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They say you never get over your first love, but for this week's guest...it took three break ups for them to decide they were done for good. What was the final straw to break off this passionate relationship they thought they'd always run back to? We'll find out when we break down this week's break up.

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This week we're raising awareness for Calvary Women's Services in Washington D.C.: https://www.calvaryservices.org/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(03:50): How they met

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(11:45): The first break up

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(18:53): The second break up

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(37:03): The third break up

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(45:18): Reflecting/advice

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(55:31): Teaser

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[CW: Substance abuse, suicide, mental illness]

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Your wedding is the one day you shouldn't look around and wonder where your besties are- they should be right beside you. When this week's interviewee got a call from one of her bridesmaids that she couldn't be in the wedding, she was completely blindsided. How did a friendship that spanned over years come to an end right before the most important days of her life? We'll find out when we break down this week's break up.

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This week we're raising awareness for Jubilee Women's Center in Seattle: https://jwcenter.org/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(03:47): How they met/their early years

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(11:47): How the bridal party complicated the friendship

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(17:26): Reflecting on the friendship

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(21:56): Advice

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(26:20): Teaser

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When she joined us on S5E10, she told us her daughter and husband had an affair. After finding out that her grandson was her husbands biological child, she knew she had to divorce him, but she wasn't ready. What has happened since the interview? We'll find out when we break down this week's break up.

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Listen to part one [S5E10] here: https://shows.acast.com/the-break-up-break-down/episodes/6661a5d5a44e5000113fcf8a

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This week we're raising awareness for Women Against Abuse in Philly: https://www.womenagainstabuse.org/services

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(06:27): What has happened since the interview 9 months ago?

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(16:00): Why did they have the affair?

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(17:17): Could she and her daughter ever reconcile?

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(19:50): Her relationship with her grandson

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(21:33): Looking to the future

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(25:47): Reflecting/advice

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(27:28): Teaser

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[CW: Incest]

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Have you ever felt manipulated by your partner? Did you try to break up with them, but they kept luring you back in? Abby brings on LMSW Vernique Esther to talk about how to recognize manipulation, set boundaries, and leave if necessary. 

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Check out Vernique Esther's:

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Website: https://www.verniqueesther.com/

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The Wholeness Academy: https://www.thewholenessacademy.com/

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Books: https://www.verniqueesther.com/shop

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(00:00): Introducing Vernique

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(00:56): How do I know I'm getting manipulated?

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(04:06): Why do people manipulate?

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(07:07): Why do I feel bad for setting up boundaries?

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(09:18): How do I handle religious manipulation?

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(12:10): What if my partner threatens me w/ self-harm to keep us from breaking up?

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(14:04): How do I leave a manipulative relationship?

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(15:00): Can you ever work through manipulation?

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(18:24): How to set boundaries in a relationship with someone who has manipulative tendencies?

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(20:55): Why do I want to go back to someone who manipulated me?

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(23:08): How do I convince myself I deserve better?

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[CW: This episode briefly discusses: self-harm/suicide, domestic violence, religious trauma]

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This week we're bringing awareness to My Sister's House in Charleston, SC: https://www.mysistershouse.org/give

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(05:26): Episode intro/her first marriage

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(10:57): Introducing Anthony (her second husband)

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(14:17): Introducing the The Boss (the third husband)

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(15:27): The Affair

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(17:29): Her second divorce

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(21:01): When her 3rd marriage/relationship started going downhill

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(24:46): When she started to realize this marriage was unhealthy

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(29:32): Reconnecting with Anthony

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(37:23): When she finally decided to leave The Boss

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(38:29): Reflecting on these relationships

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(44:51): Teaser

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Relationship expert Kate Mansfield joins Abby in London to explain how men communicate differently than women do in relationships.

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Kate Mansfield: https://katemansfield.com/

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Break Down Bonus: Is it my intuition or my anxiety?: https://shows.acast.com/the-break-up-break-down/episodes/break-down-bonus-is-it-intuition-or-my-anxiety

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Restraining Order Basics: https://www.findlaw.com/legalblogs/law-and-life/restraining-order-basics/

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