If you grew up fearing that you were in danger from your own family, you may have developed a strong sense that YOU were responsible to make everyone safe and happy. You’ll see children do this sometimes – completely abandon their own needs because they’re so worried that their mom or dad will not be OK. Your parent not being OK is an existential threat to a kid. It’s hard to imagine you can survive it. But if something doesn’t happen to help you take BACK your identity, you run the risk of giving away your whole life to this imagined need you THINK other people have. My letter today is from a woman who struggles with the belief that if she takes charge of her life, other people will not only hate her, but they'll be destroyed.
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The Cost of Making Other People the Center of Your Life

I’m Anna Runkle, also known as the Crappy Childhood Fairy, and I teach people to recognize and heal the symptoms of Childhood PTSD. Welcome to my podcast!I’m not a doctor or therapist; I know about childhood trauma because I lived it, and I discovered a radical approach to healing that focuses first on calming neurological dysregulation, which is common in people who grew up with abuse and neglect. In my podcasts, I teach about dysregulation – how to know if you have it, what it can do to your body, your thinking and your relationships, and what to do to master re-regulation. When I learned this, everything in my life got suddenly easier. I’ll also be teaching you to heal the life problems that so often develop after years of living dysregulated – feeling tired, isolated and unfocused, finding yourself always drawn to unavailable and inappropriate partners, and falling WAY short of your professional potential, for example. The thing about me is, traditional therapies never seemed to help me. When I found techniques that did work, my whole life changed. Only in the past few years has the trauma research caught up to explain why – why the techniques I use worked, why therapy didn’t, and why my healing journey was so unnecessarily long. I’ve been teaching what I learned for more than 20 years now. It started with friends who had noticed the quick and dramatic change in me, and gradually grew by word of mouth. In 2016, I had so many people seeking instruction that I made my first online video, and then an online course, and this is how Crappy Childhood Fairy was born. My techniques and principles are practical yet powerful – an approach anyone can use, whether or not you have access to professional help. In this podcast, I’ll be talking about the master of self-regulation, and teach the tough-love life-lessons that you may not have learned at home – like how to date so that stable love finds you, how to get ahead at work, and how to calm the negative hamster-wheel thoughts that block your ability to connect with other people. Today, almost half a million people follow my work and participate in my training and coaching programs. My mission is to change the paradigm of what’s possible for people like us, and to help you free yourself from the oppression of trauma wounds, and to become your full, happy and real self. I’m glad you’re here! Watch new videos on my YouTube channel every Monday, Wednesday and Friday, and access my videos, courses and free tools at crappychildhoodfairy.com.

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When you need love desperately, it's easy to fill in the gaps and attach to people who turn out NOT to have love to give, and this in turn can activate your CPTSD symptoms. This is one of the ways an "anxious attachment" style can sabotage your trauma healing work. In this four video compiliation, I share some of my most popular videos on anxious attachment, how it manifests, and what to do to overcome its influence your relationships.
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Heal Your Anxious Attachment Style (4-Video Compilation)

Past trauma has a funny way of driving us into the worst kinds of relationships. A warm body or a diamond ring can feel like a little island of respite from the ocean of fear, shame and loneliness that often overwhelm's people with Childhood PTSD. So what happens when you wake up after the wedding and discover that real love is nowhere insight – or nowhere in the marriage, anyway. In this video I respond to a letter from a woman who is having an emotional affair that shows signs of being the relationship where she belongs. But can a good relationship every really result when it begins in secrecy and lies?
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Can An Emotional Affair Become The Real Thing?

Even if you grew up in a neglectful or abusive household, it’s not too late to create a vision for what you want in your life, and what you want in a relationship. Too often, those of us with CPTSD cast around for a partner with no clear sense of what would be good for US. We’re driven by how partners see us, and how they feel about us, focusing entirely on keeping them from leaving. When you have a vision for your life and what you want, it changes who you meet and how the dynamic plays out. In this video I respond to a woman who is struggling to know what she wants in her relationship.
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Don't Let Trauma Keep You Stumbling Through Life

While many people think the goal of healing is to feel MORE of your feelings, people with Childhood PTSD more often need emotional self-regulation. There are short-term strategies and changes you can make in your life that make it easier to stay emotionally steady. If strong emotions hurt your relationships, "Emotional sobriety" is a way of life that may help you to feel your feelings fully, without lashing out or freaking out, which is so common in people with CPTSD. In this video I teach about the concept of emotional sobriety, and step you can take to stay more emotionally balanced, and support your overall efforts to heal trauma from the past.
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"Emotional Sobriety" Makes Trauma Healing Faster and More Sustainable

If you're living with the effects of Childhood PTSD, you've probably had to work extra hard to accomplish things that come easily to non-traumatized people. But everything gets better when you find an approach to healing that works for YOU. It can take trial and error to find effective treatment, but don't give up! In this 4-video compilation, I share some of my most popular videos about smart steps you can take to heal CPTSD symptoms faster.
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The Cost of Making Other People the Center of Your Life

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