On this episode, Ted and Patrick answer reader questions, starting with emotional suppression. Learn how to express yourself, build better habits, and why crying is ingrained in us. Next, long-term meaning and fulfillment. How do you avoid short-term gratification to build the life you want? Then, Olly Murs got fit, but why do Men and Women disagree on which part of his transformation looks better? After a quick detour on Ryan Reynolds, James Corden, Hugh Jackman, and Kieran Culkin, the episode ends with the hosts' responses to an “Am I The Asshole” Reddit thread exploring grief, family, and enforcing boundaries.
Links to referenced material:
Carl Rogers therapy session: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uRCD3anKsa0
Sabrina Zohar reels: https://www.instagram.com/sabrina.zohar/reels/?hl=en
Jillian Turecki reels: https://www.instagram.com/jillianturecki/reels/?hl=en
Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski: https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090
Olly Murs Twitter thread: https://x.com/imbethmccoll/status/1916513232845484340
Reddit thread: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/1kad2je/aita_for_refusing_to_go_to_my_grandmas_funeral/
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00:50 - Plan for the episode
01:50 - Question about emotional suppression
03:50 - Crying isn’t the only way to feel sad
04:42 - Crying is deeply ingrained in us
06:00 - A habit of avoiding emotions
06:50 - Sad music as a release + Allowing yourself to feel sad
08:15 - Patrick’s visualization exercise
09:52 - These habits take a long time to break
11:13 - Patrick’s experience with not taking the time to process his emotions
13:24 - The inverse can also be true - too much time on emotions
15:03 - Emotions do NOT mean you’re broken
16:35 - Long-term meaning and fulfillment question
17:18 - Society tempts men with short-term gratification
18:06 - Build for YOUR future instead
19:12 - These don’t have to be chores
20:06 - Long-term meaning and fulfillment changes over time
21:03 - Build things that last for you and other people
22:37 - The person you spend your life with is YOU
23:20 - You don’t want to maintain every aspect of your life
24:26 - Creativity comes from doing
25:41 - Do not be afraid to fail
26:31 - Being interested in improving yourself is the first step
27:05 - Crucial concepts to get started with?
28:44 - Sharing book recommendations + Interesting people to listen to
30:30 - Surround yourself with stuff you’re interested in
32:45 - As long as it doesn’t hurt you it works
33:10 - Olly Murs and Attractiveness to men vs women
34:25 - Olly Murs fitness journey
34:59 - Men’s vs women’s opinions
36:45 - Your own lens of body image + Ryan Reynolds getting in shape
37:45 - Ted gets reasons from women
38:18 - Too self absorbed/committed?
39:02 - Guys have a different impression
39:58 - Do you want that body?
41:05 - Don’t try and be in a different category
42:14 - Fitness is what’s sustainable for YOU
44:09 - Women notice insecurities IMMEDIATELY
45:32 - Hugh Jackman and phases of being ripped
46:29 - Patrick’s opinion of Ryan Reynolds and James Corden
47:27 - English vs American perception of James Corden
50:11 - Am I the asshole?
55:35 - Only remembering the positive about someone is detached
56:58 - Neither angel nor devil
58:26 - It takes strength to push back on this
59:25 - Family is volatile
01:00:56 - B-roll (Fondling parchment, veiny goat skin, and funny kids stories)
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