Let's just say it: parenting sucks. Nobody tells you that going in, and if they do, you don't believe them until you're in it. This episode is me and Jess — childhood friends who found our way back to each other through the internet — sitting down and finally saying out loud what everyone's thinking but nobody posts about.
We talk about the stuff that doesn't make it into the baby books: postpartum depression, birth plans that go out the window the second labor starts, regretting the decision but never the kid, and why "it gets better" is kind of a lie. It doesn't get better. It gets different. Some days that's a relief. Some days parenting still just sucks.
We compare it to leveling up in a video game because honestly that's what it feels like — you clear one boss and there's just another one waiting. We talk about the darkest parts of postpartum, the shame that keeps parents quiet, and why it's fine to love your kid and hate your Tuesday. Parenting sucks on Tuesdays. It might be great on Wednesday. Both are true.
If you've ever felt like a piece-of-shit mom, questioned every choice you've made, or thought you were the only one who felt this way — you're not. Parenting sucks. It's also not going to break you. You're going to be okay.
In this episode:
- Why our generation is the first to say "I don't think I want kids" out loud
- Postpartum depression, regret, and the shame that keeps parents silent
- Birth stories and birth plans, and why neither one matters as much as you think going in
- Parenting as a video game — comparing struggles to leveling up
- The internet as both a lifeline and a battleground for parents
- Why parenting sucks one minute and feels like magic the next — and why both are allowed
I hope this resonates with you, and I wills ee you here next week for another amazing conversation!
Love, Cherie Leigh