The Co-Elevate Podcast with Shana

Curious about starting your own brand? Afraid to make video content online but want to take the leap? Join me for an insightful episode about the importance of building your online presence with Kate Sybilrud, Director of Client Experience at Pineda Media. Together, we share Entrepreneur & Social Media Expert Ryan Pineda's strategy for building your online brand and building a loyal audience. In just 1 hour, you'll gain the inspiration you need to put yourself out there in a BIG way and go from being unknown to unforgettable! 

3:48 We all want to feel significant in the world

4:14 Embrace our uniqueness

4:51 Showing up on camera is also showing up in life

7:00 How Kate found Ryan

8:58 Why Kate connected with Ryan

9:20 What we’re afraid of in terms of being on camera

10:00 Connecting through people's IG Stories

10:30 Embracing Discomfort

11:15 Making Connections Through Social Media

14:30 Shana's process finding a job and not settling

16:45 Your social media can get you hired

17:25 You want the client that is the BEST FIT for you!

18:00 What we do at Pineda Media

18:48 How do you be uniquely you?

20:00 Dealing with criticism online

21:20 Know your "WHY" in creating content

24:00 Discussing Jealousy

25:00 Being Qualified / Credible Online

27:00 Not Giving Up After Consistently Posting Content

27:00 Getting Stuck in Perfectionism

29:00 We all have the same fears

30:00 Value of having a content coach

35:00 Using Social Media to Your Advantage

36:00 Don't Play it Safe by Hiding The REAL YOU on Social Media

39:00 Community at Pineda Media

40:00 Being Self-Aware

41:00 Having people to hold you accountable

46:15 Share about your interests and show your personality!

46:42 You don’t have to have a business to have your own brand

48:00 Fear of not having enough followers

50:00 Understand the impact you can make & know your power/greatness

55:24 Maya Angelou Quote

55:45 Ryan Pineda's Strategy (short-form to long-form, etc)

57:34 Brand Blueprint Overview

58:06 BE YOU

1:00:00 Shana's 3 insights from client call 

Are you considering moving in with your partner? Are you questioning whether now is the right time? Today, my best friend Cassidy Rilley joins us to share about her experience moving in with her boyfriend, Bobby. She covers all the questions you might have about what it's like and even speaks to the best practices of cohabitating! In just a half hour, you'll gain the clarity you need to decide whether you're ready to make the leap in your relationship!

1:06 When is the "right time" to move in together?

4:57 A strategy to implement once you live together

7:49 How do you bring up "moving in" with your partner?

12:05 Best part of living together

15:25 Most challenging part of living together

17:41 Should you discuss how you'll share responsibilities before moving in?

19:28 Words of wisdom for anyone considering moving in w/their partner

21:51 How to keep the romance alive and not get too comfortable

25:15 One thing you MUST know about your partner!

29:43 Wisdom you'd give your future self in your relationship

30:47 The misconception people have about moving in

Join 27-year-old Solar Manager Devan Webb as he talks to us about all things self-education, leadership, and personal growth. From waiting tables to managing a team of over 15 men, Devan shares his key insights for how he's achieved success in sales. If you're in your twenties looking for a boost of inspiration to start living a bigger life, this is it!

Follow Devan on Instagram: @webbstarllc!

7:57 - Devan’s work experience before sales

8:15 - How he got into door-to-door

9:56 - His initial struggle in sales

12:47 - The Halo Effect

15:00 - Importance of Receiving Feedback

16:32 - Tip for Managing People

17:48 - Myers Briggs Personality Assessment

18:30 - How Knowing Personality Styles Helped Him In Sales

21:05 - Self-Education OVER School Education

23:32 - The Best Part of Being a Solar Manager

26:11 - Why It’s Important To Make An Impact 

29:10 - How Has Devan Impacted Lives through D2D Sales

34:00 - Using Childhood Struggle to Build A Future Career

39:39  - Turning Pain Into Purpose

41:20 - Devan’s Opinion on Traditional Education & College

48:10 -The BEST thing to do in your 20s

49:46 -The question EVERYONE in their 20s should ask themselves

52:06 - What happens when you take a risk

54:08 - ONE thing Devan suggests to people in their 20s

It's easy to think that you need just one more degree or certification to build your own business or do what you love. But in today's world, self-education is at our fingertips and it's time to take advantage of it. If you are thinking of becoming your own boss, listen to this episode with Entrepreneur and Life Coach Juliette Marie who reminds us that everything we really need comes from within. In this episode, you'll hear about the beginning stages of entrepreneurship and the value of having like-minded individuals with you along the journey.

You can follow Juliette on Instagram at @awakentohealing. 

4:30:20 - Purpose of today's podcast

7:49:19 - Nothing happens overnight

 8:10:40 - Know what you want

8:49 - Juliette’s guidance on me getting my Masters degree

12:35 - Fear of not being qualified

13:08 - Traditional school vs. self-education/entrepreneurship

17:22 - We will never “arrive”

18:19 - What past me would’ve said 

19:21 - Making a difference for others through our struggles

23:02 - Guilt in not “doing” things all the time

25:45 - When your inner critic judges you 

26:39 - Connect with someone doing the same thing as you

28:25 - How Juliette started her coaching business

29:52 - Invest in YOURSELF for people to Invest in YOU

32:39- Taking the FIRST SCARY STEP!

35:03 - Use other people’s results as PERMISSION!

35:40 - Take imperfection action!

37:58 - Leaning into your fear

38:29 - Tap into your inner child

40:43 - DISCOVERING AND USING YOUR GIFTS!

44:03 - Entrepreneurship is NOT a linear path

46:38 - The decision to monetize my brand / addressing the belief that “I don’t need money” for my passion

50:37 - Reach out to someone who’s doing what you want to do!

52:26 - You need to have stake in the game! 

55:24 - Analogy of business & pregnancy

Throughout my life, I've attached myself to the identity of being a "pure," "innocent," "good girl," while unknowingly repressing my femininity and sexuality. On today's episode, my best friend Marissa, who is also a boudoir photographer, helps me disentangle the conservative beliefs that have kept me from expressing all sides of myself. If you have ever felt ashamed or repressed, you're going to walk away from this conversation feeling liberated and empowered to embrace the powerful, sexual, sensual, and feminine woman that you are!

01:20 - My relationship with Marissa

3:22 - How I was as a teenager
 
9:09 - Approval and popularity from my conservative beliefs 

10:51 - How my career reinforced how I thought I needed to be

12:53 - The identity crisis I’m having now as a 24-year-old 

13:16 - The influence new friends had on my life in my early twenties

15:22 - How I’ve changed since being a teenager

 17:09 - Realizing there’s nothing wrong with being feminine or sexual

 18:24 - Being closed off to guys and my playful side

21:37 - Why I’ve been “behind” in dating compared to others

23:18 - Exploring my sexuality while remaining “innocent” 

24:22 - The association of innocence and virginity

25:21 - My views on sex now after my breakthrough

25:43 - Why I was so confused about my identity as a woman

28:29 - Marissa’s take on this from a boudoir photographer’s perspective

29:54 - How my repression has affected my relationship with guys

30:55 - All women struggle with shame

32:16 - Embracing all aspects of the woman that you are for YOU!

32:51* - How this realization will impact my life

34:36 - My approach with dating in the past and why I hated it

36:58- How my sisterhood of friends embraced and encouraged me to evolve into the woman I am now

38:33 - The truth about your virginity/purity/innocence

40:04 - My biggest fear about exploring my sexuality

40:52 - What’s next for me as a result of this change in belief

42:50 - Letting the different sides of my personality be seen

44:23 - Surprising Marissa with a SHOCKING DECISION!

47:12 - Embracing all aspects of myself without shame or judgment

48:53 - The pressure of being a woman in today’s society

52:00 - The BIG reason I’m risking discomfort to share my story with YOU

Have you ever wanted to cut off a friend after repeated conflict? Do you struggle with comparison, insecurity, or jealousy in your relationships? Are you terrified to work through challenging times with the people you love most? In this episode, my best friend Karen and I teach you exactly how to turn your most challenging friendships into your biggest blessings! 

01:01:04 Introduction to Karen
03:10:26 How Shana was before meeting Karen
04:20:54 Our dynamic as friends
08:12:39 Becoming roommates
09:12:40 Noticing envy
11:02:15 “Something is wrong with me”
12:46:24 How the friendship became unhealthy
15:20:20 Example of comparison & conflict
21:20:23: Noticing jealousy around dating
23:48:39 A new way to look at jealousy
26:22:00 Building foundation in your friendship
27:47:21 Ghosting & cutting each other off
28:49:08 Communication in friendship
30:46:38 Taking responsibility instead of blaming
32:24:22 Importance of empathy in conflict
33:27:45 Reacting vs. Responding
36:22:36 Feeling competition in friendship
39:03:25 The KEYS to effective conflict resolution in friendship
41:19:13 Forgiveness
44:08:50 Embracing uncomfortable conversation
44:55:24 Clarifying and communicating your intention
47:16:57 Having conflict is healthy
47:36:52 The reason people don’t confront each other and why it’s important
53:18:25 Don’t hold past mistakes against someone
54:55:39 The humility to look at your own mistakes/flaws/responsibility
58:54:37 Ebbs & flows of friendship
1:00:43:54 1 thing you MUST know about the friends you’re envious of
1:05:30:23 Where our friendship stands today
1:12:25:28 Your hardest relationships are your greatest teachers

Do you ever feel confused about what to do or say when a friend confides in you? Have you ever had somebody invalidate your feelings? On this episode, my best friend Olga Moreno teaches YOU how to hold space for the people in your life when they need you most. You’ll learn to distinguish invalidating statements from validating ones, and walk away with powerful insights to make your loved ones feel heard, seen, and acknowledged through life’s many ups and downs.

1:43:44 What does it mean to hold space?

3:12:38 Mistakes we make when friends confide in us

5:23:41 How to ‘meet people where they’re at’ and why we want to change people’s emotions

7:45:41 The damaging effect of cheering people up when they’re sad

8:43:40 The first step in holding space for others

11:40:42 Breaking down a Real-life example of holding space between friends

18:50:35 The challenge of not knowing what to do or say when a friend confides in you

21:14:05 The most common invalidating statements

22:30:32 The reason people say “You shouldn’t feel that way”

25:20:49 Example of toxic positivity

27:18:35 Why we invalidate others

29:42:34 Communicating what you need from someone when confiding in them

31:47:17 Example that distinguishes between wanting to be heard vs. wanting advice

38:24:44 A story about confronting and communicating with your friends instead of cutting them off/ghosting them

43:54:49 What to do and what not to do when you’re in conflict with someone 

45:47:29 Examples of validating statements

48:24:44 Story of de-escalating conflict through honest and uncomfortable communication 

52:20:36 The dangers of avoiding responsibility, being right or being defensive in conflict

52:44:35 Why you should NOT say “I’m sorry that you feel this way.”

53:39:34 The difference between guilt & responsibility

54:52:30 What are you NOT doing in your friendships?

56:39:36 Overview & Wrap-Up of HOW TO HOLD SPACE!

VIDEO Version Of Podcast on YouTube. 
To hear more from Olga, follow her on Instagram @olga.moreno_!

Have you ever wondered how men approach dating? Are you curious why men struggle to communicate their feelings? Do you want to know what they are least and most attracted to in a woman? I surveyed my 800+ Instagram followers and had my best friend and former solar manager Blade Edwards answer their questions based on his perspective and experiences! Stay tuned to learn about all things dating from a man's perspective and apply his insights to spruce up your dating life! 

If you loved what Blade had to say, be sure to follow him on Instagram @bladeedwards!

01:17 - Who is Blade Edwards?

01:29 - The funny story of how Blade & I met 

04:11 - What Blade was like before doing personal development work

09:15 - Why I chose Blade to talk to women

11:08 - My struggle of being vulnerable with men

15:36 - Why do guys ghost?

19:09 - How do you let a girl know that you like her?

22:43 - What a lack of communication from a guy means

24:30 - Should the girl make the first move?

24:50 - Masculine/Feminine energies Recap

28:37 - Signs that a girl is open to being kissed

30:44 - How long would a guy wait for a woman before having sex?

35:26 - The most common topic amongst men when they hang out

38:04 - Why do men struggle with confrontation?

37:35 - How your childhood affects the way you view the world now

43:51 - Why do guys text dry?

49:17 - How to tell when a guy is genuinely interested or just wants to have sex

51:52 - Conversation about ‘men just want to have sex'

55:38 - The challenge of letting your guard down with a man

56:17 - When a woman says “I don’t need a man"
 
01:00:40 - Do you think dating is one big “waste of time?"

01:01:39 - Blade’s philosophy on being hurt

01:02:54 - The fear of constantly being let down in dating

01:06:02 - The topic of women being independent 

01:07:22 - Why are some men not attracted to independence?

01:10:58  - A woman’s need to control

01:15:06 - You don’t need to change who you are for a man

01:16:57 - Should the girl offer to pay on the first date?

01:18:57 - How a man can protect a woman on a date

01:19:56 - Why is it difficult for guys to communicate their emotions?

01:20:14 - The difference between male/female communities

01:26:14 - What is a man’s biggest insecurity?

01:29:21  - Biggest personality turn on with girls

01:30:55 - Is it attractive when girls are forward? 
 
01:32:46 - How important are looks to men?

01:33:00 - Do you want a woman who is opposite of or similar to you?

01:34:52 - What’s an instant turn off to a man?

01:37:07 - How do you plan to keep relationship alive after being comfortable for so long?

01:39:12 - What’s the #1 thing men look for?

01:41:22- The biggest roadblock you see with women on dates

01:46:40 - What do you think is a woman's biggest misconception about men?

01:48:39 - Why men and women hurt each other

01:48:42 - What type of men you should look for

01:51:04 - Blade's coaching to YOU

01:53:00 - Wrap Up/Conclusion

In this episode, my friend Kanyon Grimes walks us through the transformation he experienced at 21 years old when he stopped being a victim to life and started taking responsibility. If you're at a place in your life where you want to grow and become the best version of yourself, don't miss out on what Kanyon has to say!

Kanyon is the Host of The Kanyon Shawn Podcast. You can hear more from him on Instagram by following @kanyonshawn.

Is there something you're passionate about that you want to share with the world? Do you think about starting your own business, but find yourself too afraid to take action? Hear from 24-year old Macro Coach Sarah Clark on how she turned her passion for health and fitness into a full-time coaching business! Sarah's insights will make you rethink all of the stories you've been telling yourself about why you "can't" so that you can finally put your fears aside and start pursuing your dream! 

Sarah Clark helps women gain confidence in their health and fitness journey and specializes in macro coaching. You can find her on Instagram here: @sarahclarkkk_