In this solo episode of Doing Life Different, host Lesa Koski opens up about her own boundary struggles and how one uncomfortable decision led to deep personal relief. Whether you're navigating relationships, caregiving, or simply trying to get better sleep, this short episode will leave you inspired, equipped, and ready to set a boundary of your own—without the guilt.

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• A real-life example of setting a sleep boundary in marriage
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• Why midlife is the wake-up call for boundary-setting
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• What people-pleasers need to know to feel okay saying “no”
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• Her favorite go-to phrases that protect your time, energy, and peace
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Remember: Boundaries aren’t mean. They’re wise.

🎧 Tune in and get the clarity and courage you need to take one small step toward freedom—today.

⏱️ Timestamps:

(00:00) Welcome to the Saddle Up Segment

(00:45) A personal story: Setting a bedtime boundary

(02:30) Why midlife demands better boundaries

(04:30) Tools to help you say no without guilt

(06:00) Encouragement and closing thoughts

💡 Key Takeaways:

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• Midlife often forces us to confront boundary burnout—it's not selfish to take your peace seriously.
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• A single boundary, even a small one, can lead to better health and relationships.
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• You don't need to explain your "no"—you just need to mean it.
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• Start with simple scripts to reclaim your time and energy.
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🧠 Resource Links:

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• 🎙️ Listen to the full episode with Dr. Becky Whetstone on boundaries: https://player.captivate.fm/episode/0a84b700-1ed6-46ed-9e3a-41ee9038fbda/
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• 💻 Learn more at https://www.lesakoski.com
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