Most people don’t fail because they’re “undisciplined.” They fail because they build goals on invisible expectations, rigid rules, and versions of themselves that don’t match their real capacity.

In this eye-opening episode, Laura breaks down the psychology behind why so many pursuits—fitness, weight loss, habit building, career changes—fall apart. She exposes the unconscious assumptions that sabotage progress, why we cling to predetermined outcomes, and how to pivot when reality doesn’t match the plan.

You’ll learn:

• Why rigid goal-setting collapses under real-world pressure

• How unconscious beliefs shape your expectations and emotional reactions

• The surprising reason “falling off track” isn’t a character flaw

• How to adapt faster by treating your goals like experiments rather than tests

• The power of self-compassion for long-term success

• How to build a personal “pursuit ecosystem” that supports sustainable change
  

Laura closes with transformative reflection questions to help you design goals for the New Year with clarity, honesty, and resilience.

If you want growth that lasts—not just motivation that fades—this episode gives you the blueprint.

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What if “satisfied” isn’t a finish line… but a practice?

In this episode, Laura sits down with Eric, a former fitness coach turned mindset coach at Change By Challenge, to unpack what it really means to feel satisfied in your life—not just on paper. They trace Eric’s journey from chasing external results to learning how to create inner peace, clarity, and a life that actually feels good to live.

Together, they explore:

• How Eric’s definition of “satisfied” evolved from a vague goal to a daily practice of living his values

• Why your environment—internal and external—is often the real “secret sauce” behind lasting change

• The subtle ways we treat symptoms instead of root causes, and how that keeps us stuck

• How to recognize resistance as information, not failure

• The power of slowing down, asking better questions, and embracing not knowing

• Why self-compassion isn’t a soft skill, but a strategic one for sustainable growth
  

And if you’re ready to turn these insights into action, come hang out inside The Challengers Circle—Laura’s coaching community where you get tools, support, and accountability to practice this work in real life, not just listen to it.

#mindsetcoaching #personaldevelopment #innerpeace #selfgrowth #emotionalintelligence #selfcompassion #mentalwellbeing #lifesatisfaction #changestartswithin #ChangeByChallenge #TheChallengersCircle

We don’t just fear losing money or time — we fear losing identity, status, relationships, and the story we’ve built about who we are. That fear silently shapes our choices every day.

In this episode, we break down the psychology of loss aversion, sunk cost effect, sure loss aversion, status quo bias, and commission vs. omission bias—and how they keep you stuck in jobs, relationships, and habits you’ve already outgrown.

You’ll learn how to spot when you’re:

• Holding on just because you’ve “already invested so much”

• Choosing the familiar over the better option, simply because it’s familiar

• Judging yourself more harshly for taking action than for staying frozen

• Avoiding small, certain losses that are actually protecting you from bigger ones
  

We also dive into “kill criteria”—clear rules for when you will walk away—so you stop letting emotion and ego drag you deeper into bad decisions. And we end with a challenge: look back at the last few years and ask, Where have these biases been running the show in my life?

If you’re ready to stop being a victim of your own wiring and start acting as the greatest agent of your own life, this episode is your wake-up call. 🔊

Looking for support, check out The Challenger’s Circle = https://www.changebychallenge.com/challengers-circle

We all know what it feels like to be misunderstood by other people—but what about when you misunderstand yourself? In this episode, Laura breaks down the quiet, everyday ways we mislabel our emotions, misread our motives, and then build whole stories (and decisions) on top of those inaccuracies.

You’ll hear how a client who thought she was in an “anxious season” was actually experiencing excitement and eagerness, and why slowing down to accurately name our inner world is a non-negotiable skill for emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and healthy relationships.

Laura then introduces metacognition—the ability to think about your thinking—and shares how she used it in a real-life dilemma: deciding whether to cancel client sessions while feeling unwell. Instead of defaulting to guilt or people-pleasing, she walked through her own resistance, uncovered the real drivers underneath, and made a decision that was aligned, not reactive.

From there, the conversation shifts to misunderstandings with others:

• How to spot when you’re no longer on the same page (agitation, defensiveness, checked-out listening)

• Practical tools like active listening and permission-based communication

• Turning conflict into a collaborative, back-and-forth dialogue instead of a power struggle
  

Laura closes by reminding us that the foundation of all effective communication is self-understanding—knowing your emotions, motivations, and thought patterns so you can lead yourself (and your life) with more clarity and self-respect.

Finally, if you’re heading into the holiday season feeling emotionally stretched, Laura invites you into The Challenger Circle—her community for people who want to build emotional intelligence, upgrade their internal narrative, and navigate life’s hardest moments with more grounding, curiosity, and choice.

What if the fastest way to change your life is the simplest—your next breath? In this conversation, Laura sits down with Anthony (half English, half Italian; citizen of many cultures) to unpack how conscious breathing became his lifelong practice after a transformative moment at age eight.

Together they explore how breathwork sharpens clarity, de-escalates conflict, and builds real agency—at home, at work, and in the chaos of everyday life.

You’ll learn:

- How to use breath as an anchor in hard moments

-How to use breath to reset for energy

- How to utilize breath as a pathway to compassion in your relationships.

Anthony also shares resources from Alchemy of Breath—free weekly sessions, Italy retreats—and his book Outer Chaos, Inner Calm, including a limited one-to-one offer for readers.

Join the Challenger Circle TODAY and join a community of your peers all lifting each other to new heights= https://www.changebychallenge.com/challengers-circle

Connect With Anthony: 

• ALCHEMYOFBREATH.COM

• OUTER CHAOS INNER CALM 

• ASHA.GLOBAL 

  
  

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What if your past wasn’t a prophecy…but a draft? In this episode, we unpack how to transform your future by intentionally redefining your story. Most of us use history as our decision-making template, accidentally creating a loop where yesterday becomes tomorrow. But when you choose to rewrite your narrative in real time….recognizing that we rarely know we’re in a pivotal moment while it’s happening…you reclaim authorship of your identity and align it with who you want to be and how you want to experience your life.

You’ll learn:

• Why the brain defaults to the past, and how to break that prediction habit

• A simple narrative reframe to choose identity-aligned actions today

• How to spot “live” key moments and pivot on purpose

• Practical prompts to move from old labels to your future self
  

Perfect for anyone ready to stop reliving the same chapter and start living forward with intention.

JOIN THE CIRCLE AND START LEADING TODAY! https://www.changebychallenge.com/challengers-circle 

#personaltransformation #rewriteyourstory #futureself #identityshift #mindset #narrativetherapy #selfleadership #intentionalliving #emotionalintelligence #growth

What if the fastest way to change isn’t more control—but deeper acceptance? In this intimate conversation, Laura Weiner-Kiser and coach Jess Gruss unpack how “being okay” can actually block growth, why anger and sadness are intelligent signals (not flaws), and how community dissolves the myth that you’re the only one struggling.

We explore:

• Emotional vulnerability & self-acceptance—feeling vs. fixing

• The paradox of control—why acceptance precedes change

• The value of shared struggle—belonging as a catalyst for growth

• Reclaiming anger & superiority—turning “bad traits” into protective wisdom

• Trusting the process—faith through uncertainty, disappointment, and detours
  

If you’ve ever tried to “think” your way out of feelings, this episode offers a practical reframe: let emotions move through, learn what they’re asking for, and integrate them into who you’re becoming.

Don’t wait, join us TODAY in the Challengers Circle= https://www.changebychallenge.com/challengers-circle 

#EmotionalVulnerability #SelfAcceptance #Anger #Sadness #ParadoxOfControl #Acceptance #CommunitySupport #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalIntelligence #Uncertainty #TrustTheProcess #LauraWeinerKiser #JessGruss

Are you tired of feeling misunderstood? Dive into the unfiltered reality of human communication and discover the secret behind why your attempts at vulnerability often backfire.

In this deep-dive episode, we expose the silent, powerful mechanism of self-sabotage: masking. When we express vulnerability through a confident, aggressive, or 'fixed' exterior to protect ourselves, the listener doesn't receive your true need—they only perceive the mask (confidence, aggression, control). This unconscious act creates the very isolation and pain you were trying to prevent.

This is more than just a communication skills lesson. It's a journey into personal development and emotional intelligence. You will learn to:

• Identify the 'mask' you use when seeking support.

• Decipher the hidden context listeners receive, regardless of your words.

• Cultivate discernment and wisdom in choosing who, when, and how to share your truth.

• Shift from 'projecting and fixing' to 'stable and supportive' self-talk.

Pain is inevitable, but strength is a choice. A broken bone grows back stronger when it's treated with care and wisdom. Learn how to approach life's hardest moments—and your most crucial conversations—with the wisdom needed to not just endure, but to amplify your personal growth and finally forge genuine connection.

We're stronger together...JOIN THE CHALLENGERS CIRCLE- https://www.changebychallenge.com/challengers-circle

#Communication #Vulnerability #Self-Sabotage #Relationship #AdvicePersonal #GrowthEmotional Intelligence #Confidence #Discernment.

What if the stories you tell yourself are the biggest obstacle to your growth? In this episode, Laura and hypnotherapist/author Jennifer unpack how to deconstruct beliefs, work with the reticular activating system (RAS), and leverage the placebo effect to create real change. You’ll hear practical ways to pause, choose your response, and shift from overwhelm to intentional abundance—plus a look at Jennifer’s upcoming book and her hypnotherapy practice.

In this episode:

• Navigating change & identity — unlearning old labels to uncover who you really are

• Belief, perception & reality — placebo, RAS, and guiding your brain’s focus

• Balance in action — moving from overload to agency; creating space before you respond

• Jennifer’s work — her upcoming book and how hypnotherapy supports behavior change
  

Why should you listen…

▶️ Actionable mindset tools

▶️ Science-backed insights

▶️ Compassionate strategies to rewrite your narrative and lead yourself through change.

A better question is why SHOULDN’T you listen 

Jennifer's Website= https://www.ferrantefamilywellness.com/ 

Jennifer’s Book = https://www.ferrantefamilywellness.com/product-page/solos-a-story-for-these-times-pre-order 

#personal growth #mindset #hypnotherapy #belief change #reticular-activating-system #placebo-effect #emotional-intelligence #behavior-change #resilience.

What if the biggest leadership challenge is the one in your mirror? In this episode, we unpack self-leadership—how to become someone you’d actually follow. We explore why you “can’t force the horse to drink,” and how a smarter approach to guiding yourself turns stalled intentions into consistent action. You’ll learn how to choose how you show up, replace pressure with direction, and integrate skills through practice so change actually sticks.

You’ll learn:

• A clear framework for self-leadership you can use today

• How to move from self-criticism to self-direction

• The power of integration and repetition (why skills > motivation)

• Practical rituals to lead yourself when you don’t feel like it
  

Want structure and support while you build these muscles? Join The Challengers Circle—our community designed to help you practice self-leadership in real life. It’s free to start, with an option to upgrade when you’re ready.

Learn more about The Challengers Circle= https://www.changebychallenge.com/challengers-circle

#self-leadership #personal growth #behavior-change #habits #mindset #resilience #integration #dailypractice #accountability #The-Challengers-Circle