On this episode, Ted and Patrick dive into the complexities of dating, exploring its various phases, the importance of connection, and the significance of understanding one's own needs and boundaries. They also talk about the evolution of dating from casual to partnership, being the product on dating apps, and open communication and learning from bad dates. Enjoy!

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Timestamps:

00:00:00 - Intro

00:01:27 - Dating and ways to think about dating

00:02:59 - Dating as a construct

00:03:40 - Phase one: Sex

00:05:26 - Phase two: Connection

00:10:20 - The exciting elements of dating

00:12:43 - You must understand your hard boundaries

00:13:40 - Phase three: Partnership

00:14:44 - Navigating Responsibilities and anchors as you age (especially children)

00:16:20 - Open relationships/polyamoury

00:18:14 - Knowing yourself allows you to find the right partner for you

00:20:01 - Dating commentators + actions speak louder than words

00:23:17 - Getting through the door + texting is not a relationship

00:25:00 - Be honest about your needs

00:26:20 - You want somebody who LOVES to see you

00:27:48 - Matching Libidos

00:30:05 - The sexual side of culture has shifted in the last 10 years

00:31:08 - Phases where relationships are mostly sexless

00:32:34 - YOU are the product

00:33:45 - Presenting yourself as a Partner + What qualities women look for in men

00:35:46 - 1989 dating section anecdote + How we’re going backwards

00:38:09 - Engaging in meaningful conversations

00:41:27 - Being a product on dating apps

00:43:23 - Patrick’s INSTANT NO

00:44:23 - BE MORE FIT

00:45:23 - Be funny and charming

00:47:32 - Intelligence is an indicator that you might be a good partner

00:49:06 - Are you able to remove the gendered element?

00:51:25 - It’s all about getting through the door initially

00:52:48 - Be interested

00:55:59 - Listening proves active involvement in a relationship

00:58:13 - These concepts are applicable to many aspects of life, not just dating

01:00:10 - Be Interesting + don’t talk too much about your past

01:02:49 - Love languages on a first date?

01:04:25 - Listen to people when they tell you who they are

01:07:33 - Dating past a certain age means you’re done with BS

01:09:38 - Don’t waste other people’s time

01:11:26 - The many things to consider around having more kids

01:14:12 - Dating should be FUN

01:14:50 - Dating as a process and learning to filter better

01:16:11 - Does Ted enjoy dating now?

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