In this episode, we explore a broad range of relationship topics, including navigating masculine and feminine dynamics, conflict resolution, active listening, knowing when to hold on and when to let go, and how to show up authentically and confidently in your relationships. Martha Mok shares practical advice and empowering insights for people dating or in committed relationships.

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About our guest: Martha Mok is a globally recognised Super Confidence Coach and founder of Super Confidence Coaching, specialising in empowering women over 40 to reclaim their self-worth and strength. She also leads the Yeah The Girls 40plus Community, a vibrant platform providing support and resources to women navigating midlife.

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About our host: Bianca Caruana is a writer, podcast host, multidisciplinary mystic, and mentor, dedicated to helping others connect with their true selves. Her first novel, Soul Truth, is about the journeys we take within, and she is soon to be releasing her next novel, Reclaim Your Power, a guide for women ready to step into their true feminine essence.

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Disclaimer: This episode includes discussions about trauma and domestic violence, which may be distressing for some listeners. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence in Australia, support is available through 1800RESPECT at 1800 737 732 or 1800respect.org.au.

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In this episode, Kathy & Bianca dive into the often unconscious patterns of self-sabotage that keep us from experiencing real intimacy. Drawing on insights from attachment theory, they explore how we accept the love we think we deserve, why vulnerability feels risky, and how self-sabotage becomes a protective, but ultimately limiting, behaviour.

They invite us to ask: What are the internal walls we’ve built against deep love, and how do we begin to dismantle them?

As Rumi beautifully said, "Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."

Please enjoy this episode and share your thoughts in the comments below.

If you have an episode idea, comment, or simply wish to reach out, you can do so by contacting the hosts here.

Related reading: Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller.

With so much negativity surrounding modern dating—especially the transactional nature of dating apps—it’s easy to feel disheartened. But what if we saw these tools for what they really are—just tools? Instead of approaching dating with frustration or scepticism, what if we brought mindfulness, intention, and a belief in possibility?

In this episode, we share our own personal experiences with shifting our dating mindsets, the energy we put out into the world, and how it directly influences the connections we attract. Whether you’re feeling stuck or simply want to date with more clarity and purpose, this episode will help you reframe your approach to love and relationships.

In this episode of The Connection Paradigm, Kathy and Bianca talk about flirting and the subtle art of sparking a connection that goes beyond words. The duospeak aboutwhat it means to flirt with someone, how to recognise the subtle (and not-so-subtle) cues, and how flirting has changed in the digital age. They explore the impact online dating has had on modern flirtation and share some of their own personal stories (the awkward, the funny, and the unexpectedly sweet). Whether you're a seasoned flirt or just testing the waters, this episode will help you navigate connection with more confidence and authenticity.

In this episode of The Connection Paradigm, Bianca and Kathy dive deep into the delicate balance of knowing when to lean into a relationship and when to lovingly let go. Inspired by Stephen Speaks’ conversation on the Know Thyself podcast, we explore the fine line between love and codependency, the role of self-love in making relationship decisions, and the only true reason to stay—when both partners commit to growth and meeting each other’s needs. If you’ve ever struggled with attachment, fear of letting go, or questioning whether a relationship is serving your highest self, this episode is for you. Tune in for an honest, heartfelt discussion on love, self-worth, and conscious commitment.

Useful links:

Codependents in Recovery - Global Group

Know Thyself Podcast

Dating in the digital age can be thrilling, but it also comes with its fair share of challenges. From fake profiles to scammers and inauthentic connections, navigating the world of modern romance can sometimes feel overwhelming.

In this episode, we unpack the darker side of dating, helping you spot the signs of fake people and recognise potential scammers. We also explore the complex relationship dynamics between narcissists and empaths, offering practical tips for staying grounded and authentic in your search for love.

Whether you're online dating or meeting people in real life, this episode equips you with tools to discern who’s genuine and who’s not, ensuring you can build connections based on trust and truth.

In this episode of The Connection Paradigm Podcast, we’re joined by Tim Hewson, founder of Mongrels Men, a community-driven movement dedicated to supporting men’s mental health in Australia through connection, conversation, and activity.

In this episode, we talk about the state of men’s mental health today, the evolutionary impact on modern masculinity, and how communities like Mongrels Men are making a difference. Tim shares his insights on strengthening the connection between men and women, addressing what masculinity means in today's world, and how we can overcome barriers to connection between one another.

Tune in to this engaging discussion as we explore the power of community, the importance of self-awareness, and practical ways to foster genuine connections in a rapidly changing world.

To learn more about Mongrels Men, visit their website - https://mongrelsmen.com/

Connect with Tim on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/timhewson1/

Trigger Warning:

This episode discusses sensitive topics that may be triggering for some listeners, including suicide, personal trauma and emotional challenges. If you find yourself needing support, please consider reaching out to one of the following helplines:

Your mental health is important, and support is available.

In this episode, we delve into the topic of emotional connection vs emotional intimacy with special guest ⁠Angela Heise⁠, The Human Skills Expert. With over 27 years of experience in Emotional Productivity and leadership development, Angela shares her expertise on how emotional connection and intimacy differ, yet play complementary roles in building trust in relationships.

We discuss the significance of setting and maintaining healthy boundaries, recognising our varying levels of emotional engagement, and developing the cognitive tools to create deeper, more meaningful connections. Angela offers practical strategies for strengthening both personal and professional relationships, empowering listeners to better manage their emotions and foster trust through emotional understanding.

Whether you’re looking to enhance your communication skills or deepen your emotional intimacy, this episode offers valuable insights to help you create lasting, authentic connections.

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Access Angela's bonus quiz: ⁠36 Questions for Increasing Closeness⁠

Connect with Angela on ⁠LinkedIn⁠

Visit Angela's ⁠website⁠ to find out more

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In this episode, we delve into a thought-provoking discussion about whether any two individuals can create a harmonious relationship. We explore the interplay between masculine and feminine energies, how balance (or imbalance) within these energies influences our connections, and the impact of societal shifts on modern relationships. Can understanding and integrating these energies lead to the kind of deep connection we all seek? Tune in as we unpack these ideas and share insights on achieving harmony in our relationships.

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In this episode, we’re discussing red flags and green flags in relationships. Back together in Sydney, we explore the subtle and not-so-subtle signs that can indicate whether a relationship is on the right track or heading for “Danger, Will Robinson.” We discuss how these indicators can be highly individual, yet also touch on universal behaviours that society generally accepts or rejects.

We highlight the importance of understanding these flags early in relationships to avoid potential pitfalls. As Kathy says, "If we ignore those red flags, we can get ourselves into a lot of trouble because it's usually those red flags that we see very early in meeting somebody that we choose to ignore."

On the flip side, we celebrate the green flags that signal a healthy and promising relationship.

Tune in to this episode to learn more about recognising these signals and how they can impact your relationships. Whether you're dating, in a committed relationship, or simply navigating friendships, understanding red and green flags can help you foster deeper, more meaningful connections.

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If you found this episode insightful, please like and subscribe to the podcast. If you would like us to answer your question about love or connection, please contact us ⁠⁠here⁠⁠.