If you've ever heard the phrase "finding the man in the boat," you know it’s been a punchline for decades. But under the jokes lies a deep misunderstanding of the clitoris—and it's time we got it right.

In this juicy, eye-opening episode of What Excites Us!, host and certified sex coach Gwyn Isaacs takes us on a tour of the Clitardis: the mighty, misunderstood, and mysteriously internal clitoris. We explore its true shape (spoiler: it’s way bigger than we were taught), its vast and varied sensation potential, and how it responds uniquely to different kinds of touch. Every. Single. One.

We unpack common myths (nope, science hasn’t really confirmed that 8,000 nerve endings claim) and explore why most so-called vaginal orgasms are actually clitoral in nature (take that, Freud). Gwyn breaks down anatomy in a way that's smart, funny, and super accessible—even for those who haven’t cracked a sex-ed book since high school.

Plus, there’s discussion about how testosterone affects the clitoris in trans folks, what to know about changes during menopause, how pleasure changes over time, and why you really should talk to your partner(s) about what feels good. Like, often. Like—every time.

Whether you're learning something new, validating your own experience, or just here for the phrase "Brontosaurus wearing a scarf," this episode has something for you.

TLDR: All clits are different. You have to ask. And yes, it really is bigger on the inside.

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