The Bold-Faced Truth Podcast

If you're like most people, you have an overwhelming sense of excitement and ambition come the new year. Also like most people, perhaps you hit Jan with a fire under your ass, but when Feb rolls around you have slowly begun to lose steam, fervor, and action. Also, 2023 kicked many of our asses, so there's that to contend with. Many people (and maybe YOU) enter the New Year with many plans and intentions, but somehow end up a bit off track sooner than later.

In this episode, I address the biggest obstacles people unknowingly establish for themselves when crafting New Year's goals and "resolutions". Yep, you read that right… many people actually make their job a shit-ton harder by not setting themselves up for success to begin with. I also share my personal planning tool I use every single year to ensure I establish solid goals in aaaaall areas of my life (not just health and money… but, yes, those too). Be sure to grab your free planning guide so you can plan and organize a seriously epic 2024 by figuring out what categories in which you would like to make headway. Plus, you'll have a sexy Planning Guide to record all your brilliance!

This pod explores:

• The two biggest mistakes people make when crafting goals for the new year
• How to assess where you are in your life now and where you want to be in a year's time
• How to create goals that are really about YOUR fulfillment, are totally attainable, and light you up
• Why you probably don't want to celebrate your 2023 accomplishments, but you kinda, absolutely MUST

Did you grab your free planning guide that accompanies this episode? Get on it, Babycakes! Here's the deal: our brain takes things waaaaay more seriously when we get out of our heads and get our thoughts/commitments out on paper. It's like, science.

So, OF COURSE I want you to make some serious changes and make shit happen in 2024, so be sure you have your Pod #497 planning guide with you while you (re) listen to this pod so you can get into some serious action. Trust… if you just listen and don't DO, you're not going to change a damn thing.

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Hello, beauties!!

I'm taking a bit of time off for the holidays and wanted to be sure to loop you in! I'll be out of the "pod office" until the new year, so stay tuned for my annual New Year Planning epidsode that will air at the beginning of Jan. #yesplease

Hope you have a gorgeous holiday and if you would like some freebies to tide you over, please scoot over to amygreensmith.com/free for a bunch of awesome loot!

Thank you so much for your support of the show and I can't wait to connect with you all again!

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You get super jelly that your partner gets to have extra time off work, so you say (in a snarky-ass tone), "Wow. Must be nice to have so much free time". Or maybe a work group you're a part of is trying to decide how to handle a specific project and instead of voicing your true thoughts you say, "We can certainly do it your way" and mutter under you breath, "And good fucking luck with that."

What we have here, folks, are two examples of the Passive-Aggressive Communication Style. Everyone's fav. But, even though we find it infuriating, many of us do it ourselves aaaaaall the time.

If you weren't properly taught how to advocate for your own wants, needs, and opinions [spoiler: none of us were], it's likely that you find yourself falling into one of the less-than-effective communication styles. Research has shown that there are four main communication styles: passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive (#guilty), and assertive. Fifty points if you can figure out which one is most effective. Yup, Assertive.

But, if you're like most, you probably dip your toes in a bit of the other three. And, you certainly are not alone. In this episode, part two of two, I take a deep dive into the Passive-Aggressive and Assertive communication styles. I cover off what they typically sound like, what their go-to tactics are, what to do if you communicate this way, and what to do if you're engaging with someone who employs the Passive-Aggressive style. Be sure to have a pen and paper handy as I spell out specific verbiage and phrases you can use… like, yesterday.

This pod explores:

• My absolute favorite tactic in calling someone out (without royally pissing them off) when they are being Passive-Aggressive
• How to untangle your own go-to Passive-Aggressive tendencies and what to say instead
• What to do if your entire family system relies on being Passive-Aggressive to communicate
• My favorite Assertive go-to phrases to use when you need (and want) to be clear, kind, and concise

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• #227: NO"vember: HOW TO SAY "NO" (AND NOT FEEL GUILTY)
• #302: True or False: Vulnerability Edition
• #426: 4 Step Process to Understanding + Navigating Anger (without losing your damn mind)
• #428: [Amy Says] Hypnosis Session To Foster Emotional Intelligence
• #429: [Dial An Expert] Emotional Intelligence And Relationship Communication With Dr. Shyamala Kiru
• #430: Understanding + Working with the 4 Communication Styles – Part 2
• The Gottman Institute
• Alvernia University Article: 4 Types of Communication Styles
• BetterHelp Article: What To Do When You Recognize Passive Behavior In Yourself Or Others

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Someone does something that really bothers you, but you'd rather pull your own teeth out than have a confrontation… so you just stay quiet. Or maybe your family is so damn aggressive that you find it easier to hide in the shadows instead of "rocking the boat".

If you weren't properly taught how to advocate for your own wants, needs, and opinions [spoiler: none of us were], it's likely that you find yourself falling into one of the less-than-effective communication styles. Research has shown that there are four main communication styles: passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive (a fan fave), and assertive. Twenty points if you can figure out which one is most effective. Yup, Assertive.

But, if you're like most, you probably dip your toes in a bit of the other three. And, you certainly are not alone. In this episode, part one of two, I take a deep dive into the Passive and the Aggressive communication styles. I cover off what they typically sound like, what their go-to tactics are, what to do if you communicate this way, and what to do if you're engaging with someone who employs one of these styles. Be sure to have a pen and paper handy as I spell out specific verbiage and phrases you can use… like, yesterday.

This pod explores:

• Understanding where a Passive Communication Style typically stems from and why it's not always a bad thing
• How to mitigate the eventual eruptions (hello, volcano!) that a Passive Communication often leads to
• The sneaky way Aggressive Communication can show up (and what to do about it)
• The absolute #1 priority if you are dealing with an extreme Aggressive Communicator (it's non-negotiable, y'all)

I have three battle-tested (and badass) keynote speeches that are ready to be delivered to your company, organization, group, or association. If you or anyone you know could benefit from me droppin' some gems (um, like, who couldn't use some new tools?) please send them to THIS FANCY INFO PAGE on my site where you/they can message me directly about specific needs.

This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp and The Bold-Faced Truth Podcast listeners get 10% off their first month at betterhelp.com/boldtruth or simply enter code boldtruth at checkout. Hello!!

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• #304: Dealing With Confrontation (When You Hate Confrontation)
• #426: [Amy Says] 4 Step Process To Understanding + Navigating Anger (Without Losing Your Damn Mind)
• #428: [Amy Says] Hypnosis Session To Foster Emotional Intelligence
• #429: [Dial An Expert] Emotional Intelligence And Relationship Communication With Dr. Shyamala Kiru
• The Gottman institute
• Alvernia University Article: 4 Types of Communication Styles
• BetterHelp Article: What To Do When You Recognize Passive Behavior In Yourself Or Others
• Atlas of the Heart, Brené Brown

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Ever wonder why having difficult conversations causes soooo much anxiety, often leaving you tongue-tied, frustrated with how you're getting your point across, and down-right bummed-the-fuck-out? It can be super stressful to approach a sticky topic with someone in your life, especially if you are anticipating a less than enthusiastic response. Believe it or not, there are actually a handful of things you can do to totally shift in your approach in order to get your message across in a MUCH more effective way. You know, without throwing your partner's shoes at them.

This episode targets 8 steps you can easily employ to feel much more powerful when you tell your mother-in-law to stop trying to parent your kids. Or whatever other challenging topic you need to address. You'll learn the most effective way to communicate your needs (and in turn get what you want) without feeling like a big ol' asshole.

This pod explores:

• What you need to do BEFORE you have a tough conversation in order to set yourself up for success
• How to begin a conversation in such a way that the other party is totally willing to hear you out
• How to get really clear on what you're asking for or requesting
• How to own your shit and feel good about what you're expressing, even if the other person isn't diggin' it

• [AMY SAYS] EP#495 – 9 WAYS TO CONTROL YOUR TONE OF VOICE + COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY

• [AMY SAYS] EP#494 – 9 POWERFUL COMMUNICATION HACKS

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Ever feel like you're expressing yourself like a #boss and the other person is like, "Why are you yelling? Please don't scream at me." And then you're all, "Whaaaa?! I'M NOT SCREAMING!" Or have you ever addressed something with your partner/bestie/co-worker and they told you your tone was a bit harsh? Um. Yeah. Me too.

Recently, a listener reached out to the show and asked how she could better control her voice when talking about serious issues with her husband. Often we think we are being crystal-fucking-clear about WHAT we are saying to another person, but in the passion of our emotions, we often lose sight of HOW we are expressing our thoughts.

In this episode, I spill nine, super-easy-to-implement communication hacks you can use to control your tone, not lose your ever-lovin' mind, and communicate in a way that gets your point across and your needs met. Boom. Just like that.

This pod explores:

• My favorite body-related, go-to tactic to use in the middle of a heated conversation
• How to develop a "code word" or "phrase" to signal the convo is going off the rails
• What to do if you actually DO lose your shit and need to clean up your mess

• [AMY SAYS] EP#494 – 9 POWERFUL COMMUNICATION HACKS

I have three battle-tested (and badass) keynote speeches that are ready to be delivered to your company, organization, group, or association. If you or anyone you know could benefit from me droppin' some gems (um, like, who couldn't use some new tools?) please send them to THIS FANCY INFO PAGE on my site where you/they can message me directly about specific needs.

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You know *that thing* when you get totally caught off guard by a request and don't know how to say "No", so you say, "Um, yeah, sure. Totally"? Or how 'bout this one: You know you need to address something with your bestie by you keep thinking, "Am I overreacting? Am I being dramatic? I feel like I should say something, but I'm so nervous!" Or maybe your boss walks into your office and asks for another report to be completed and instead of saying "I don't think I can add one more thing to my plate", you just verbally list out a litany of things that you have to accomplish, hoping that she'll magically get your drift.

Real talk. No one teaches us how to articulate our thoughts, feelings, needs, and opinions in an effective manner. We stumble around thinking we can't ever let anyone down and god forbid we actually say "No"! So we learn to "sweep things under the rug" and tell ourselves that it's not that serious until we erupt like a god-damned volcano.

If you're sick of this rat race, but still don't know #WTF to say, then prepare to burn a hole in this episode. I go off about nine, easy-to-implement communication hacks that will have you speaking up for yourself and feeling damn good about it. Get your pen and paper ready because this is your new bible.

This pod explores:

• Tons of specific phrases/scripts you can use in the toughest of interactions
• My go-to word to use to kick off a tough conversation like a boss
• How to stop those arguments before they even start (for reals)
• How to use humor and sarcasm without being a total asshat

I have three battle-tested (and badass) keynote speeches that are ready to be delivered to your company, organization, group, or association. If you or anyone you know could benefit from me droppin' some gems (um, like, who couldn't use some new tools?) please send them to THIS FANCY INFO PAGE on my site where you/they can message me directly about specific needs.

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Um. I guess I kinda lied. BUT I DIDN'T MEAN TO! 🤦🏻‍♀️ Turns out I needed one more week of a break from the show to catch up on a few things.

Be sure to grab your freebies and I promise I'll "see" you next week!

Taking a quick break from the show to catch up on a few things.

Be sure to grab your freebies!

"See" you next week!

One of the most amazing things about our current social climate is the influx of personal growth concepts and ideas. Although it's been beautiful to see the self-help space blossom and expand, there are certainly some ways in which these concepts can stir up problems and sticking points.

For instance… Ever have a situation where you're all pumped up to speak up for yourself and the other person does NOT react well? Or have you ever heard a new podcast or read a book and your first thought was that you HAVE TO tell your sister about it because Lawd, knows she needs it… and you completely forget to look at the application to YOUR life? Or maybe you've fallen into a hoarding pattern… where you collect program after program or book after book and you don't actually implement what you're learning. Or maybe they simply collect dust on your bookshelf or hard drive.

If any of those examples rings a bell, you'll #def want to catch this episode. I share 6 ways self-help can go wrong and what you can do about it. And, trust, the remedies are actually super simple. Have a listen, call yourself out if needed, and get your ass back to your powerful life.

This pod explores:

• Why some of your friends/fam may not be that interested (at all) in hearing about your personal growth
• Why thinking "I've already dealt with this!" will actually set you back and how to shift your thinking to something more powerful
• How to know if you are a personal development "collector" and how to actually IMPLEMENT what you've been learning
• How to check that you aren't branding someone as "toxic" simply so you can avoid a tough convo

It's time to stop talking constant shit to yourself. It's time to stop caring so much about what everyone else thinks of you. It's time to let go of that death grip on perfectionism, self-doubt, and people-pleasing. After all, how has that been working? That's what I thought.

Let's kick that shit to the curb, shall we? The doors are officially open for an exclusive, group-coaching immersion that will teach you the skills to access some serious "enoughness," start believing in yourself, and speak up for yourself like a bold, boundaried badass. Oh, and this 9-month, deep-dive includes TWO, 5-day, luxury retreats! Hello!

Want in? Of course you do. Clickety click RIGHT HERE or click the fancy image to get the invitation and apply for WORTHY. so we can get shit handled.

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