Technology makes it easy for divorcing couples to express their anger and frustration without thinking. They engage in text warfare and even post disparaging comments on social media.

But if the goal is to divorce with dignity, the way you communicate matters. So, what can you do to be less reactive and work through the entire process in a measured way?

Paulette Gloria Rigo is the founder of Better Divorce Academy, a platform dedicated to helping people create an optimal divorce experience. Paulette is also a Certified Divorce Coach, Mediator, Transition and Recovery Coach, Career Transition Specialist and author of the Amazon bestseller, Better Divorce Blueprint: Divorce Made Smoother, Easier and Better for You and Your Family.

On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Paulette joins Katherine to explore the contemplation phase leading up to a divorce and explain how to decide whether divorce is right for you. She describes what a successful divorce looks like and offers insight into the most common mistakes women make in the early stages of divorce. Listen in for Paulette’s advice on choosing the right divorce process and learn how to communicate with your soon-to-be ex in a way that mitigates conflict and maintains your dignity.

Topics Covered

How to decide if divorce is right for you

What steps to take in the pre-divorce contemplation phase

Why Paulette’s own divorce turned into an 8-year litigated experience

What a successful divorce looks like

Conducting yourself in a way you feel good about throughout the divorce process

The common mistakes women make in the early stages of divorce

Why you should never send a text or post on social media when you’re angry

The BIFF strategy for communicating with a soon-to-be ex

The role trust plays in a successful mediation

How to choose the right divorce process

Connect with Paulette Rigo

Better Divorce Academy:

https://betterdivorceacademy.com/

Better Divorce Academy on Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/betterdivorceacademy/

Paulette on Twitter:

https://twitter.com/paulettegloria

Connect with Katherine Miller

The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/

Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/

Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1

The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246

Email: [email protected]

Call (914) 738-7765

Resources

Better Divorce Blueprint: Divorce Made Smoother, Easier and Better for You and Your Family by Paulette Rodrigo:

https://www.amazon.com/Better-Divorce-Blueprint-smoother-easier/dp/1925638707

Thriving in Chaos Project Podcast:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-thriving-in-chaos-project-with-paulette-rigo/id1450562748?uo=4

Bill Eddy:

https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/