The Bisexual Agenda

Happy Virgo Season! In this special episode, Olivia & I are wracking our brains once again to give you some good, sound, bisexual advice for all of your bilemmas. Can you believe it we’ve made it to episode 20?! Thank you for listening love you forever x

Send your bilemmas to:

https://www.instagram.com/thebisexualagendapod/

Follow Olivia:

https://www.instagram.com/oliviasnapsthings/

Resources mentioned:

The Vagina Dispatches:

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/video/2016/sep/23/vagina-dispatches-part-one-what-vulvas-look-like

How I learned to cast off shame and love my vulva:

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/oct/23/how-i-learned-cast-off-shame-to-love-my-vulva-body-positivity

I can’t find the exact Stoya quote I mentioned but she has a sex advice column you can read on Refinery 29:

https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2014/06/70142/labia-insecurity-sexting

Fucks Given Podcast:

https://www.instagram.com/comecurious/?hl=en

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/f-ks-given/id1444176549

Queer Sex Therapy Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/queersextherapy/?hl=en

Content Warnings/Trigger Warnings:

Bilemma 1: Threesomes, non monogamy, jealousy, sex, and open relationships.

Bilemma 2: Being “straight passing”, misgendering, biphobia, and exclusion in the queer community.

Bilemma 3: Dating/asking out a friend.

Bilemma 4: Having sex while drunk, regretting a sexual experience, virginity, consent, and sex.

Bilemma 5: Discussions of genitals/vulvas/vaginas, sexual health, transphobia, body shaming and sex, HRT, transitioning, body image issues, dysmorphia, bottom surgery, medical interventions, racism, and transphobia in the NHS.

This last question was sent in by a woman about her own relationship to her body/vagina/vulva and the bodies of other women, so there was a focus on women and body image but I definitely want to use more gender neutral language when talking about these issues, and I hope that the discussion was inclusive although we did focus on women.

(Please message me on IG if there’s something missing from this list).

Music: PremiumWave

LET'S GET WITCHY🔮🔮🔮

I am delighted to be joined by Cassandra Snow: author of Queering the Tarot, professional tarot reader, witch, and radical activist! We're doing an emotional deep dive this episode, talking about love, heartbreak, the downfall of capitalism, non-monogamy, sexual dysfunction and MORE.

Queering Your Craft: Witchcraft from the Margins will be available on November 1st!

Get a reading from Cassandra!

http://cassandra-snow.com/services

CW/TW: Discussions about trauma, alcohol as a coping mechanism, being closeted, EMDR therapy, heartbreak, government violence, anxiety, and CPTSD. Agenda segment: sexual health, reproductive health, therapy, vaginismus, pelvic floor disorder and accessing healthcare. (Please message me on instagram if you’d like anything added to this list).

Follow the pod on instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/thebisexualagendapod/

Cassandra’s Instagram & Patreon

https://www.instagram.com/tarotcassandra/?hl=en

patreon.com/cassandrasnow

Vaginismus Support Group

https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dyspareunia.Support

https://www.facebook.com/groups/732059366954815

Me & V Comic

https://meandvcomic.tumblr.com

https://www.instagram.com/meandvcomic/

Queering the Tarot by Cassandra Snow

http://cassandra-snow.com/queering-the-tarot-order

Cassandra’s Column

http://blog.littleredtarot.com/writers/cassandra-snow/

Next World Tarot Deck & Guide by Cristy C Road

https://littleredtarot.com/product/next-world-tarot/

Bewitching the Elements By Gabriela Herstik

https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/611473/bewitching-the-elements-by-gabriela-herstik-foreword-by-alexandra-roxo/

Music: Premium Wave

You asked for a tarot 101 episode and we did it baby! Just in time for my extra special episode with Cassandra Snow.

My darling housemate Olivia is here with me to try to explain tarot. The first half is a lowdown of how we got into tarot, useful resources, the cards, and readings/spreads. In the second half we talk about cards that have repeated shown up for us and the messages they hold.

If you are a visual learner - I’ll be posting some tarot memes on insta

https://www.instagram.com/thebisexualagendapod/

Podcast artwork by:

https://www.instagram.com/thebitimes/

Adam J Kurtz The Ok Tarot Deck

https://shop.adamjk.com/products/the-ok-tarot-deck

Apps: Golden Thread & MysticMondays

Queering the Tarot by Cassandra Snow

https://littleredtarot.com/product/queering-the-tarot/

Get all your queer books @

https://thebookishtype.co.uk/

Cassandra’s Column

http://blog.littleredtarot.com/writers/cassandra-snow/

Bi Books Baby!! This week I’m joined by Emily Metcalfe as part of Leeds LGBT+ Virtual Literature Festival. We’re talking bisexual representation, “bury your gays”, and unfortunately… JK Rowling.

Be my friend on Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/review/list/111813300-kit-skailes?shelf=lgbtq-recommendations

LGBT Literature Festival:

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL17puqlNuzKC1yGA8Td6xA?view_as=subscriber

Website: https://www.leedslgbtbooks.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LGBTLitFest

Twitter: https://twitter.com/LGBTlitfest

Email: [email protected]

Donations: https://www.paypal.me/LGBTBooks

Follow the pod on instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/thebisexualagendapod/

Music: PremiumWave

Queering the Tarot by Cassandra Snow

Content warnings:

They both die in the end: death

Girl Woman Other: transphobia, biphobia

The Colour Purple: mentions of abuse/sexual assault

Harry Potter: Anti Semitism, JK’s transphobia (no details), Snape being a creep/stalker

Death of the Author: mentions of Woody Allen & Tarantino (no details)

The Bi-ble: chronic illness and sex

In the Dream house: emotional abuse, biphobia, intimate partner violence, survivors of abuse, gaslighting

An Absolutely Remarkable Thing: biphobia, bi-erasure

Tarot: Mental health struggles

Bi agenda: bi-erasure, biphobia, bi tropes, “bury your gays” (two bi women are murdered in a book series), transphobia, queer coded villains, homophobia, food, birth, trans pregnancy

Get all your queer books @

https://thebookishtype.co.uk/

Hays Code Youtube Video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GsO4fZYHQic&feature=share

Books Mentioned

The Subtweet by Vivek Shraya

The Colour Purple by Alice Walker

They Both Die at the End by Adam Silvera

Girl Woman Other by Bernardine Evaristo

Artful by Ali Smith

The Bi-ble Vol 1 & 2 edited by Ellen Desmond and Lauren Nickodemus

In the Dream House by Carmen Maria Machado

Difficult Women by Roxane Gay

An Absolutely Remarkable Thing by Hank Green

Bury the Lede by Gaby Dunn

The Long Way to a Small, Angry Planet by Becky Chambers

Rainbow Milk by Paul Mendez

Bump by Matthew Metzger

Freshwater & Pet by Akwaeke Emezi

100 Must Read Bi Books

https://bookriot.com/100-must-read-bisexual-books/?fbclid=IwAR2m16__6D_ISVpGLujIEk8Qegpwa7GmPjfHtJ0Jz6gQtY8Mjp1bJbBVuHE

Bi non-fiction

https://www.autostraddle.com/bisexual-nonfiction-394712/

80 best Bi & lesbian books

https://www.autostraddle.com/80-of-the-best-queer-lesbian-and-bisexual-books-of-the-decade/

Bi Books

The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenkins Reid

Conversations with Friends by Sally Rooney

Eating Chinese Food Naked, by Mei Ng

America Is Not the Heart by Elaine Castillo

Chronology of Water by Lidia Yuknavitch

Bad Dyke by Allison Moon

Out of the Woods by Luke Turner

Autoboyography by Christina Lauren

Orlando by Virginia Woolf

Paul Takes the Form of A Mortal Girl by Andrea Lawlor

Like Water by Rebecca Podos

Adaptation by Malinda Lo

Some of Us Did Not Die by June Jordan

My Education by Susan Choi

Another Country by James Baldwin

Abandon Me by Melissa Febos

Vera Kelly Series by Rosalie Knecht

Anthologies

Getting Bi: Voices of Bisexuals Around the World edited by Robyn Ochs and Sarah Rawley

Bi Men: Coming Out Every Which Way edited by Ron Jackson Suresha and Pete Chvany

Rec*Og*Nize: The Voices of Bisexual Men edited by Robyn Ochs and H. Sharif Williams

Smitten (poetry)

YA

https://bookstr.com/list/10-incredible-ya-novels-with-bisexual-protagonists/

Red, White and Royal Blue by Casey McQuiston

Leah on the Off Beat by Becky Albertalli

The Trails of Apollo Series

Boyfriends with Girlfriends by Alex Sanchez

Queens of Geek by Jen Wilde

Brightsiders by Jen Wilde

Leeds LGBT+ Literature Festival is proud to present a virtual programme of readings, talks, interviews, workshops and more.

This will be a three day event from Friday 31 July to Sunday 2 August, with all digital content being published/available on our Facebook Events and Twitter pages.

In particular, we will have:

· Family Oriented content being released on Friday 31 July (Facebook event: https://bit.ly/3exdmhl)

· Amazing LGBT+ related readings, discussions, workshops, interviews, blogs, comic strips and more being released over the three days (Facebook event: https://bit.ly/2WpTRRD)

· A writing workshop run by Out On The Page, 7.30-9.30pm on Friday 31 July - Tickets free but essential (Facebook event: https://bit.ly/30jEEmf Eventbrite link: https://bit.ly/3h3c5jU)

· A Netflix Party watching of Disclosure (Facebook Event: https://bit.ly/3gZp0TU)

You can also find us:

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL17puqlNuzKC1yGA8Td6xA?view_as=subscriber

Website: https://www.leedslgbtbooks.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LGBTLitFest

Twitter: https://twitter.com/LGBTlitfest

Email: [email protected]

Donations: https://www.paypal.me/LGBTBooks

Follow the pod on instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/thebisexualagendapod/

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Miss Honey invented lesbianism and that’s that.

My Matilda (1996) Manifesto has finally arrived. Ms Trunchbull is a dyketastic villain, Matilda is bisexual, Mrs Wormwood said Bimbo rights AND MORE.

Please note: I had my mic on the wrong setting the for the second half of the recording and will be blaming this on Mercury retrograde. Sorry Emily sounds like she’s in a Pringle tube this was not my intention.

Trigger & content Warnings:

Matilda (first half): fatphobia, transphobia, homophobia, stereotypes about butch lesbians and queer women, sexism, abusive families, child abuse.

Agenda (second half): mentions of Chris Brown and Woody Allen (in the context of hating them to their core). Racism and “diversity”.

Follow the pod on instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/thebisexualagendapod/

The Free Black University:

https://twitter.com/freeblackuni

https://www.gofundme.com/f/the-free-black-university?utm_source=customer&utm_campaign=p_cp+share-sheet&utm_medium=copy_link-tip

Scam Goddess Podcast:

https://www.earwolf.com/show/scam-goddess/

Iconography Podcast:

https://foreverdogpodcasts.com/podcasts/iconography/

That iconic Gaga interview:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CZXBF9t32zA

Rian Phin:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJJWKiDuF0r7yKxLDbQalcA

Music: PremiumWave

It’s Gemini season!

My astrological life twin Maura is here to talk about star signs, the gift of Scorpio-made music, and Gemini season drama. No Taureans were harmed in the making of this episode.

Listen to the Scorpio playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5tgCC5YIhs3efOecx3XdDk?si=2dBftEasRI2YI0YoHlpCBw

Content warnings: We discuss criticisms of Lana Del Rey briefly(glorification of abuse, racism, white feminism). Mentions of drug use and homophobia. Please message me @thebisexualagendapod on Instagram if I have missed anything on this list.

This episode was recorded before protests and riots broke out in the USA in response to police brutality and the murder of George Floyd in Minneapolis. This is not mentioned in the episode. Please donate to support protestors in the USA:

https://www.blackvisionsmn.org/

https://www.reclaimtheblock.org/

https://www.gofundme.com/f/georgefloyd

Fall in love with Maura:

https://www.instagram.com/mauraivy/?hl=en

Maura’s art:

https://www.instagram.com/mauraivisuals/?hl=en

Send your bisexual dilemmas to:

www.instagram.com/thebisexualagendapod/

Dance with Ryan:

https://www.instagram.com/ryan.heffington/?hl=en

Follow our hot gay husband:

https://www.instagram.com/jtfirstman/

In this isolation episode I’m talking to the delightful Pip Williams about bisexuality on TV. The good, the bad, and the biphobic.

If you have any casting ideas for my Sabrina the Teenage Bitch remake - get in touch.

Please note - There is no tarot reading this week because we talked for too long! Pip did a reading for me off-mic and it confirmed that I am That Bitch, which is all you need to know.

Pip’s Etsy:

https://www.etsy.com/uk/shop/ThisShopSuxx

Follow Pip on Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/pipsuxx/

Send your bisexual dilemmas to:

www.instagram.com/thebisexualagendapod/

Trigger/Content Warnings:

Domestic violence, abusive relationships, sexual assault, workplace harassment, dysfunctional families, antisemitism, biphobia, transphobia, drug use, police brutality and violence, racism and fascism.

Mentioned:

Skins

Atypical

Glee

A Very Potter Musical

Summertime

Sex Education

Love is Blind

Tuca & Bertie

Faking It

Bojack Horseman

Buffy the Vampire Slayer

Jane the Virgin

Are You the One?

Sabrina the Teenage Witch

Lizzie McGuire

The Circle

References:

Pip’s Summertime article

https://medium.com/@pipsuxx/summertime-sadness-on-queer-women-in-cinema-168c5c85007f

All Bi Myself: Analyzing Television's Presentation of Female Bisexuality by Sarah Corey

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/15299716.2017.1305940?journalCode=wjbi20

I'm Queer And A Survivor Of Assault. Here's How 'Tuca & Bertie' Make Me Feel Seen by Lois Shearing

https://bust.com/tv/196171-how-tuca-bertie-validates-my-identity-as-a-queer-survivor.html

SWARM

https://www.swarmcollective.org

@Wolfgore Tattoo Artist

https://www.instagram.com/wolfgore/?hl=en

Euan’s Guide

https://www.euansguide.com

It’s a family affair this week with my sister taking over as guest host and some extremely awkward interruptions from our parents!

We’re starting off with a game of Emily’s creation - Straight 2 Gay. Then we plan our dream Pride events (blissfully unaware that Pride was going to be cancelled).

Half of this episode was recored IRL six weeks ago and the second half was recorded over FaceTime so I apologise if the audio is trash, I have tried my best.

Follow the podcast on Instagram:

www.instagram.com/thebisexualagendapod/

Music: PremiumWave

Mentioned:

Happy Place Festival

How to Fail podcast

Food 4 Thot podcast

You Were Born for This: Astrology for Radical Self-Acceptance by Chani Nicholas

Queering the Tarot by Cassandra Snow

Yoga with Adrienne (Youtube)

The Great British Bake Off

Feel Good

Work in Progress

Steven Universe

Hustlers

Femme4femme frog royalty Amelia joins me to discuss their emo phase, queer fashion, and the mortifying ordeal of being seen.

Content warnings: bullying, body image issues and diet culture (20-26 mins), dysmorphia, catcalling and harassment, ghosting, transphobia, and biphobia.

Tell me your best ghosting stories: https://www.instagram.com/thebisexualagendapod/

Follow Amelia (no fuckgirls please): https://www.instagram.com/gayfrogmood/

Music: PremiumWave

Mentioned:

Queering the Tarot by Cassandra Snow

Orville Peck

Undressed: A Brief History of Underwear (Exhibition at the V&A)

https://www.instagram.com/dykeblanchett/

https://www.instagram.com/whatswrongwithmollymargaret/

https://www.instagram.com/ageoftheinfo/