“The biggest enemies of willpower: temptation, self-criticism, and stress. These three skills — self-awareness, self-care, and remembering what matter most — are the foundation for self-control.”

We clearly live with the first three enemies more than we do with the latter three. This quote is helpful in laying bare the foundations of what you need to ground yourself. Often, part of transformation isn’t about taking big, bold leaps, it’s about being able to assess what we want less of and controlling the parts of ourselves that want to override the system and function on autopilot. The three skills for self-control, however, are all about processes.

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