presence.

Even when you feel rejected, disappointed, alone, or without enough to offer, your lack can become the very place where you encounter God’s strength and love.

If you are wrestling with disappointment, questioning your faith, or longing to move from religious knowledge into a living relationship with Christ, this conversation offers an honest and hope-filled framework for finding God in the middle of what you cannot explain.

Learn more about Cathy’s work and Revelationship at revelationship.net.

What happens when the identity that once protected you can no longer carry you into the life you’re becoming?

In this episode of The Becoming Podcast, Otiri Enathy welcomes Shantana Telise, Quantum Channel, Multidimensional Healer, Spiritual Teacher, and host of The Goddess Evolution Podcast, for a deep conversation about identity, intuition, spirituality, wealth, purpose, healing, and personal transformation.

Shantana shares how her own spiritual awakening led her into a deeper exploration of healing, channeling, and the patterns that shape the way we experience life. Together, we explore what it means to outgrow an old identity, why transformation can sometimes feel like things are falling apart, and how self-trust becomes essential when stepping into a new season.

The conversation also explores channeling and intuition, including how to distinguish inner knowing from fear, personal thoughts, or external influence. Shantana explains her concept of “wealth identity” and how our beliefs about receiving, visibility, worth, and possibility can influence the way we approach money, business, relationships, and purpose.

We also discuss how spirituality can work alongside practical strategy without surrendering personal responsibility or discernment, why receiving can be difficult even when we consciously desire something, and what happens when we allow ourselves to become more visible and fully aligned with our purpose.

This is a conversation about becoming someone new without losing yourself in the process.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why your old identity may not be able to accompany you into your next season
• The difference between intuition, fear, thoughts, and channeling
• How identity influences wealth, receiving, relationships, and business
• Why personal growth can sometimes feel uncomfortable before it feels expansive
• The role of self-trust in discovering and pursuing purpose
• How spirituality and practical strategy can work together
• Why people struggle to receive what they say they want
• Healing, energetic transformation, and patterns beneath conscious awareness
• Becoming more visible and allowing yourself to be fully seen
• What human connection offers that technology and AI cannot fully replace

If you’re navigating a season of change, questioning an identity you’ve outgrown, or trying to understand your intuition and purpose more deeply, this conversation offers plenty to reflect on.

Guest: Shantana Telise
Quantum Channel | Multidimensional Healer | Spiritual Teacher | Host of The Goddess Evolution Podcast

Explore Shantana’s work: shantanatelisehealing.com

What if becoming more conscious isn't about achieving something new, but reconnecting with the awareness already within you?

In this thought-provoking episode of The Becoming Podcast, Otiri Enathy welcomes Doug Red Hail Pineda, founder of the Church of the Psychedelics, for an open and challenging conversation about consciousness, spirituality, plant medicines, personal transformation, and human potential.

Doug shares how his work in hemp legalization led him to explore natural psychedelics, question the stigma surrounding them, and examine their possible role in mental health, spiritual development, and humanity's relationship with nature.

• Why questioning authority, tradition, and long-held beliefs can become part of a deeper journey of self-discovery

• Doug's perspective that we don't necessarily need to “become conscious,” but rather become more aware of the consciousness already within us

• Why he is reclaiming the word “church” as a structure for spiritual practice and a safeguard for plant medicine

• The Golden Path and Golden Practices, including meditation, journaling, prayer, breathwork, empathy, courage, gratitude, and humility

• Why education, inspiration, and practice can provide important grounding when navigating profound spiritual or psychedelic experiences

• How spiritual exploration can exist outside traditional religious structures

• Why preparation and integration matter when engaging with intense transformative experiences

• How examining inherited beliefs can change the way we understand ourselves, spirituality, and reality

At the heart of this conversation is an invitation to examine the systems, assumptions, and definitions that shape our lives—while remaining curious, discerning, and grounded.

Whether you feel spiritually disconnected, find yourself questioning familiar beliefs, or are simply drawn to deeper questions about consciousness and human potential, this conversation offers another lens through which to explore what it means to become.

Doug Red Hail Pineda is the founder of the Church of the Psychedelics, where he explores spirituality, consciousness, natural psychedelics, mindfulness, and the integration of spiritual and human development.

Otiri Enathy hosts The Becoming Podcast, featuring honest conversations about growth, purpose, faith, and the experiences that shape who we become.

Listen for a challenging perspective on what it means to live as a spiritual being having a human experience—and consider what you might discover when you become willing to examine what you've always believed.

Learn more about Doug's work:
thechurchofpsychedelics.com

In this episode, you'll discover:

What if aging isn't a story of decline, but one of your greatest opportunities for happiness, purpose, and impact?

If you're questioning your direction, building a meaningful life, or wondering what your legacy will be, this conversation offers a radically hopeful perspective on growing older.

Dr. Deborah Heiser, an applied developmental psychologist, TEDx speaker, author, coach, researcher, and founder of The Mentor Project, challenges the assumption that getting older simply means losing capacity. She explains why many people become more content and fulfilled with age, and why relationships, wisdom, values, and contribution can become increasingly important as we grow.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• What generativity means and why midlife can awaken a powerful desire to give your knowledge, skills, and values to others

• Why mentorship isn't simply about finding someone to help you, but about building a mutual, trusting relationship where both people genuinely give and receive

• How to build your own personal “board of directors” by finding mentors across different areas of life

• Why mentorship can begin with something as simple as asking someone to explain the “lay of the land”

• How family traditions, faith, caregiving, volunteering, and everyday relationships can create a legacy that outlasts money and possessions

• Why so many people experience “impact amnesia” and fail to recognize the difference they are already making

Host Otiri Enathy brings a faith-centered curiosity to the conversation, connecting Deborah's research on aging, purpose, mentorship, and legacy with the deeper question of how we are called to grow and contribute throughout every season of life.

Dr. Heiser is the author of The Mentorship Edge, writes The Right Side of Forty for Psychology Today and Substack, and leads work focused on helping people recognize their capacity to mentor, connect, and make an impact.

Her message is especially powerful for younger listeners: your life is not a series of obstacles to overcome, but a series of opportunities to keep growing, contributing, and becoming.

Listen if you want to rethink aging, find more meaning in your relationships, become a better mentor or mentee, and recognize the legacy you are already building.

Connect with Deborah Heiser:
Learn more about Deborah's work, mentorship, aging, purpose, and legacy at deborahheiser.com.

What if your happiest and most meaningful years aren't behind you—but still ahead?

What if gratitude wasn't something you had to force, practice, or manufacture—but something that naturally flows from experiencing the love of God?

In this episode of The Becoming Podcast, Otiri Enathy speaks with author Wendy Bower about authentic gratitude, intimacy with God, emotional vulnerability, and the transformation that happens when we stop relating to God transactionally and begin simply enjoying His love.

Wendy is the author of Gratitude Attack, a book that offers a fresh perspective on gratitude—not merely as an attitude that changes with circumstances, but as an “altitude” from which we can live.

Drawing from her own journey, including being erased by some family members and undergoing a year of breast cancer treatment, Wendy shares how gratitude became something deeper than a positive mindset. She discovered that even in painful and uncertain seasons, gratitude could emerge naturally from a relationship with God rather than from striving to feel thankful.

• Why authentic gratitude is different from forcing yourself to “be grateful”

• What Wendy means when she describes gratitude as an altitude rather than an attitude

• How enjoying the love of God can transform the way we experience everyday life

• Why relating to God transactionally can keep us from experiencing deeper intimacy with Him

• How emotional vulnerability and honestly processing pain can deepen our relationship with God

• What Wendy learned about gratitude during her journey through breast cancer treatment

• How to recognize God's love even in ordinary moments and difficult seasons

• Why gratitude can become a natural overflow of intimacy with God rather than another spiritual obligation

• How authentic faith can produce joy, freedom, and transformation without performance

Wendy's story is a powerful reminder that gratitude doesn't require us to deny pain, suppress difficult emotions, or pretend that everything is okay. Instead, it can emerge when we learn to experience God's love honestly—even in the middle of uncertainty.

Hosted by Otiri Enathy, this conversation invites us to reconsider what gratitude really means and how our relationship with God can change the way we see everything around us.

Connect with Wendy Bower:
Learn more about Wendy's work, discover free resources for developing intimacy with God, and find Gratitude Attack at authorwendybower.com.

What if gratitude isn't something you have to create—but something that begins to overflow when you truly know you are loved by God?

In this episode, you'll discover:

What if the characters in Shakespeare’s plays are more than stories from the past—but mirrors revealing the patterns, fears, strengths, and blind spots shaping your life today?

In this episode of The Becoming Podcast, Carol Brenner, speaker, educator, Shakespeare scholar, and thought leader, takes us beyond the Shakespeare we were taught in school and into the deeper psychological and transformational wisdom hidden within his characters.

Carol believes Shakespeare’s plays can serve as maps of human development. Hamlet’s hesitation, Lady Macbeth’s ambition, King Lear’s pride, Rosalind’s emotional intelligence, and other iconic characters reveal patterns of consciousness that still show up in our relationships, leadership, decisions, and personal growth.

We explore why intelligent and capable people can continue repeating the same destructive patterns, how unconscious behaviors can keep us stuck, and what happens when we begin to recognize ourselves in the stories we have been watching for centuries.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• Why Shakespeare’s characters can reveal our blind spots better than we might expect
• How recognizing your own patterns can become the first step toward transformation
• What Hamlet, Lady Macbeth, King Lear, Rosalind, and other characters can teach us about fear, ego, courage, leadership, and emotional intelligence
• Why capable people can remain stuck in patterns they don't consciously recognize
• How Shakespeare can help us understand psychological development and the journey toward wholeness
• What leaders and entrepreneurs can learn from Shakespeare about trust, conflict, character, and authentic leadership
• How ancient stories can provide surprisingly practical wisdom for modern life

Carol’s journey with Shakespeare began when she realized these plays were not simply entertainment or intellectual exercises—they were sophisticated maps of human psychology and transformation. Since then, she has devoted herself to helping people use Shakespeare’s stories to better understand how they think, lead, love, and live.

Hosted by Otiri Enathy, this conversation is an invitation to look beyond the characters on the stage and ask a more personal question:

What if one of Shakespeare’s characters is already running part of your life—and what would happen if you became aware of it?

Whether you're interested in personal development, psychology, leadership, spirituality, or simply becoming more self-aware, this episode offers a fresh way to see yourself through some of the greatest stories ever written.