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Why does someone else’s pregnancy announcement make you want to cry… and then feel guilty for crying?
You're not alone and you’re definitely not broken.
In this honest, intimate episode, I shine a light on the comparison spiral that hits so many women during infertility, the kind no one talks about because it feels shameful, petty, or too much.
From Instagram baby bumps to WhatsApp announcements to chance supermarket run-ins, the emotional triggers can feel relentless, especially when you're navigating fertility struggles, grief, and hope all at once.
You’ll learn:
🔹 Why infertility comparison is a nervous system response, not a personal failure
🔹 How grief disguises itself as jealousy or irritation (and what to do about it)
🔹 Why protecting your peace doesn’t make you a bad friend — it makes you wise
🔹 How to stop spiralling and start anchoring into your own path
🔹 A powerful reframe that transforms comparison into clarity and compassion
I also share a raw story about my own journey, including what people didn’t see when I announced my pregnancy after 10 years of trying, and why no one’s story is ever as simple as it looks from the outside.
Whether you’ve found yourself hating a friend’s baby shower, rage-tapping out of another fertility forum, or quietly wondering “What’s wrong with me?” - this episode will help you breathe again.
💬 Reminder:
You are not a bad person for struggling with comparison.
You are a human being in pain, and you deserve space for that truth too.
PS. Interested In Learning More?
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Free Resources:
Download my free mini-guide:
How to Let Go of Control (Without Giving Up Hope)
Gentle mindset shifts and nervous system tools that actually help you feel better today.
👉 studiofertility.com/letgo
Connect with Bella:
- Instagram: @studiofertility
- Youtube: @studiofertility
- Website: studiofertility.com
If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.
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Why does someone else’s pregnancy announcement make you want to cry… and then feel guilty for crying?
You're not alone and you’re definitely not broken.
In this honest, intimate episode, I shine a light on the comparison spiral that hits so many women during infertility, the kind no one talks about because it feels shameful, petty, or too much.
From Instagram baby bumps to WhatsApp announcements to chance supermarket run-ins, the emotional triggers can feel relentless, especially when you're navigating fertility struggles, grief, and hope all at once.
You’ll learn:
🔹 Why infertility comparison is a nervous system response, not a personal failure
🔹 How grief disguises itself as jealousy or irritation (and what to do about it)
🔹 Why protecting your peace doesn’t make you a bad friend — it makes you wise
🔹 How to stop spiralling and start anchoring into your own path
🔹 A powerful reframe that transforms comparison into clarity and compassion
I also share a raw story about my own journey, including what people didn’t see when I announced my pregnancy after 10 years of trying, and why no one’s story is ever as simple as it looks from the outside.
Whether you’ve found yourself hating a friend’s baby shower, rage-tapping out of another fertility forum, or quietly wondering “What’s wrong with me?” - this episode will help you breathe again.
💬 Reminder:
You are not a bad person for struggling with comparison.
You are a human being in pain, and you deserve space for that truth too.
PS. Interested In Learning More?
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Free Resources:
Download my free mini-guide:
How to Let Go of Control (Without Giving Up Hope)
Gentle mindset shifts and nervous system tools that actually help you feel better today.
👉 studiofertility.com/letgo
Connect with Bella:
- Instagram: @studiofertility
- Youtube: @studiofertility
- Website: studiofertility.com
If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.