Who Comes First: Your BFF, Your Lover, or Yourself?

In this episode of The Disappointing Friend Podcast, we dive into the messy, real-life balancing act of managing romantic relationships, platonic bonds, and personal identity.

Is it possible to be a good partner without being a bad friend? Can you love someone without losing yourself?

Juliet shares how she’s the perfect plus-one—always ready with the right outfit and good chat —but is she also a friend who shows up when it counts? Meanwhile, Fatuma opens up about the time she ditched her friends for a new boyfriend, and the fallout that followed.

We’ll explore why it’s so easy to let our closest relationships slip when we’re swept up in romance & how to reclaim your sense of self.

Whether you’re caught in the middle of a love triangle with your bestie and your partner, or just trying to figure out where you fit in, this episode is for you.

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