In this episode, Kathy & Bianca dive into the often unconscious patterns of self-sabotage that keep us from experiencing real intimacy. Drawing on insights from attachment theory, they explore how we accept the love we think we deserve, why vulnerability feels risky, and how self-sabotage becomes a protective, but ultimately limiting, behaviour.

They invite us to ask: What are the internal walls we’ve built against deep love, and how do we begin to dismantle them?

As Rumi beautifully said, "Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."

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Related reading: Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller.