Hamish and Juliana rip open the invisible cage of belief. How does unconscious programming dictate decisions, limit potential, and keep us trapped in societal scripts? Through raw war stories and unflinching self-examination, they examine the tension between mind-driven dogma and the body’s primal wisdom—that visceral “Wrong way!” scream we too often ignore.
Why do we cling to beliefs that strangle growth, even as relationships fracture and friends disown us? This isn’t theoretical: They confront the isolation of outgrowing comfort zones and the gritty work of replacing toxic narratives with truths that burn brighter than others’ expectations.
A no-bullshit guide to reclaiming power by aligning beliefs with your marrow-deep knowing, not the world’s hollow demands.

Highlight
"I struggle with this because I didn't know how to reconcile certain beliefs. I didn't question those beliefs because they were what I was told to do and be. And when I started questioning those, my identity was being shattered. I had to challenge everything.

Takeaways

• Your body is your truth detector: physical discomfort often signals when your beliefs are out of alignment with your authentic self.
• Most of our limiting beliefs aren't even ours: they're inherited programming we've never bothered to examine.
• The loneliest part of transformation isn't losing others: it's losing your familiar identity and having to build a new one.
• When you start questioning one belief, be prepared: the whole house of cards might come tumbling down. That's normal.
• Growth isn't about adding more beliefs: it's about having the courage to strip away the ones that don't serve your truth.

Soundbites
"Your brain makes up a reality from past experiences. Yet our body is where we interact with the real world." - Hamish

"I didn't question those beliefs because they were what I was told to do and be. Yet when I started questioning those, my identity was shattered." - Hamish

"Your body holds every answer you look for outside yourself - your belief systems, stuck emotions, all of it. The mind creates reality, but the truth lives through your senses. - Juliana

"When we go to the spiritual awakening, we must lose our minds to awaken our soul. That means we have to forget or to crumble everything that has been created from the mind." - Juliana

"Choose what's empowering you, what makes you feel free from the inside, liberated from the inside. And look at everything with curiosity and open mind." - Juliana

"The loneliest part of transformation isn't losing others - it's losing your familiar identity and having to build a new one." - Hamish

This episode marks the beginning of a series designed to provoke thought and inspire listeners to take charge of their own lives. Are you prepared to challenge your current reality?
Ready to embrace the notion that existence can transcend mere survival?
Life holds immense beauty and limitless potential, and it’s time to awaken to that reality.
Join us in questioning the dogmas society imposes and take the reins of your own narrative.

Highlight
"The more free you are, the more responsibility you have. Freedom isn't about doing whatever you want. Freedom is being your authentic self - speaking your truth and expressing your feelings. But with that comes taking responsibility for everything you say and do." - Juliana

Summary

This conversation explores how everyone sees life through their unique lens, shaped by personal experiences. Juliana introduces the concept of "dirty lenses" - our perspectives clouded by past experiences and trauma. The dialogue delves into why we give away our power to others, the importance of slowing down to gain clarity, and how accepting different perspectives enriches our understanding. Key themes include personal accountability, the courage to face our shadows, and the freedom that comes with taking responsibility for our actions. The conversation concludes with an emphasis on embracing our humanity while continuing to grow and learn.

Find Juliana
Heart Detox with Gentle Talks - Juliana's podcast - https://open.spotify.com/show/5VwqMtGdjeNGjzNPMXcbU0?si=5ec0cd69e7094504
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/julianamcclane/

Takeaways

• We all have unique perspectives shaped by our experiences.
• Nobody is right or wrong; it's about different viewpoints.
• Curiosity is essential for personal growth and understanding.
• Freedom comes with responsibility and accountability.
• Forgiveness is a crucial part of healing and self-acceptance.
• We must acknowledge our shadows and learn from them.
• Compassion helps us understand others' struggles.
• Slowing down allows for deeper self-reflection and clarity.
• The journey of self-discovery is ongoing and layered.
• Embracing our humanity means accepting both our light and dark sides.

Sound Bites

• "We all have this individual unique pair of glasses to see the world"
• Be curious about your own "lenses" and how they shape your view of the world.
• "Nobody's right, and nobody's wrong. It's just another perspective of seeing life."
• "When we hold on to pain, it's like you hold on to the ego and the ego wants to be right."
• "Putting somebody on a pedestal is giving your power away."
• "The freer you are, the more responsibility you have."
• "Slow down is to come close to ourselves."
• Practice slowing down to observe your patterns and actions.
• Embrace your humanity, with all its imperfections and contradictions.
• Take responsibility for your behaviour while being gentle with yourself.

Chapters

00:00 -Introduction to Perspectives

02:52 - The Concept of Unique Perspectives

05:44 - The Nature of Right and Wrong

06:14 -The Impact of Life Experiences

08:31 - Resonance and Understanding

11:40 - The Power of Listening

14:30 - Enriching Perspectives

17:19 - Compassion and Understanding

20:12 - The Dangers of Idolisation

23:11 - Empowerment and Self-Worth

28:38 - The Role of Therapists and Personal Growth

30:45 - Giving Away Power: Societal Conditioning

35:05 - Curiosity and Inner Child Exploration

40:15 - Accountability and Personal Responsibility

45:50 - Forgiveness and Acknowledging Past Mistakes

52:50 - Embracing Humanity and the Journey of Growth

Highlight

I couldn't understand regular social nuances as a kid. Sarcasm was lost on me. I was gullible, and people took advantage. I used drugs to find a way around that - in those social circles, everyone seemed nicer. But what I was really searching for went deeper. Each question about God led to more questions until I realised the answers weren't in substances - they were in facing myself.

Summary

In this conversation, Hamish and Joshua discuss the complexities of self-medication and addiction, exploring how childhood experiences shape coping mechanisms. They delve into the importance of feeling safe, the role of authenticity in healing, and the power of vulnerability in creating safe spaces for others. Joshua shares his journey of awareness and growth, emphasising the significance of embracing both the light and shadow sides of oneself. The discussion culminates in Joshua's commitment to helping others navigate their paths through shared experiences and emotional intelligence.

About Joshua

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/JoshBerg713

Takeaways

• Self-medication often stems from a desire to cope with underlying issues.
• Childhood experiences significantly influence coping mechanisms in adulthood.
• Feeling safe is essential for emotional and mental well-being.
• Authenticity allows individuals to connect with their true selves and others.
• Creating safe spaces fosters vulnerability and healing.
• Acknowledging one's shadow side is crucial for personal growth.
• Awareness of unhealthy habits can prevent hitting rock bottom.
• Shared experiences can be powerful tools for helping others.
• Emotional intelligence is vital for understanding oneself and others.
• Grounding oneself is a superpower that aids in creating safe environments.

Sound Bites

• "I couldn't understand social nuances, so I used drugs to find a way around that."
• "We get misdiagnosed because medical professionals don't always listen to us."
• "Your authentic self exudes those energies - it's more powerful than love."
• "You can't pour from an empty cup - authenticity helps protect boundaries."
• "Finding safe spaces allows you to be your true authentic self."
• When you're authentic, you naturally radiate love - it's more powerful that way."
• "Finding coping strategies is really important."

Highlight
"So you quit. So you've been to the gym for two weeks and it's impossible. That's okay. Step back, reassess what was important. Was it that important? If it was, what can you do to get there? Chances are, like my New Year's resolutions from years gone past, I hadn't thought it through."

Summary

This episode redefines quitting, shifting it from a failure to a vital tool for personal growth. Strava - the "Social Fitness Network" noticed that 80% of people give up on their fitness goals by mid-January. Why is this? Why do we give up? Is it a bad thing or a good thing? 
The discussion challenges conventional views on perseverance, showcasing strategic quitting as a route to success and highlighting the necessity of honest self-reflection. The key insight is that releasing misaligned goals creates space for more authentic opportunities and genuine development.

Takeaways

• Quitters Day highlights the common struggle of giving up on resolutions.
• Many goals are unrealistic and unstructured, leading to failure.
• Life is about experiences and finding beauty in everyday moments.
• Human connection and kindness are essential for a fulfilling life.
• Quitting can be a positive step towards personal growth.
• Learning from past experiences helps in setting better future goals.
• Embracing the journey is more important than the destination.

Sound Bites

• "Our best hasn't got to be perfect, it's just showing up and saying hey, I'm here."
• "As there is more violence and hatred, there is equally more beauty and compassion awakening."
• "It takes quitting the nonsense, it takes quitting bad behavior, it takes quitting shaming yourself."
• "Life's about experiencing the magic of every day and seeing the beauty beyond the noise."
• "Don't beat yourself up for goals that were impossible from the beginning, reshape them instead."
• "Just because somebody doesn't think the way you think doesn't mean they're wrong, they're just them."
• "Life's about experiences."
• "Quit with pride."

Highlights
"Growing up with albinism isn't easy. A lot of questions are asked... When I was very young in my childhood, doctors had basically told me that I would be completely blind by the age of eight or nine. They didn't think that I would even be alive at this point. I am now 34... it's an amazing story."

Summary

Born with albinism to Black parents, JD shares his journey through identity crisis, addiction, and mental health challenges that led him to multiple rock bottoms. Despite facing prejudice from both Black and White communities, surviving numerous suicide attempts, and battling severe addiction, he discovered his true strength lay in accepting his uniqueness.
Through raw honesty and vulnerability, this story shows how embracing our differences can become our greatest asset. His transformation from victim to victor proves that our deepest struggles often hide our greatest potential.

Where you can find JD

Website - https://deiszeilfitness.wixsite.com/coachshivers
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/javian-s-9b4540b7/
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jd_shivers/
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/30_daysstrong/

Takeaways

• JD's early life was marked by challenges due to albinism.
• He struggled with substance abuse as a coping mechanism.
• College was a time of self-destruction and lost opportunities.
• A wake-up call came when he experienced jail time.
• Finding purpose in helping others became his mission.
• Acceptance of his past was crucial for his growth

Sound Bites

• "I just wanted to be normal."
• "Comparison is the thief of all joy. What's given for you is not meant for me."
• "You don't know what people carry with them unless you stop to ask."
• "Your reality becomes a bad dream. And I knew I would never have my childhood back."
• "We're all living, but very few of us are alive."
• "Acceptance is the foundation for growth, and when you do that, you allow yourself to open."
• "You are what you repeatedly do. Therefore, anything is not a choice, but a habit."
• "I had to stop being a victim. I had to give power back to myself."

Highlight
"If I'm not feeling okay, I find out right away. And instead of sitting with the emotion, I try to make friends with it so I can say, right, I can walk with this... Recovery is a journey. It's not an end destination... it's that getting up in the morning and taking those steps. It's okay to have a bit of a down day once in a while as long as we don't sit with it for too long."

Summary

In this episode, I speak with James Brodie, a storyteller, songwriter, and producer, who shares his remarkable journey of navigating life on the autism spectrum, overcoming mental health challenges, and finding hope through creativity. James discusses the importance of support systems, the power of writing and music as tools for healing, and the significance of asking for help. He emphasises the ongoing journey of recovery, the role of faith, and the impact of his music on listeners, ultimately highlighting the resilience and growth that come from embracing life's challenges.

About James Brodie

Takeaways

• Support from friends and family is crucial during tough times.
• Asking for help is a vital step in the recovery process.
• Recovery is an ongoing journey, not a destination.
• Understanding emotions and triggers is key to managing mental health.
• Daily routines help maintain stability and awareness.
• Faith can provide a foundation for resilience and hope.
• The process of songwriting is deeply personal and transformative.

Sound Bites

• "Anyone can write 10 songs and put them out as a collection. What makes an album good is the story that gels it together."
• "I use the vocals as a guide for the storytelling and the music to inform how the story is told."
• "In order to be found and to get to this good place, you first have to be lost."
• "I basically started using those instruments as a way to talk."
• "If it's stuck in my head too long, it's not good. It's better to sit with it and externalise it."
• "The best ones I've written have never started out as songs - they are notes, guides, bits of advice."
• "Recovery is a journey, not an end destination. Even thirteen years on, I'm still adjusting things."
• "I write to keep it out of my head and to help other people in some way."
• "Breathing in and breathing out."
• "This is day one of getting better."
• "You cannot force people to get help."

Highlight

"When I see people on the streets, I see future nonprofit leaders, I see future teachers, parents, retaking the head of their families. The days of going into a hospital after overdosing and some social worker handing you three pieces of wrinkled paper that are stapled together and saying good luck, call these numbers and nobody answering need to be over. It's not acceptable."

Summary

AJ Lovewins shares his profound journey from a troubled childhood marked by adoption and family struggles to a life of resilience and purpose. He discusses the impact of his upbringing, the challenges of addiction, and the importance of community and support in recovery. AJ emphasises the role of shame in addiction, the transformative power of service, and the necessity of finding a higher purpose. He introduces his vision for 'Our People Rise,' a project to empower those affected by homelessness and addiction through storytelling and community engagement.

Where to find AJ

website - https://ourpeoplerise.com/
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@OurPeopleRise
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/ajlovewins/

Takeaways

• AJ's journey began with adoption and family struggles.
• He experienced significant rage and emotional challenges during childhood.
• The impact of family dynamics shaped his emotional development.
• High school was a time of rebellion and substance use.
• Addiction became a coping mechanism for deeper issues.
• Shame plays a critical role in the recovery process.
• Service to others can be a powerful tool for healing.
• Experiences on the streets highlighted the despair of homelessness.
• Recovery is a continuous journey with ongoing challenges.
• 'Our People Rise' aims to empower communities through shared stories.

Sound Bites

• "I was loved, but they just didn't know what to do with me."
• "I would break all my BMX trophies with a baseball bat in my room. I didn't know how to process emotions."
• "Once you lose everything, you're forced into primal living, right into survival mode."
• "I would go and give blood, donate blood, and they would pay you for that 40 bucks... And I would take the money and go buy crack cocaine. I was literally selling my internal fluids, my blood for drugs."
• "There was a guy that came up to me... he used the word devastated. He took a look at me and just said, 'wow, you're devastated."
• "If you don't have the toolkit to navigate through those programs and those offerings, you're gonna get turned around and you're gonna go back out to what you know and potentially use or die."

Highlight

"For the first time in a long long time I was given the grace of a period of time just to reflect for me it was almost like my body and my head had said right you're not going to stop through your own accord so we're going to stop you for you... the higher power, for me it's a higher power anyway, it works in mysterious ways, very mysterious ways."

Summary

In this conversation, Eleri Haf Cosslett shares her remarkable journey from a successful career as a lawyer and property developer to facing a financial crisis and addiction. She discusses the impact of her experiences, including a financial collapse that led to a criminal trial and her time in prison. Eleri reflects on her recovery, the importance of finding a moral compass, and the role of community and service in her life. She emphasizes the need to challenge societal norms and values, advocating for a more compassionate and understanding approach to individuals in crisis. In this conversation, Eleri Haf Cosslett and Hamish explore the themes of recovery, self-awareness, and innovative thinking in business. They discuss the importance of journaling as a coping strategy, the need for slowing down to process experiences, and the role of community support in empowerment. Eleri shares her vision for Silvertree, an alternative currency platform aimed at building a sustainable economy, while emphasizing the significance of collaboration and open-mindedness in creating solutions for grassroots businesses. The conversation highlights the journey of personal growth and the importance of teamwork in achieving success.

Takeaways

• Eleri's journey illustrates the power of resilience and recovery.
• Financial success can mask underlying issues like addiction.
• The impact of financial crises can be devastating and far-reaching.
• Recovery involves self-discovery and finding a new purpose.
• Rebuilding life after prison requires confronting societal labels.
• Finding a moral compass is essential for personal growth.
• Ego can hinder personal development and recovery.
• Slowing down can lead to better decision-making and clarity.
• Processing experiences is essential for mental well-being.
• Letting go of control can lead to better outcomes.
• Play and creativity are important for learning and development.

Sound Bites

• "I was busy being the world's most successful alcoholic. Very aware that I had a major drinking problem, but I just didn't want to do anything about it."
• "Alcohol distorts completely any moral compass you might have. It's weird how this happens."
• "I can't change this situation. I am powerless. So there's no point fighting an unfair system. The question was, what do I do with this?"
• "How can I live my best life here? What can I do to serve others and serve myself?"
• "Life doesn't work as it should. These institutions don't work with the sole objective of finding the truth."
• "I was given the grace of time just to reflect. My body and head had said 'you're not going to stop through your own accord, so we're going to stop you.'"
• "There's nothing transactional here. It's one person teaching another and watching how their life changes... that is priceless."

Highlight

"Your path to healing might start with a concerned friend, then maybe a doctor or a family member - each one gently suggesting something isn't right. It could be a coworker, a friend, or even a stranger at a bar. But it's that eleventh person - saying exactly what the other ten said before - 'I think you need help.' And suddenly, the penny drops. It's never about what they say - it's about being ready to hear it. Those first ten people? They planted the seeds that finally bloomed when that eleventh person appears. That's when the real journey begins."

Summary

Ever wondered why traditional counselling often misses the point? Nick Shepley knows this firsthand. From his first drink at 14 through fifteen years of searching for answers, his story illuminates a silent struggle.
This conversation removes the clinical facade of addiction and explores what lies beneath our coping mechanisms. Nick reveals why our adaptations made sense and how this understanding transforms recovery. His journey from survival to awakening shows what becomes possible when shame is replaced with genuine understanding.
Through honesty and experience, Nick highlights that true healing occurs when someone finally hears us. This isn't just another recovery tale—it's a powerful insight into how understanding can lead to freedom.

About Nick
You can find Nick here -
Website - https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/counselling/nick-shepley-cardiff-wls/1361336
Twitter - https://x.com/NickShepley
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/nick.shepley.31

keywords

#addiction #recovery, #mentalhealth # counselling #self-worth #copingstrategies #alcohol #drugs

Takeaways

• Addiction often stems from childhood experiences and societal pressures.
• Finding a sense of belonging and acceptance is crucial for recovery.
• Support groups and community play a vital role in overcoming addiction.
• The journey to recovery is often non-linear and requires patience.
• Empathy and understanding can help individuals confront their issues.
• Change is possible when individuals recognise their problems.
• Therapy should feel collaborative and supportive, not confrontational.
• It's essential to see the person behind the addiction, not just the behaviour.

Sound Bites

• "When I work with people, I always ask the question, what makes sense about this situation?"
• "Recovery isn't about finding the right person. It's about being ready to hear the message."
• "Nobody graduates from childhood into adulthood with all the love their parents could give for them."
• "Sometimes you need ten people to plant the seeds before the eleventh can help them seek help and dare to change."
• "For some people, it's a horror story. For everybody else, there is something, some kind of minor crisis."
• "Part of the journey through life is taking that responsibility to address that lack and fill the hole myself."
• "If you break down the walls between addiction and other mental health phenomena, this story kind of makes sense."
• "The mind will try to solve the problem of trying to make things bearable."

Highlight

"For me it was that it was small simple steps but taken consistently had massive changes. Like my life is unrecognisable now compared to how it used to be... if I can do that, anybody can do that. It's not difficult. It's very simple, it's just it's the consistency mostly that's sometimes challenging because we have to go against how we think."

Summary

Robyn shares her transformative journey from chronic illness to vibrant well-being in this enlightening conversation. Through her raw and honest account of battling ME and ongoing health challenges, she reveals how shifting from traditional medical approaches to self-empowerment became the catalyst for profound healing. 
Drawing on wisdom from Dr. Bruce Lipton and Dr. Gabor Maté, Robyn explores how our body's chemistry responds to perception and beliefs, showing how trauma and disconnection impact our physical reality. She demonstrates how small, consistent changes led to a remarkable transformation through her personal evolution. 
Robyn's powerful insights illuminate the journey from resistance to acceptance, offering fresh perspectives on reconnecting with our body's natural intelligence. The conversation weaves together cutting-edge science and practical wisdom, revealing how shifting our relationship with our body can unlock extraordinary healing potential and lasting well-being.

About Robyn
Website - https://www.equenergy.com/
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/w-i-l-d-wellbeing/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/robyn.harris.7165
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/w.i.l.d.wellbeing/
Robyn has written a book, you can find out more about it here - https://www.equenergy.com/bookupdates/

Takeaways

• I felt stuck and at odds with my body.
• What I was looking for was something that would help me feel empowered.
• Pain is information; it’s important to listen to it.
• Sometimes the 'help' we're offered actually feels disempowering
• Small, consistent steps can lead to massive changes.
• We are conditioned to focus on the head brain, neglecting the heart and gut.
• The gut produces most of our serotonin, impacting our mood.
• Shame is feeling bad about who we are, not what we've done.
• We are all made from stardust, designed to shine.
• Life is a dance; embrace the plot twists.

Sound Bites

• "I felt [my body] it was letting me down."
• "I was disconnected from my sense of self."
• "Reaching out and asking for help is challenging."