What if perfectionism, procrastination, and people pleasing all share a root? And what if that root is...fear?

Best-selling author Mary Marantz is here to tackle these things head on with us today!

Join Mary and I as we talk about: 

• why we should quit playing small and HOW exactly we do that
• naming our fear and why it's lying to you
• wrestling with imposter syndrome
• how we over-responsible ourselves out of our dreams
• choosing discipline and dreams over distractions (even the noble ones!)
• letting go of perfectionism
• why we procrastinate and how we can stop

 

LINKS

Connect with Mary on Instagram

Take Mary's Achiever Type Quiz

Get your free chapter of Mary's new book, Underestimated

Vist Mary's website

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How do we trust God when our hearts are so broken we're not even sure how to pray? 

My new friend Claudia Campbell is here to walk us through it.

Claudia is the author of These Stones Remain: 60 Reflections on Finding Hope When Darkness Lingers. As the mom of multiple children in Heaven and twin girls on Earth, she is the wise and compassionate voice we need to help us grieve with hope.

JUST WAIT until you hear Claudia's story about the peonies- you won't even believe it! 

Join Claudia and I as we talk about: 

• building our trust in God's goodness in the middle of heartbreaking circumstances
• when God trusts you to carry a hard story
• the power of friends being willing to stay 
• practical ways to find joy in hard seasons
• why showing up when you don't want to is not fake
• what to do when you can't pray
• finding ordinary miracles and celebrating every small win

 

LINKS

Connect with Claudia on Instagram

Get your copy of Claudia's devotional book, These Stones Remain: 60 Reflections on Finding Hope When Darkness Lingers

Visit Claudia's website

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Do you ever find yourself waiting for the other shoe to drop?

What if we started anticipating God's goodness instead? 

 

My friend Gaye Lindfors is an author, speaker, and absolute delight, and I'm so excited for you to get to hear from her today!

 

Join Gaye and I as we talk about: 

• Showing up for your life at every age and stage
• The gift of aging, and why we don't have to be afraid of it
• Why women take ourselves out of the game, often before we even get started
• Getting stuck in a rut of just going through the motions, and how we can get out 
• Growing confidence in God's goodness when we've been disappointed
• How to stop waiting for the other shoe to drop

 

 

LINKS

Connect with Gaye on Instagram

Visit Gaye's website

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Six months after Hurricane Helene, a friend of mine who lives in Western North Carolina is here to tell her story.

My friend Heidi Ashe is a lifelong resident of Western North Carolina. She and her husband are small business owners and parents to three awesome teens. 

Join Heidi and I as we talk about: 

• what she loves about WNC
• what the people of WNC have had to grieve in the days, weeks, and months since Helene
• parenting our kids through tremendous, widespread loss
• processing survivor's guilt
• how God has shown up for the people of WNC
• what the people of WNC still need, and
• how we can help

 

LINKS

Connect with Heidi on Instagram

Connect with Samaritan's Purse

Connect with Baptists on Mission

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If you've ever looked at a circumstance in your life and thought, "It's too late," this episode is for you!

Joining me to talk about why you're not too late is my friend, author, speaker, and podcaster Rebecca George. 

Rebecca is the author of multiple books, including her most recent You're Not Too Late: Trusting God's Timing in a Hurry-Up World. 

Join Rebecca and I as we talk about: 

• common feelings that come up when we feel too late
• the pressure we feel to hurry up all the time
• being honest with God about what we want
• when good desires become idols 
• the temptation to isolate ourselves when we are disappointment

If you're waiting for something (and who among us is not?), this is one conversation you'll want to listen to today!

 

LINKS: 

Rebecca's Books: 

• (NEW!) You're Not Too Late: Trusting God's Timing in a Hurry-Up World
• Before Dawn: Knowing God's Presence in the Dark Seasons of Life
• Do the Thing: Gospel-Centered Goals, Gumption, and Grace for the Go-Getter Girl
• Prepare Him Room: Radical Radiance Interactive Advent Devotional
• Passionate Prayer: Radical Radiance Podcast Companion Guide

  Connect with Rebecca: Instagram Speaking Creative Business Coaching Camp for Creatives Listen to Radical Radiance on Apple Podcasts Listen to Radical Radiance on Spotify Take the FREE Waiting Personality Quiz Take the Why are you stuck in your calling? Quiz     Connect with Kayla on Instagram   Connect with the show on Instagram

How do you know when a pattern in your life is personality or preference, vs. when it has become dysfunctional? 

And once you realize you've moved into unhealthy territory, how do you break the cycle and start a new path? 

Two new friends of mine, Justin and Trisha Davis, are here to answer these questions and much, much more!

Justin and Trisha are the founders of RefineUs Ministries, hosts of the Let's Get Real podcast, and co-authors of their new book, One Choice Away from Change: Break the Cycles That Hurt Your Relationships and Hold You Back. 

Join Justin, Trish, and I as we talk about: 

• how to to recognize patterns and cycles in our own behaviors and relationships
• common patterns that hold us back in our relationships, and how small choices contribute to those
• making peace with consequences of choices that you didn't make
• the role of forgiveness in breaking cycles
• coming to God authentically as we trust Him to change our hearts
• one choice you can make today to start moving forward in a healthier path

 

LINKS

Connect with Justin and Trisha's ministry, RefineUs

Connect with Trisha on Instagram

Connect with Justin on Instagram

Get your copy of One Choice Away from Change

Connect with Kayla on Instagram

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Living whole is holy work, and it starts with getting honest with God. 

My friend Jenn Jett Barrett and I got to dig deep on what she calls "the holy work of living whole," bringing our full selves to be with Jesus.

Jenn Jett Barrett is the founder of The Well Summit, where she creates spaces for women to care for their souls in a way that is emotionally healthy. 

Jenn is such a deep well. I loved our conversation, and I'm excited to share it with you today! 

Listen in as we talk about: 

• the redemption we are waiting for, and the redemption that is already ours
• being honest about our grief
• making margin to be with God as we process all the things that come with being human
• living surrendered vs. living resigned 
• when grieving makes us (and others!) uncomfortable
• cultivating curiosity in your relationship with God, and shedding the shame of not doing "enough" for Him
• how being emotionally healthy helps us view God rightly 

 

LINKS: 

Connect with Jenn on Instagram

Get the Dwell Journal (coming soon!)

Learn more about The Well Summit

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What do you do in seasons of waiting, when your calling and God's timing aren't lining up the way you thought they would?  

My friend Ashley Minor is here to talk about it with us!

Ashley is a podcast host, writer, speaker, and ministry leader who has served with FCA at the University of Texas, Love Paced Race with Revelation Wellness, and more. 

Join Ashley and I as we talk about: 

• our ideas about the way our lives should go, and where those come from
• living a waiting season in an expedited culture
• comparing our lives with others (I had NEVER considered something Ashley brought up!)
• holding the tension of diligence and excellence, vs. grasping for control and trying to manipulate outcomes
• how to know what God has called you to
• balancing confidence in the call with wise counsel from people who love you

 

LINKS: 

Connect with Ashley on Instagram

Check out Ashley's podcast, Minutes to Hours

Visit Ashley's website

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Changing one little word shifted a whole mindset for me. Maybe it can do the same for you?

So many times, we try to overhaul our lives all at once. All it takes is the turn of a calendar page, a big birthday, or a new school year for us to decide that THIS YEAR (or decade) IS GOING TO BE DIFFERENT! 

We go all in until reality reminds us "this is not sustainable," then we get discouraged, and we quit. We end up on the wrong side of "all or nothing." 

But what if we traded "all or nothing" for "all or something"? 

This is my story of learning to hold the tension of discipline and grace, embracing both the fast-paced way God made my brain and the limits of being human.

If you want to stay present in your life but get distracted by all of this *waves around wildly*- this show is for you!

We are digging into staying present, being intentional, and loving our people well with my friend, Sherri Crandall. 

Sherri Crandall is the Vice President of Global Ministries and Leadership Experience for The MomCo by MOPS International. She is an author and speaker who encourages women across the country and around the world. 

 

Join Sherri and I as we talk about: 

• why "stay present" sounds simple but can feel difficult in practice
• modeling holistic health for our daughters and our sons
• being okay with the discomfort of growing
• leaving a legacy
• the importance of intentionality in every season 

 

LINKS

Connect with Sherri on Instagram

Visit Sherri's website

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