In this episode, Ted and Patrick explore how cultural ideas about masculinity prevent many men from taking care of their skin, causing them to avoid basic skincare—often at the expense of their own comfort. They explain why this mindset needs to change, how to identify your skin type, and how to create a simple, affordable skincare routine for under $20. No fluff, no complicated 10-step processes—just clear skin and common sense. Enjoy!

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Links to references mentioned in the episode

CeraVe https://www.cerave.com

Truck driver's severe sun damage on his left side after 28 years of UVA exposure through his window. https://www.reddit.com/r/interestingasfuck/comments/10ke8k6/28_years_of_sun_exposure_made_the_left_side_of/

27:23 Hygiene Rules Every Man Should Follow

31:00 Sunscreen and Skin Protection

33:04 Ted's Skin Concerns and Routine

36:00 Patrick's Simple Skin Regimen

41:47 Facials, Pedicures & Spa Vibes

44:17 The Best Anti-Aging Secret

46:19 Retinol Basics and Tips

49:07 Scrubbing and Exfoliation Tips

50:27 Men's Makeup and Aging Gracefully

56:44 Key Takeaways

1:00:50 Outro

1:01:36 B-roll (TV References and Nostalgia, Dating Preferences and “Type”, Cultural Perceptions of Beauty)

In this episode, Ted and Patrick dive into the world of age gap relationships—breaking down the stigma, the history, and the real reasons behind why people choose partners much older or younger than themselves.From sugar daddying to genuine connection, they explore everything from Tracee Ellis Ross's preference for dating younger men to what age gap relationships can actually teach us about emotional maturity, relationship dynamics, and being honest about what we truly want. Enjoy!

Tracee Ellis Ross speaking with Michelle Obama https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HsnPE5Hauio

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54:30 Takeaway points on age gap dating

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1:00:46 Broll (Michael Douglas, Dennis Rodman)

On this episode, Ted and Patrick answer reader questions, starting with emotional suppression. Learn how to express yourself, build better habits, and why crying is ingrained in us. Next, long-term meaning and fulfillment. How do you avoid short-term gratification to build the life you want? Then, Olly Murs got fit, but why do Men and Women disagree on which part of his transformation looks better? After a quick detour on Ryan Reynolds, James Corden, Hugh Jackman, and Kieran Culkin, the episode ends with the hosts' responses to an “Am I The Asshole” Reddit thread exploring grief, family, and enforcing boundaries.

Links to referenced material:

Carl Rogers therapy session: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uRCD3anKsa0

Sabrina Zohar reels: https://www.instagram.com/sabrina.zohar/reels/?hl=en

Jillian Turecki reels: https://www.instagram.com/jillianturecki/reels/?hl=en

Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski: https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090

Olly Murs Twitter thread: https://x.com/imbethmccoll/status/1916513232845484340

Reddit thread: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/1kad2je/aita_for_refusing_to_go_to_my_grandmas_funeral/

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Timestamps:

00:00 - Intro

00:50 - Plan for the episode

01:50 - Question about emotional suppression

03:50 - Crying isn’t the only way to feel sad

04:42 - Crying is deeply ingrained in us

06:00 - A habit of avoiding emotions

06:50 - Sad music as a release + Allowing yourself to feel sad

08:15 - Patrick’s visualization exercise

09:52 - These habits take a long time to break

11:13 - Patrick’s experience with not taking the time to process his emotions

13:24 - The inverse can also be true - too much time on emotions

15:03 - Emotions do NOT mean you’re broken

16:35 - Long-term meaning and fulfillment question

17:18 - Society tempts men with short-term gratification

18:06 - Build for YOUR future instead

19:12 - These don’t have to be chores

20:06 - Long-term meaning and fulfillment changes over time

21:03 - Build things that last for you and other people

22:37 - The person you spend your life with is YOU

23:20 - You don’t want to maintain every aspect of your life

24:26 - Creativity comes from doing

25:41 - Do not be afraid to fail

26:31 - Being interested in improving yourself is the first step

27:05 - Crucial concepts to get started with?

28:44 - Sharing book recommendations + Interesting people to listen to

30:30 - Surround yourself with stuff you’re interested in

32:45 - As long as it doesn’t hurt you it works

33:10 - Olly Murs and Attractiveness to men vs women

34:25 - Olly Murs fitness journey

34:59 - Men’s vs women’s opinions

36:45 - Your own lens of body image + Ryan Reynolds getting in shape

37:45 - Ted gets reasons from women

38:18 - Too self absorbed/committed?

39:02 - Guys have a different impression

39:58 - Do you want that body?

41:05 - Don’t try and be in a different category

42:14 - Fitness is what’s sustainable for YOU

44:09 - Women notice insecurities IMMEDIATELY

45:32 - Hugh Jackman and phases of being ripped

46:29 - Patrick’s opinion of Ryan Reynolds and James Corden

47:27 - English vs American perception of James Corden

48:20 - Kieran Culkin

50:11 - Am I the asshole?

55:35 - Only remembering the positive about someone is detached

56:58 - Neither angel nor devil

58:26 - It takes strength to push back on this

59:25 - Family is volatile

01:00:56 - B-roll (Fondling parchment, veiny goat skin, and funny kids stories)

#emotions #fitness #fit #fitnessgoals #grief #podcast #bodyimage #selfacceptance #reddit #redditstories

Becoming a parent doesn’t just change your life — it changes you.

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0:0:00 Intro

00:44:23 Navigating the Challenges of Parenthood

0:03:09 You are not truly busy until you have kids

0:05:15 Loneliness of parenthood

0:06:05 The toll newborns can have on the relationship - renegotiating your relationship with your partner

0:06:26 Postpartum Depression and loss of identity especially for women

0:07:00 You can never truly prepare for parenthood

0:08:56 The blessing of having grandparents or extended family around to help 0:10:04 How things can go wrong

0:10:54 Israeli parole board 2011 study

0:11:27 The impact of being depleted and stressed on our decision making 0:12:20 The importance of taking care of yourself so you can parent better

0:13:09 Understanding parenting frameworks

0:13:58 Imposter Syndrome and Feeling Incompetent as a Parent

0:14:26 You need a parenting framework to not impact the raising of your child

0:14:48 Philip Larkin - This be the verse

0:15:02 What parenting reminds Patrick of

0:15:20 The Balance of Discipline and Freedom in Parenting

0:16:30 Ted sharing example of gentle parenting

0:16:53 Older Generation Parenting styles (authoritative)

0:17:15 Downside/Impact of authoritative parenting on the child

0:17:35 Kids Need Connection, Not Control

0:20:08 parenting is harder than you think

0:20:53 Your Child Wants Connection—And Control

0:21:10 Gentle Parenting: A Modern Approach

0:21:51 Gentle parenting closely matches Authoritative parenting

0:23:11 Parenting by Default or Design?

0:23:43 Parenting Isn’t That Different from Coaching Football

0:24:49 Navigating Parenting Through Generational Changes

0:26:28 Parenting Without Shame: Choosing Gentleness Over Guilt

0:27:26 Gentle Parenting Starts With Self-Reflection

0:29:24 Patrick and Ted’s Parenting Experience (The Joys & Challenges)

0:37:26 It's Okay Not to Be Ready

0:39:58 Raising Kids in a Better World

0:41:34 Worrying About Being a Good Parent Means You’re On the Right Path

0:44:58 Principles of Gentle Parenting

0:50:29 How to React Better - Teaching Kids Consequences

0:55:52 Things to Remember

1:00:16 Points to Takeaway

In this episode, Patrick and Ted talk about what makes relationships last. They discuss choosing the right partner, the skills needed to keep love strong, and the tough decision of whether to stay or leave. They also explore the grief of losing shared memories and the often-ignored regrets people have in relationships. They challenge stereotypes about divorce, discuss the role of romance (especially for men), and share personal stories about love.

Referenced articles:
Gretta Duleba – https://integrationbyparts.substack.com/p/how-relationships-actually-work
Aella – https://aella.substack.com/p/the-difficulty-in-dating-good-men

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

02:19 - Introducing the Topic of Relationships

03:49 – What We Mean by 'Romantic Relationships'

04:46 – Pressure on Romantic Partners Today

05:17 – Most Important Conversation to Have

05:46 – Clarifying Needs and Expectations Expectations Early On

06:46 – Understanding Boundaries and What You’re Looking For

06:19 – Age Gap Relationships and Shifting Viewpoints

06:36 – Cornerstone vs. Capstone Relationships

07:30 – Life Stage and Relationship Expectations

08:51 – The Myth of "The One"

08:26 – The Dangers of Over-Complicating Your Partner List

09:13 -  Compatibility Beyond Red Lines

10:04 - Avoiding Blind Commitment in Relationships

10:22 - Knowing When to Leave

10:44 - Balancing Flexibility with Non-Negotiables

11:15 - Gretta Duleba's Article

14:29 - Unspoken Assumptions in Relationships

15:19 – Matching Relationship Structures

16:00 - Relationships as Tightropes

18:20 – Conversations and Skills for Relationship Health

19:32 – Renegotiating Relationships as Life Changes

20:40 – Cultural and Familial Influence on Relationship Beliefs

22:07 – Power of Open Conversations

23:30 - Navigating Unspoken Agreements

24:00–Balancing Companionship and Intimacy in Modern Love

25:40 - Adapting to Changes Together

27:42 - The Reality of Your Twenties

29:50 - Aging, Longevity, and How Relationships Change

30:21 - Finding Stability in a Changing World

31:00 - Listen to How You Feel in Relationships

32:04 - Friendships and Emotional Health

32:18 - The Importance of Self-Awareness in Relationships

33:12 - Understanding Fear in Relationships

33:40 - Relationship Skills That Really Matter

34:10 - The Importance of Decision Making in Relationships

35:08 - Repairing Emotional Wounds

35:24 - Ted's Breakup Story and Self-Reflection

38:00 - Why Repair Is Essential in Relationships

38:11 - Rebuilding Parent-Child Relationships

38:38 - Swallowing Ego for Relationship Resilience

39:28 - Rupture and Repair in Therapy

41:22 - The Challenge of Being Comfortable in Therapy

41:43 - Confronting Difficult Family Dynamics

43:26 - How Honest Conversations Repair Relationships

44:33 - Co-Creation: Building Relationships Together

45:14 - How Life Transitions Change Relationship Phases

47:12 - Resilience and Safety

48:07 - Co-Creation Commitment

51:17 - Navigating Differences in Relationship Expectations

51:40 - Understanding the Limits of What Partners Can Give

52:46 - Turning Conflict into Growth

53:10 - Personal Growth and Boundaries

54:30 - Self-Discovery in Relationships

57:45 - The Future of Relationships

59:03 - Approaching Relationships as a Curiosity Project

1:00:00 - Modern Dating Challenges and the Pursuit of a Match

1:05:58 - High Expectations in Modern Dating

1:10:42 - Patrick Questioning Religion and Personal Identity at 16

1:13:38 - Addressing Anger

1:15:37 - Ted on the Impact of Abandoned Relationships

1:16:51 - Developing Real Relationship Skills

1:17:25 - What’s Next

1:17:45 - Ted on Romance and Relationship Skills for Men

On this episode, Ted and Patrick are joined by Alina, a dating coach. They go over the do's and don'ts of a dating profile (with examples!), how to choose the best photos for the apps, and why you might not be getting matches. Then, they improve the profiles of two of our listeners! Enjoy.

Singles Party: https://zalevska.webflow.io/korporatyv-eng

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Alina's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alina_in_london

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Timestamps:

00:00 - Intro

02:17 - Why Alina may sound familiar

03:30 - Quality and Quantity

04:50 - The initial reaction to Ted's profile

06:18 - Ted's shirtless photo + why it was bad

08:23 - How do you adjust women's profiles to get higher quality matches?

10:51 - Choosing photos that represent you well

12:50 - Different levels of connection

13:57 - READ the profiles!

15:26 - Patrick can't handle it anymore

16:00 - How profiles differ between men and women

17:25 - Good vs Bad examples

20:42 - The first picture must be a selfie/portrait, #2 = Full body

22:36 - You can't be lazy with your profiles

24:19 - Bad photo examples

25:53 - Male friends should go on photograph sessions

27:30 - The other pictures must tell us about your life

28:45 - The wrong way to present your life

31:57 - Should women post their children? What about men?

34:46 - Alina's profile if she was lazy

37:00 - If you don't have the pictures you MUST invest time to get them

39:08 - Do men need to be told what's attractive about them?

42:08 - Write what you are looking for

46:42 - Our first volunteer (kyle)

47:55 - The photos had potential, he just needs to show it

48:30 - The first photo needs to not be so close up

49:08 - Kyle's written descriptions and more photos

50:09 - Your profile gives off subconscious signals

50:43 - How guys can show off their body

52:31 - Don't be too specific in your descriptions

54:21 - The music is appealing, but it's not about him? + Better photos

55:47 - We want to see you - not your friends

57:04 - How Kyle's profile should look

58:25 - Examples of a bad profile

59:35 - Choosing questions on Hinge

01:03:53 - The impact of better photos

01:04:48 - Volunteer #2 (Will)

01:05:14 - The pictures Will chose

01:06:37 - The description

01:07:37 - He has to give more information, but in a certain way

01:09:44 - Instead of writing about selfies - learn to do it!

01:10:56 - The second part of the description (+ a huge mistake)

01:12:11 - This profile could be so interesting with a few tweaks

01:14:10 - Additional photos of Will

01:15:44 - Alina's version of his description

01:18:11 - Give us feedback Kyle and Will!

01:19:52 - Alina's singles party

01:22:31 - Where to find Alina

01:23:13 - B-Roll (Color coordinating, sex party clothes, and Patrick committing crimes)

On this episode, Ted and Patrick explore the concept of fear casting, a technique for overcoming anxiety and overthinking by defining worst-case scenarios and analyzing potential outcomes. They discuss the importance of acknowledging fears, understanding the likelihood of negative outcomes, and taking actionable steps to mitigate risks. They also share personal stories from their lives and what they learned from them. Enjoy!

Tim Ferriss’ Fear-Setting: https://tim.blog/2017/05/15/fear-setting/

Andrew Garfield on Grief and Heartbreak: https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/andrew-garfield-says-movies-that-explore-grief-like-we-live-in-time-give-people-a-chance-to-be-together-in-our-sorrow-110027071.html?guccounter=1

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Timestamps:

00:00 - Intro

01:17 - Fear casting/Fear-setting

02:45 - People with a bias towards action vs bias towards thinking

03:39 - The earlier you encounter these ideas the earlier you can improve choices

05:26 - Ted doesn’t use it

06:58 - Why it works for Tim Ferriss

07:21 - Ted’s experience with this

08:16 - The unknown is more terrifying than reality

09:10 - Jaws is scary for this reason

10:52 - Step 1 - Write down your fear to define it

11:45 - It also gives you something to talk to someone else about

12:40 - Step 2 - What do I do if the nightmare came to be?

13:23 - Patrick’s fear and how he overcame it

14:26 - Overthinkers think they’re less in charge than they are

15:41 - People like helping other people

16:09 - Step 3 - What are the more probable outcomes?

17:39 - Failure doesn’t kill you

19:28 - What is it costing you to postpone action?

21:09 - What are you waiting for?

22:26 - A process Ted designed

24:54 - Fear can make intelligent people behave in stupid ways

26:00 - Saying “Do it” just does not work

26:34 - Giving your fear form makes it concrete

27:29 - This process is much easier in retrospect + Patrick’s worst nightmare

29:58 - Patrick could have done this originally without freaking out

30:38 - Ted shares a similar story about a horrific night

32:42 - This taught him he could deal with things

33:06 - The funniest moment Ted shares about his kids

33:54 - An Interesting transition

34:19 - Andrew Garfield on grief and heartbreak

35:20 - You can love stronger if you’re willing to take risks

37:13 - Great people failed before they succeeded, failure isn’t the end of the world

37:56 - Think “how can I feel this again” instead of shying away from it

38:39 - Is this going to change my value as a person?

39:57 - Give this a try and let us know your experiences!

40:58 - Nobody’s judging what you do - internalize that

42:52 - B-Roll (creating mythology around their lives and attributing things to the wrong friend)

In this episode, Ted and Patrick dive deep into the 5 classic love languages (and why they actually matter), explore how they show up in real relationships, and call out the common ways men miss the memo completely. From physical touch and acts of service, to why gifts aren’t greedy, we unpack it all. Enjoy!

Esther Perel’s 7 verbs: https://www.estherperel.com/blog/7-verbs

Social Clip discussion: https://x.com/CandiceHorbacz/status/1906775409452048592?t=E45VojhWxhmsrecgRN2LNQ&s=19

Study by Impett, Park and Muise: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/09637214231217663

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Timestamps:

00:00 - Intro

00:58 - How Patrick was introduced to love languages

01:53 - Kanye Interlude

02:44 - The 5 love languages and what they mean

04:06 - Better versions of these quizzes

05:12 - You’ll likely have one that’s dominant

06:10 - Ted’s absent love language

07:09 - How he’s tried to improve the deficit

07:25 - Difficulty with quality time

07:42 - Patrick’s dominant love language + Ted’s hard boundary

08:51 - The assumption that underlies love languages

10:11 - Degrees of physical touch and sleep separation

11:29 - The complexity of gift giving

12:09 - Ester Perel’s 7 verbs

13:34 - Expected gifts vs unexpected

14:30 - Social media clip discussion

15:39 - Being thoughtful about cooking vs doing it as a duty

17:02 - Unseen acts of service

18:39 - Expecting to read each other’s mind

19:31 - You NEED a highly communicative, vulnerable relationship

21:25 - Don’t treat your partner like a roommate

22:25 - A lot of people try to get away with doing as little as possible

24:14 - Working back up after a period of less affection + Quality time varieties

25:21 - Banning phones to have REAL conversations

26:29 - Downsides to this approach to love languages

27:34 - Linklater’s series

28:52 - Communication doesn’t have to be verbal

30:08 - Love languages as a tool, not absolutes

31:18 - Thoughtful gift giving

33:09 - Songs as subtle gifts or acts or service

35:11 - Love languages in conjunction with attachment styles

36:14 - Sharing memes as a love language

37:49 - FUNTY

39:31 - Would sharing memes be quality time?

40:06 - Reacting to peoples voices

41:03 - The importance of doing this with children

41:33 - More on Ted’s efforts to intentional and vulnerable

43:23 - Patrick’s efforts to work on love languages

44:40 - Internal dialogue and how you speak to yourself

45:35 - Why you should read the 7 Verbs (linked above)

47:15 - Love languages are a result of childhood absence or fondness?

49:19 - Scarce things feels precious

50:37 - Leave follow up questions down below!

51:39 - B-Roll (Instagram, Enjoying lifting, Patrick’s treasured memory, and My Fair Ladying a friend)