The Boys Toilets Podcast with James Oliver and Jamie Clements

Welcome to episode 8, and the final episode of the season! For this episode, we decided to do something very special by welcoming Jane and Julie - our very own Mums - onto the podcast.

In a deeply meaningful, and sometimes challenging conversation, we invite Jane and Julie to speak openly and candidly about what it was like raising us, particularly as young men who experienced challenges with our mental health. We also explore the challenges of navigating a rapidly changing world as women in their 60's (sorry Jane and Julie...)

00:00 - Intro

02:52 - A Very Big Welcome to Our Moms

04:27 - Jane's and Julie's Backgrounds 

08:48 - Jamie & James' Upbringing

20:00 - Developing a "Good Boy" Side and Early Signs of Perfectionism

24:46 - Competing With the Older Sibling And Striving to Be the Best

27:37 - The Exhaustive Nature of People Pleasing

29:21 - A Parent's Perspective on their Child's Mental Health Struggles

39:35 - The Mother and Child Relationship Through the Stages of Growing Up

46:24 - The Generational Differences and Trying to Keep Up With A Changing World

1:01:29 - Nature vs Nurture in Mental Health

1:07:45 - Sensitive Boys and Nurturing Sensitivity in Typically Feminine Environment 

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We're delighted to be able to offer all listeners of The Boys Toilets Podcast a 25% discount on your first 3 (THREE!) orders - simply use the code BOYSTOILETS25 at checkout.

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Episode 7 brings the brilliant Dr. Emilia Thompson into The Boys Toilets.

Emilia is a coach, mentor, academic and fitness industry expert, supporting people in healing their relationship with food and their bodies.

This conversation covers a wide range of topics, from Emilia's history with disordered eating and bodybuilding, the issues with social media and the bulls*** in the fitness and nutrition space, to steroids, people-pleasing and why men shouldn't comment on women's bodies (even if it's complementary).

Timestamps:

00:00 - Intro

03:18 - The Purpose of Dr. Emilia's Work and Her Background

05:46 - Women's Bodybuilding and the Dysfunctional Relationship With Food

11:29 - Bringing the Unsexy Evidence of Unhealthy Eating Habits Out Into the World

15:36 - Social Media's Comfortable Numbness and the Consequences of Sharing Uncomfortable Truth

19:08 - Uncovering the Lack of Love and Compassion For Oneself

22:42 - The Bullsh*t That Goes Around in the Fitness and Nutrition Community 

28:05 - Steroids, Risking Your Health, and Taking the Shortcut to Self-Love

33:27 - How Unhealthy Relationship With Food Manifests Differently in Women And Men

41:52 - The Problematic Side of Commenting on a Woman's Body

46:59 - Creating a Safe Space In A Relationship To Communicate Vulnerable Topics 

50:18 - The Experience of Being A Woman in the Health and Fitness Space 

57:37 - Body Flaunting, People Pleasing and Dealing with Trolls

1:03:54 - How To Connect With Dr. Emilia Thompson

1:04:53 - Celebrating Each Other 

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Season 1 of the podcast is proudly sponsored by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Heath Skincare⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ - daily skin protection for the switched-on man.

We're delighted to be able to offer all listeners of The Boys Toilets Podcast a 25% discount on your first 3 (THREE!) orders - simply use the code BOYSTOILETS25 at checkout.

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In episode 6, we welcome Wade Briggs into The Boys Toilets.

Wade is an actor, father and healing coach. He also happens to be very good friends with the hosts of a certain podcast.. 🚽

In this episode, Wade shares his powerful and insightful journey of becoming a father, along with some of the lessons he's learned along the way. We also discuss the challenges men face in establishing meaningful and authentic friendships with other men.

Timestamps: 

00:00 - Intro

02:37 - Opening

04:52 - Wade's Intentions For the New Year

09:28 - Self-Compassion and Judgmental Thoughts as a Parent

22:34 - Wade's Biggest Lessons From Being a Father

28:13 - The Importance Of Not Overprotecting Our Children

38:14 - An Honest Dive Into Male Friendships 

48:42 - Giving Feedback On the Relationships We Have With One Another

1:10:44 - Wade's Links (including OF)

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Season 1 of the podcast is proudly sponsored by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Heath Skincare⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ - daily skin protection for the switched-on man.

We're delighted to be able to offer all listeners of The Boys Toilets Podcast a 25% discount on your first 3 (THREE!) orders - simply use the code BOYSTOILETS25 at checkout.

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Welcome back to The Boys Toilets! This week, we are joined by the incredible Florence Bark.

Florence is a sex and relationship expert, author, and co-host of the award winning podcast, F***s Given. She recently released her book 'This Book Will Make You Feel Something' - a a compilation of 25 erotic short-stories.

Timestamps: 

0:00 – Intro

2:42 – Introducing Florence Bark

8:58 – Do Men Read Erotic Stories?

18:30 – Male Vs Female Arousal

25:30 – Self-Pleasure Exploration & Reconnecting With The Body 

29:25 – The Effects of Overstimulation

32:53 – Masturbating in Different Positions + Personal Stories

44:56 – Emotional Release After Sex & Masturbation

48:26 – What Should Men Learn About Sex, Pleasure, and Women

52:54 – Unshaming Our Bodies, Sexuality, and Desires

1:02:05 – Wrap Up

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Season 1 of the podcast is proudly sponsored by ⁠⁠⁠⁠Heath Skincare⁠⁠⁠⁠ - daily skin protection for the switched-on man.

We're delighted to be able to offer all listeners of The Boys Toilets Podcast a 25% discount on your first 3 (THREE!) orders - simply use the code BOYSTOILETS25 at checkout.

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Episode 4 is HERE!

This week, we welcome David Chambers and Alex Holmes to The Boys Toilets. David is a men's dating, relationship, and intimacy coach, with over a decade of experience helping men and women build more meaningful connections and relationships. Alex Holmes is a dedicated hypnotherapist and coach, specialising in the exploration and resolution of masculine-based trauma and shame.

In this round table episode, we open up the conversation to explore and compare our upbringings - the challenges we faced at home, as well as our relationships with our fathers. We also explore the topics of generational trauma, stoicism, and healing our relationship with anger.

In this episode we cover:

00:00 - Intro

01:03 - Introducing David Chambers and Alex Holmes

03:57 - Alex' Journey and What Led Him to Start Working With Men 

11:29 - David's Life Path and How He Started Working With Men

21:59 - Jamie's Experience With Facing His Masculinity 

25:22 - James' Journey Through Mental Health Challenges

32:02 - Personal Stories of Facing & Healing the Father Wound

46:55 - Acknowledging the Generational Trauma

53:12 - Intentional Expression of the Suppressed Anger  

1:09:17 - Healing Our Relationship With Anger 

1:17:11 - Therapy Based on Shared Life Experiences 

1:28:28 - The Non Verbal Communication Happenings Between People 

1:41:11 - How To Connect with Alex 

1:43:03 - Where to Find David

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Season 1 of the podcast is proudly sponsored by ⁠⁠⁠Heath Skincare⁠⁠⁠ - daily skin protection for the switched-on man.

We're delighted to be able to offer all listeners of The Boys Toilets Podcast a 25% discount on your first 3 (THREE!) orders - simply use the code BOYSTOILETS25 at checkout.

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Pat Divily joins us for episode 3. Pat is a Coach, Men's Work Facilitator, Speaker and Author.

Pat shares his incredible insights around authenticity, his mission to create an authentic and connected world, as well as his experiences and teachings around exploring our shadow, the masculine archetypes and how we can access and enjoy our full expressions as men.

00:00-Intro

01:00-Opening

03:02-Pat's Background

06:02-Changing Identities in Different Environments

13:59-Creating a Sense of Mission in Life

18:07-The Archetypes of Masculinity

23:19-Shadow Work33:35-Healing and the Balancing Act

36:47-Viewing Life Through the Lens of the Nervous System

42:17-Creating a Safe Environment & Regulating the Nervous System

50:03-How to Bring Men to Do the Inner Work

Season 1 of the podcast is proudly sponsored by ⁠⁠Heath Skincare⁠⁠ - daily skin protection for the switched-on man.

We're delighted to be able to offer all listeners of The Boys Toilets Podcast a 25% discount on your first 3 (THREE!) orders - simply use the code BOYSTOILETS25 at checkout.

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In this episode, we are joined by Tara Margulies. Tara is a Feminist Content Creator, Business Owner and Pole Dancer.

In this discussion, we explore the rise of feminism and the issues facing both men and women as a result, the challenges of creating content in today's world of social media, and the polarising opposites of extreme feminism vs. toxic masculinity.

In this episode we cover:

00:00-Intro

00:51-Opening

01:42-Tara's Background

04:06-Tara's Journey with Feminism

06:28-Feminism in Social Media & Common Misconceptions About It

16:05-The Extreme Polarities Around Feminism

19:27-Creating Space for Open and Compassionate Conversation

24:44-The Need for Purpose and How Men Find It

31:29-Is It Safe for Men to Soften

34:03-The Super Women Syndrome

39:22-The Suffering Men Are Currently Facing

42:31-Opening to New Ideas & Allowing Change

49:32-Key Learnings

59:22-Where to Connect with Tara

Season 1 of the podcast is proudly sponsored by ⁠Heath Skincare⁠ - daily skin protection for the switched-on man.

We're delighted to be able to offer all listeners of The Boys Toilets Podcast a 25% discount on your first 3 (THREE!) orders - simply use the code BOYSTOILETS25 at checkout.

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Welcome to "The Boys Toilets" - with your hosts, James Oliver and Jamie Clements.

James Oliver is a men's life coach from Bournemouth, and Jamie Clements is a breathwork coach and facilitator based in London, and founder of The Breath Space.

Join us as we explore some of the most needed, and often avoided, conversations that men and boys need to be a part of.

Throughout the first season, we'll be speaking with some incredible guests, to explore a wide range of important topics - from Masculinity to Feminism, Friends to Fatherhood, Love, Sex and everything in between, we dive deep in search of the support, awareness and education that men truly need.

Today's episode introduces the podcast, your hosts, and explains the premise of what we're for, and what we hope to achieve through these conversations.

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Season 1 of the podcast is proudly sponsored by Heath Skincare - daily skin protection for the switched-on man.

We're delighted to be able to offer all listeners of The Boys Toilets Podcast a 25% discount on your first 3 (THREE!) orders - simply use the code BOYSTOILETS25 at checkout.

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In this episode we cover:

00:46 - Introduction

02:27 - Who is James Oliver

06:28 - Who is Jamie Clements

10:09 - The Purpose of The Boys Toilets Podcast

27:03 - Direction, Guests, and Topics

30:00 - Welcoming the Opposing Viewpoint

33:29 - Where to Connect with and Follow James & Jamie

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