038 Are you ready to stop spinning your wheels and start actually see your dreams and goals manifest?  A push goal is the #1 key strategy I've discovered from all of my vast research and experience in goals and dream setting.

It's so simple, I felt rather silly that I had never thought of it before.

I'd love to be praying for your push goal!  (My eyes only!)

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037 New year resolutions, goals, dreams - is it all a tad bit (or a lot) overwhelming for you?  Guess what, me, too!  It's really out of discipline that I, and now my husband and I, write out goals and dreams.  

Do you want to know the simplest system I've which I've pieced together to write goals that actually work?  (Hint, hint, I've been doing this for 15+ years and have tried it all!) It doesn't have to be so hard, take so long and require you to have a personality bypass.

And, need some motivation as to why you should even bother to write goals?

I answer the why and simplify the how in today's episode! 

I also share with you some pretty incredible stories from my life of how this habit has drastically changed our family's life in ALL areas - for the better!

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036 Dreams and Goals Part 1 of 5!  The 7-Day Mini Habits Challenge - Do Less, Achieve More will make your 2020 brilliant!  Register by Mon., Jan. 6 at www.joywilder.com/doless!

To share your goals or not share your goals?  The brain science suggests you shouldn't share your goals often nor with many people because:

• Receiving premature praise for a goal makes follow through less likely.
• If you’re a beginner, getting negative feedback could stop you.
• Hearing about competition may make you back off.
• Accountability doesn’t always work: Sometimes it decreases your motivation.

So when and with whom should you share your goals?

• Share them after you're taking action and have put a plan in motion.
• Have high levels of trust with that person.

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035 Why is it it so hard to pace ourselves?  I used to chronically struggle with this! One thing I do as part of my Micro-Planning System™ is:  

• Write my simple to do list the night before.
• Reality check if I have enough resources to do the things (i.e., time and childcare).
• Pivot (a.k.a. erase stuff), when needed.

My problem is I struggle to realistically estimate the time tasks will take - especially stuff I've never done before!

The day I recorded this, however, I had a win! I recognized a time and energy shortage in the day's plan. I post-phoned two classes I was going to attend that week at the Women's Business Center. This was hard. I hate feeling like I'm delaying accomplishment. However, I wanted to show-up 100% for that night's Challenge's Grad Party. Life's about trade-offs, right?

And, man, I am so glad I did 5 minutes of planning that night before because it really saved the day that day!

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034 Leave a Review to Win a $100 Amazon Gift Card by 12/6! Did you know that your dreams and desires for mothering might change frequently and a lot?  Today I give a behind the scenes look of how much my desires have changed over the last 10+ years.  These changes took me off guard, caused a great deal of guilt and a fair amount of confusion for myself and my amazing husband :) . 

• What made me tackle this struggle?
  • I realized that I was ignoring my kids a lot. 
  • What had made me happy I just wasn’t as happy and I was getting angry about my whole life situation.
  • I really had to examine what I was doing and how I was treating my children.
  • Working all the time and exhausted.
• How I realized I could overcome this?
  • My belief that you can have the life you want.
  • Figuring out what you want (that’s the hardest)
  • Visualizing it, manifesting it, declaring it in faith
  • Start taking action
    • Conversations with my husband
    • With my MIL 
    • With other Mom friends.
    • Started hiring more sitters as an act of faith.
    • We’re hiring an au pair.

Hopefully today's episode encourages you to not be taken off guard if you experience these shifts and how to tackle them in a healthy way!

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033 Today April pull's back the curtain on her Lifestyle Entrepreneur Roadmap™ - laying out the 5 phases of business and how our success hinges on us understanding and embracing each phase. 

She also shares incredible wisdom on the importance of picking the right business model for the right season of your life, especially if you have children!  She echos my belief that for mothers of young children, it doesn't get better than an online business model!

Finally, we wrap up with April's insight on a free, powerful strategy to overcome the influx of online businesses and get your online business selling more than ever before.

April Beach is a lifestyle business expert for women who want to defy the status quo, build unconventional companies, and live life on their terms around their family.  Over the last 23 years, she's been an author, speaker, business development strategist, online business pioneer, and has carved her niche as the go-to expert to design your business around family. 

She is mom of three teen boys, and just celebrated her 21st wedding anniversary with her husband.

April's Lifestyle Entrepreneur Roadmap™

• Phase 1:  Purpose
• Phase 2:  Launch
• Phase 3:  Growth
• Phase 4:  Freedom
• Phase 5:  Impact

Connect more with April!

• SweetLife Entrepreneur Podcast
• SweetLife Business Roadmap™ at www.aprilbeach.com/quiz or text "sweetlife" to 31996
• "Burn the Picket Fence" family vlog

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032 Here are my top Micro-Planning™ tips to enjoy and prep for the December holiday season!

• Set vision and boundaries for the month:
  • Recognize that you can create a different rhythm for Dec.
  • Proactive vs. reactive
  • How do you want to feel Jan. 1?
    • Refer to Trailer, 5 Yrs in 5 Min.
    • Beware of depression
  • What is best for your family?  Consider how to transfer family values in this season.
  • What memories do you want to have created?
  • What traditions do you want to start, con't or end?
  • Relationship building things:  puzzles, games, sports, outings.  
  • Release unhealthy, self-imposed expectations.
  • Discuss with partner and kids (family meeting!)
  • Clearly and kindly communicate your boundaries to others.
    • Travel or not travel - this may be best to communicate far in advance.
  • Say, "No":
    • Learn the most effective, least painful way to say, "No," in my 7 Day Challenge
• Outsourcing/Delegating:
  • Martyr syndrome:  You do not need to do everything.
  • Consider outsourcing just for Dec.
  • Grocery delivery
  • Cleaners
  • Personal assistant or virtual assistant
  • Gift wrapping: partner, kids or neighborhood teen
  • Additional babysitters/childcare/mothers helper
  • USPS ships packages from home;
    • will mail you boxes and stamps (for free, I think!)
  • Cater holiday food:  Costco, Boston Market
    • This may need to be done in advance.
•  Micro-Planning™/Scheduling:
  • List all activities you want to do.
  • Invite input from partner and kids.
  • FOMO/Margin
  • Be willing to cancel.
  • Plan your month.
  • Meal planning for each week.
• Gifts:
  • Keep lists in phone throughout the year:
    • Wish lists for kids
    • Gifts bought for others list
  • Gifts for your kids:
    • Consignment sales; shop year round
    • Set the bar low by starting with just 3-5 gifts.
    • Universal Amazon wish list.
    • If you have excess, re-gift gifts.
    • Pull out 1 gift a week or over breaks and summer.
    • Rotate toys.
    • Use as an excuse to get rid of a bunch of stuff to make room for incoming gifts.
  • Gifts for others:
    • Order online.
    • Avoid waiting until the last minute to avoid going to stores.
• Decorations:
  • Invite a friend or two without children over to decorate.
    • Such a blessing to people who don't have little kids.
    • Such a blessing for the adults!
    • Frozen lasagna for dinner.
  • Simplify, especially when kids young.
  • Tablecloth
  • Cloth napkins
  • Value based decorations:
    • Wooden/magnetic advent calendar
    • Nativity scene

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031  I never thought that I dealt with anxiety. Until the last few months. With all the transitions in our lives over the last year, especially the stress surrounding launching two new businesses and the addition of a fourth baby, it's gotten a bit intense!

Here are the my Top 7 Tips on How to Kick Anxiety to the Curb: (Well, trying to, most days!)

• Identify the Anxiety:
  • Choose to ID my feelings vs. DISMISS my feelings
  • Anxiety sign posts for me:
    • heart racing;
    • obsessive thoughts on an issue;
    • guilt;
    • irrational, negative thoughts, i.e., “I’m ruining my family’s life.”
• Release the Need to Control:
  • Pray like it depends on God and work like it depends on me.
  • I can only control things within my circle of control.
• Reframing Mantras:
  • “I have more than enough time to do everything that I need to do.”
  • “I laugh at the days to come.”
  • I release the timeline.
  • No big deal.
  • Rome wasn’t built in a day.
• Manage My Emotions:
  • Avoid emotional extremes of adult temper tantrums or meltdowns.
  • Emotional Intelligence 2.0
• Talk to 1 to 2 People:
  • Your partner, coach, friend or therapist
• Prayer/Meditation/Presence of ️God:
  • Meditation: HeadSpace app taught me about meditation which has really improved my prayer life with Jesus.
  • More time in prayer and the presence of God
• Self-care:
  • Step outside yourself and observe yourself as if you’re a doctor or counselor.
    • 3 S's:  Sleep, Sugar, Stimulants
    • Exercise
    • Nutrition
    • Relationships
    • Routine

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030  I believe children should be seen AND heard. Yet, #thestruggleisreal when it comes to respecting your children.

Some things I’ve discovered to help me in my quest to respect my children:

• Think of them as little people. Like an adult in a small body.
• The “Good Neighbor Principle”: only talk to your children the way you would a good neighbor.
• Remind myself that when my children are respected everywhere else except their home, they’ll fight back for that respect at home. It can get ugly. And, exhausting.
• Imagine your partner saying such things to me and how I’d feel: “Look, I don’t really care if you want to do the dishes or not. You’re going to do it because I said so.” “It's not a big deal that you broke your favorite necklace. Just move on with it.”
• Apologize.  Be specific in your apology.
• Speak in the positive.  Tell children (and adults) what to do versus what not to do.
• Emphasize the virtue, not the vice. I.E., "Please use a quite voice," vs. "Please don't yell."

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029 We break down the root cause of almost ALL our problems and how daily affirmations can conquer them!

• T.F.A.:
  • Thoughts
  • Feelings
  • Actions
• Habit Triggers:  connect your affirmations to points in your day
• Books mentioned:
  • Prayer of Jabez
  • The 4:8 Principle
  • Hung by the Tongue

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