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Today our expert guest is Bill Higgs, the founder of Mustang Engineering. He is known as the King of Culture, and he is a Forbes contributor and author. He brought his company revenue to over a billion dollars by differentiating their culture from the market.

Bill’s upcoming new book, Culture Code Champions, outlines his process for building a successful company that thrives based on its positive culture.

Bill started being what he calls “other oriented” when he was 9 years old. He noticed that adults often seemed pretty gloomy, so he just started smiling at adults. He figured they couldn’t help but smile back at a smiling kid, and at least then they’d be smiling for 30 seconds out of their day.

He went into the army service, and once he was out, he continued to realize that people just weren’t bonding with each other. He went into the oil industry during the oil boom, but two years after that, the boom turned into a bust. People were being let go constantly, there was no stability, and because of that there was no loyalty between companies and employees.

After receiving a 30% pay cut, Bill got with two friends and said, “We need to start our own firm and change this industry and this culture.” That’s when he started Mustang Engineering.

They sat down together and started a list of all the things they didn’t like in their engineering firm when they were employees. They vowed to look at that list every quarter to decide if they were becoming what they hated.

What steps can one take to start building and scaling their organization’s culture? In his book, Bill outlines 7 steps to rebuilding company culture:

• Open up communication top-to-bottom. Bust down silos so people across teams can communicate effectively and get things right the first time.
• Create a sense of team and bonding.
• Create a repeatable process and system.
• Hard copy communication. Using signs to give a different feel in your physical location.
• Selling while the shop is full. Don’t wait until you are out of work before you start looking for your next job.
• Continuously recruit top talent.
• Give back.

Bill decided to write Culture Code Champions because of his kids. They both ended up starting their own companies, and they came to him and said, “You need to share all these gold nuggets that you taught us growing up with the world.” They had created that same culture in their own companies, and they knew how life-changing it could be.

You can find out more about Culture Code Champions through their podcast, where you learn more about the upcoming book and what Bill is working on.

The Biggest Helping: Today’s Most Important Takeaway

“Be aware of incrementing to a bad place. Every 12 year old never imagines that they’re going to be an out of shape 40-year old or a smoker or a drinker. You increment to these negative places. Organizations increment to a place they don’t want to be, but you have to be conscious of it. Think about what you’re doing in your personal life, in your business life, and make sure that you’re not incrementing to a place that you wouldn’t want to be. Set those goals and then work towards them.”

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Resources:

• Culture Code Champions Podcast: https://culturecodechampionspodcast.com/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mustanghiggs
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MustangTheStory
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/MustangHiggs

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Today our expert guests are Lance & Brandy Salazar. They are on a mission to help people reconnect with each other and stay deeply in love, and they did this while raising their daughters.

They created Legendary Couples With Kids, because they know first-hand how challenging it is to keep your marriage a priority while juggling a career and being parents. They now know it is possible to be more in love than ever before.

Their story starts the same as many couples. Those first few years of marriage things are really care-free, you can do whatever you want, and then you have kids. For them, parenthood was a big slap in the face. Having kids caused them to deprioritize their marriage, and it threw a wedge between the two of them.

In 2014, they made the decision to call it quits. They realized that they would be better parents to their daughters by not being together. They wanted their kids to witness what a good marriage really could be, and that wasn’t what they had.

Rather than completely separating, they decided to take a time-out to focus on themselves individually. They took care of their kids, but they didn’t focus on the intimacy of their relationship.

It was during this time-out that they both discovered The Miracle Morning (for those interested, see episode 50 with Hal Elrod). As the began growing on their own again, they got to a place where they realize they both still really liked each other, and they wanted to focus on how they could make their relationship work again.

Eventually, people started to notice that their relationship was improving. The results were that dramatic! They started to ask them, “What did you do?” They started to break down all the things they did, and they realized things broke down pretty neatly into these four elements:

• The “You” element, own personal self-development
• The “Partners” element, the business side of the relationship
• The “Friends” element, wanting to feel like you are both friends again
• The “Lovers” element, and wanting to be intimate again

This journey inspired their book, The Miracle Morning for Couples. The Miracle Morning was really important to both of them, and they decided they wanted to spend more time with each other together. They found a way to incorporate the four elements into their everyday lives in a way that moves the needles forward

The Biggest Helping: Today’s Most Important Takeaway

“What you give your time to matters.”

“A lot of couples think that their relationship is fixed with a big grand gesture, but the foundation of your relationship is not built in the grand gestures, it’s built in the small moments. It’s built in the everyday little deposits that you make.”

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Resources:

• Learn more at https://legendarycouples.com/
• Relationship planning guide: https://legendarycouples.clickfunnels.com/optin21723031
• Read The Miracle Morning for Couples
• Instagram: https://instagram.com/legendary.couples

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Today we jump into part 2 with our expert guest John Gray. If you missed part 1, make sure you go back and listen to last week’s episode.

Last week, John talked about how environmental additives impact us hormonally and affect men and women’s relationships, but these aren’t the only things adding complexity to the modern relationship. Personal technology, such as cell phones, as well as the platforms we access through them, have begun to impact relationships in a huge way.

Life is speeding up. We are constantly overstimulated. Our brains are wired to be seeking out new and different stimuli. Our motivations have changed from just the fulfillment that comes from personal interaction, which is creating an unconscious loneliness inside of us.

If you have high dopamine stimulation, the neurons in the brain will begin to disappear. You start to rely on high stimulation just to feel normal. All the things that used to provide pleasure, personal interaction, affection, sharing, connection, now they feel flat and boring.

The same problem applies to men and online pornography. When a man fantasizes about a woman online, he gets a huge rush of dopamine, which is actually higher than real, intimate sex, where there are several other hormones involved. This makes the thought of sex less exciting.

When abstaining from ejaculation for just a week, the testosterone in a man’s system will double. Too often, the body is deprived of hormones and nutrients it needs. Sex is a very big part of a long term relationship, but if your hormones are out of balance, it will be hard to experience the fulfillment of that.

So, with all of these complexities in modern society and relationships, how can we get these relationships back on track? There are 4 essential steps that are absolutely necessary:

• Stop trying to change your partner. Don’t blame each other for the way you are. If you aren’t happy with the way you are, then what you are doing isn’t working. You need to start from there, and stop sabotaging your relationship.
• Take responsibility for your own happiness. Regardless of what your partner does or doesn’t do, find your happiness. Become self-reliant.
• Understand what your partner’s primary emotional needs are. Now that you have taken the time to focus more on yourself, you can give more to your partner from a place of fullness.
• You get more in return when you start giving more. But if you aren’t getting what you need, simply ask. Do not give with the expectation of things in return, but know that your needs are important as well.

There is clearly a lot of nuance to these, particularly in the different ways that men and women need to communicate and have their needs met. The book, Beyond Mars and Venus, goes into detail on all of these differences, and how to follow these steps in various situations.

The Biggest Helping: Today’s Most Important Takeaway

“Men, if you’re finding you are getting angry, stop talking. If you can listen more, that’s better, but you might have to take a time out. It only gets worse if you talk when you’re angry because it throws your hormones out of balance. What you can give to women is to ask more questions, listen more before speaking (because when you talk you make it worse), and keep your words short and simple. Don’t try to change her.

“For women, it’s such an automatic thing when you’re feeling stressed out to give orders, complaints, point out things. Recognize if it’s a big issue, talk about it, if it’s a little issue, overlook it, talk to a girlfriend. Let him be your hero. Take time to appreciate him.”

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Resources:

• Learn more at https://www.marsvenus.com/
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• Read: Beyond Mars and Venus
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Mars.Venus.John.Gray
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/JohnGrayMarsVenus
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/marsvenus

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Today our expert guest is John Gray, the author of the most well-known and trusted relationship book of all time, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. USA Today listed his book as one of the top 10 most influential books in the last quarter century.

John helps men and women better understand and respect their differences in both personal and professional relationships. His approach combines specific communication techniques with healthy nutritional choices that create the brain and body chemistry for lasting health, happiness, and romance.

In his career in marriage counseling, he had some very counter-culture ideas around relationships. The culture wanted men and women to be treated equal, and that meant treating them as if they were exactly the same. But there are a lot of differences between men and women.

When we expect others to act and think exactly as we do, there is a lot of room for misinterpretation. Approaching his counseling sessions with the ten most common misinterpretations between men and women in relationships, he found that all his clients got better very quickly.

After 9 years following this approach, John put these thoughts into his first book, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. The book was perfect for getting very quick results because it pointed out some of the most obvious flaws in our relationships and how to approach them.

Today, there is more gender confusion than ever before. We have so many hormones and pesticides in our food that causes the hormones of both men and women to become out of balance. Once again, we think everyone should be exactly the same, and we’re not. This was the idea behind Beyond Mars and Venus.

When the meat you eat has hormones added to it, what that does for a man is lower testosterone. Testosterone is the primary hormone that creates positive mood in men. When women get hormones from their food, it lowers their estrogen supply.

Our coping mechanisms for stress are very different for men and women. Women find more value in talking about their problems and getting them out in the open. Men tend to cope better by ignoring or temporarily forgetting about their problems.

The world has changed, and we need to change with it. Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus was written over 25 years ago to help us understand where we are coming from and misunderstanding each other. Beyond Mars And Venus is teaching us where we need to go, because as a society we are becoming out of balance.

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• Learn more at https://www.marsvenus.com/
• Read: Beyond Mars and Venus
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Mars.Venus.John.Gray
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/JohnGrayMarsVenus
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/marsvenus

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Today our expert guest is Robert Owens, radio and TV personality, mountain climber, keynote speaker, minister, philanthropist, triathlete, and father of five, to name a few of his exploits. He is also the fittest 66 year old in the world. For more than 25 years, Robert has been speaking before audiences as large as 50,000, from San Diego to Moscow, on motivational and leadership topics, with past clients including Navy Seals, the New York Jets, Baltimore Ravens, South-African Parliament, the Vietnamese Department of Foreign Affairs, and many others. He continues to routinely take on challenge and see others what can be achieved in their own lives.

Robert Owens was adopted as a kid. He had flat feet and knocked knees, and had to wear corrective shoes to counter it, but he couldn’t run and play with the other kids. He always wanted to fit into something, and eventually he started swimming on the water polo team in high school.

His head coach ended up being the US Olympic swim coach, so he was very strict with his swimmers. Robert always thought he was just an average swimmer-- everyone else on his team had been swimming for longer, and they were all incredibly talented. But his coach told him that hard work can beat better talent, and he taught him to work in smarter ways to tackle things that should have been impossible.

This line of thinking eventually got him into the US Air Force as a Special Ops repair rescueman. After he left the military, he started smuggling literature in and out of the Soviet Union during the Cold War, all while going to school for a degree in theology.

Robert never wanted to be laughed at again, he didn’t want kids to pass him up on their team, and this drove him to be an overachiever. He wanted to do things that people said you couldn’t possibly do.

How can some people take action to live this kind of life? You have to be comfortable with being uncomfortable, because everything you’re dreaming of is on the other side of discomfort. You have to change the people you spend time with. Look at your five closest friends: They will give you a hint at where you’re headed. And you have to work with mentors, teachers, or coaches to bring out the potential inside of you. You cannot tap into it yourself.

One thing that holds people back in their journey is anxiety. Navy Seals deal with this regularly, and Robert has a couple of tactics that they use to get through their anxiety and keep acting:

• Breath control: your emotions are attached to your breathing. If you can control your breathing, you can control your emotions. Taking a deep breath in for four seconds, breathing out for four seconds, and repeating that 3 times will get your mind out of “fight or flight” mode instantly.
• Positive self talk out loud: Tell yourself positive affirmations, such as “I can do this.”
• Micro-goals: Can I do this for the next 30 seconds? After a minute or two, that emotion will have ceased, and you can refocus.

In Robert’s new book, Beyond Average, he breaks down the craft and the skills that he developed to build a better life from an average childhood, to live beyond average. It’s about teaching people how to overcome, and encouraging them to let someone bring out of them what they would like to have brought out.

The Biggest Helping: Today’s Most Important Takeaway

“They need to find people who will see them for who they really are and help them break out of the rut that they’re in. That their best days are ahead, but their decisions are determining their destiny. If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got. You’ve got to break out and ask for help, whether it’s eating, drinking, education, raising kids, you’ve got to find someone that can encourage you and help you go to the next level.”

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Resources:

• Learn more at https://www.roberthamiltonowens.com/

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Today our expert guest is Cathy Christen, serial entrepreneur, keynote speaker and facilitator, as well as a best selling author, dedicated to helping others live a life they love. She brings profound awareness to the extraordinary possibilities within everyone she meets, and provides businesses and personal coaching tools to help individuals and organizations elevate to their highest potential. She really just helps people to live a life they love.

Cathy grew up in a low-income family, but at a young age she noticed that her dad was always so happy, and her mom wasn’t quite as happy, but she didn’t really understand why at first.

Her dad loved giving and serving others. He asked Cathy regularly about what wanted to do with her life and who she wanted to be. In her college years, she realized that her mom had all these talents and goals that she never got a chance to pursue, but her father was a simple man and he just wanted to get married and have kids, so he was already living his fullest life.

Being aligned and knowing what you want for your life, and living that out, makes all the difference.

In college, Cathy was talking with a counselor who asked her what her dream title was. She said “I want to be a maximum potential finder.” Her counselor may have laughed it off, but she gets so much joy from seeing the possibilities in others and sharing that with them.

So many people don’t see the potential right in front of them, because they didn’t grow up thinking possibilities were an option. They just had to get by with what they have. And even if you were striving for something more, it showed that you were not appreciative of what you have in life.

How do you reconcile that conflict? First, you have to be aware of your motive for wanting more. Wanting more allows you to give more, so if your desire for more is to be able to give more, you shouldn’t feel bad about that. And realize that you can’t help others if you aren’t helping yourself first.

Cathy has been coaching people in business for 17 years, and she realized how much just that training has helped people to step into their potential. While she worked in sales and entrepreneurship, she felt like she was a life coach. It was this revelation that led to her writing her best-selling book, Life as a Masterpiece: Design and Live a Life You Love Today.

Whatever you’re doing, you have a vehicle to get where you want. Where you are now is not your destination, it is a vehicle. You just have to identify where you’re going to go.

What are the steps you can take to start moving from identifying your destination to getting the engine going?

• You have to have a master plan
• Break the goal down into bite-sized pieces
• Pick what you’re going to focus on in what order

When you break things down into manageable pieces, you see how what looked like an insurmountable challenge becomes entirely possible. When you see it like that, you realize you can do this.

The Biggest Helping: Today’s Most Important Takeaway

“Take time to identify what you want. And know that you can create anything that you want. So don’t feel stuck. Know that anything is possible. I think if you hold on to that and really know that you can create, you can design, amazing things can happen.”

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Resources:

• Learn more at https://www.cathychristen.com/
• Read Life as a Masterpiece: Design and Live a Life You Love Today
• Instagram: http://instagram.com/cathyvchristen
• Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/cathyvchristen
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/CathyChristen

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Today our expert guest is Scott Kujak, host of the Underdog Podcast and author of Underdog: True Stories of Overcoming Adversity. He speaks to organizations, corporations, churches, and at events, inspiring those who fight against adversity one punch at a time.

Scott began his podcast after witnessing his best friend battle stage 4 colon cancer, and now he interviews people who have overcome tremendous odds, from famous athletes to amputee war veterans.

When Scott’s friend Phil was diagnosed with cancer around the same time Scott had a relationship end abruptly, he witnessed the difference in the ways they handled adversity: Scott faced his with doubt, hopelessness, anger and depression, but Phil responded with positivity, optimism, and hope. This inspired Scott to respond to adversity even when life didn’t make sense.

Scott wanted to capture Phil’s story in depth in an interview and inspire others. After that, he decided to interview others who have overcome a spectrum of different circumstances so he could share that knowledge with others.

Phil sadly passed away in 2018, but Scott wanted to honor his legacy and his story. He was already halfway through writing his book based on his podcast, where Phil was the last story told, and he knew he had to kick into high gear to get it finished and honor his friend.

Over the course of his interviews, Scott pulled out a few common strategies people have used to overcome adversity:

• Forgiveness makes change about yourself and not the other person. It opens your heart and changes your perspective.
• Looking at taking life on day by day. When faced with incredible adversity, it can be hard to look at the next 5 years of your life, but if you can just tackle the next day, week, month, you will get there.
• What is your motivation? If you have a strong enough reason to keep going on, you can find the strength to go on.

Today, Scott has found several ways to make his own impact in the world. He’s taken up boxing, where he is the two time golden glove super-heavyweight champion of Austin, Texas, which helps him with stress relief and exercise, but also serves as a powerful metaphor for the fights others have to go through. He even incorporates this into his speaking engagements.

Scott is serving in mentorship programs locally, partnering up one on one with kids and offering support. He is also involved in Big Love Cancer Care, providing much-needed assistance, items, and support to cancer patients and their families.

The Biggest Helping: Today’s Most Important Takeaway

“Above anything else, the most important thing in life to be successful is to love others with every single thing that you have in your body. It’s not enough to make a ton of money, it’s not enough to be there for a friend in times of need. You have to be there for everybody, whether they want it or not, whether they like you or not, you like them or not. If you show love to other people, that’s how the world changes.”

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Resources:

• Learn more at scottkujak.com
• Read Underdog: True Stories of Overcoming Adversity
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/underdogpodcast
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/underdog_podcast
• B.I.G. Love Cancer Care: https://biglovecancercare.org

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Today our expert guest is Gay Hendricks, a leader in the fields of relationship and body/mind transformation for more than 45 years. After earning his Phd from Stanford in 1974, Gay served as professor of counseling psychology at the University of Colorado for 25 years. He has written more than 40 books, including best sellers such as Five Wishes, The Big Leap, Conscious Loving, and Conscious Loving Ever After.

Gay had wanted to become a creative writer and had no interest in psychology, but when he went to meet with a friend of his at the University of New Hampshire, he ended up sitting in on a counseling class and he was so amazed at what he saw that he knew then what he wanted to do for the rest of his life.

After that, he signed up for the counseling program, got his masters degree in counseling, went on to get his doctorate at Stanford in counseling psychology, and ended up teaching counseling psychology. So he really stayed true to his decision.

Gay came across this idea he called the Upper Limit Problem, which is a governer of how good we can feel, and that was the original glimmer that led him to write The Big Leap.

The “upper limit problem” is a response to a fear. Once you understand what those basic fears are, you can begin to understand what is happening when it’s happening.

Which fears are you operating under? The fear of outshining and taking away from other people we perceive as more deserving, the fear that you are fundamentally flawed or broken in some way, or the fear of being disloyal to the people in your past? The more you look at them and feel them in your body, it becomes easy to identify which one you are operating under. The more you can open up, the easier it becomes to balance your life.

Another idea evolved from The Big Leap is the “zone of genius.” There are 4 zones: the zone of incompetence, the zone of competence, the zone of excellence, and the zone of genius.

The zone of incompetence is when you spend time focusing on tasks you are not good at, and many people get stuck spending too much time there. The zone of competence is when you are good at something, but other people could likely do those tasks just as well. The zone of excellence is where you’re doing the things you’re really good at, but if you stay there for too long you start to stagnate. And finally, you end up in “the genius spiral,” which is a constant upleveling of your life as you grow and improve.

The way you move from the zone of excellence to the genius spiral is to keep asking yourself questions, which Gay calls “wonder questions,” that keep leading you into magnificent new dimensions.

Some good wonder questions to ask yourself are:

• What activities put me into a timeless space? What makes me lose track of time?
• What do I do that produces the greatest amount of contribution for time spent?
• What is my true genius?

Don’t focus on the answers, just plant the questions in yourself. That will start liberating ideas.

In Gay’s newest book, The Joy of Genius, was made to give you something that you can do on a regular moment by moment basis that will unlock more creativity and gradually eliminate negative thinking.

Just find one negative thought and change it, and watch what happens as a result of that. Change one “can not” to a “can.” Once you start tweaking your mind in this way, your mind will light up, and you find that positive thinking is much more fun and productive than negative thinking.

The Biggest Helping: Today’s Most Important Takeaway

“At our trainings, we have this wristband that says ‘Breath, Move, Love.’

“Anytime you’re feeling stuck, just take a moment to take a few easy breaths. Or even when you’re feeling good, take a few easy breaths to amplify that feeling in your body. After you take that breath, then move your body around, open up to that natural flow of energy. And the third thing is love. Love as much as you can from wherever you are. You are not always going to feel loveable towards yourself, but you can always love yourself for not being able to love yourself. And in that moment you become very different.”

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Resources:

• Learn more: hendricks.com
• Workshops: heartsinharmony.com
• Read: https://www.amazon.com/Joy-Genius-Next-Step-Beyond/dp/1947637649
• Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=gay+hendricks&ref=nb_sb_ss_i_1_13
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/relationshipadvice
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/hearts_harmony
• YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/hendricksinstitute

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Today our expert guests are Analyn & Brandon Miller, successful business owners and the parents of seven children. Brandon is a Gallup-Certified Strengths Coach and CEO of 34 Strong, and Analyn owns and operates the Analyn Miller Group, part of Keller Williams Realty.

They are passionate about seeing families engage in a strengths-based parenting approach that honors the uniqueness in every child and empowers positive parent-child relationship through every stage of life. Their recently published book, Play to Their Strengths: A New Approach to Parenting, offers an incredibly fresh take on parenting.

The idea for the book came about when Analyn and Brandon both had a desire to work together on something, and one thing they both had a passion for and wanted to share the message of was parenting. They had been implementing this strategy themselves for around 10 years, and it dawned on them that they needed to start sharing this with the world. So they started writing.

So, what is strengths-based parenting? It starts with the belief that every child is born great, and learning to identify what their natural strengths and tendencies are to encourage the momentum of their innate talent.

The strengths based development is relatively new in it’s formal understanding, and there had been some very clinical, research-driven books around the topic of parenting, but they wanted to write the handbook for real life. What does it sound and feel like with seven children, sorting through all those different personalities and making it work?

In school, kids are often brought up being told what their deficient at, what they need to improve and do better at. It can go against our natural tendencies to focus so heavily on their strengths instead of trying to counterbalance against weaknesses.

Here are some simple ways you can implement strengths-based parenting in your home:

• 5-to-1 Ratio: To push them in the direction of their strengths, for every one thing they need to work on, identify and focus on five things that are nurturing them into their potential.
• 5 E’s: Start evaluating what your childs’ strengths are based on what they look forward to (Enthusiasm), what comes natural to them (Easy), what it is that third party observers notice they are above-average at (Excellence), what gives them Energy, and what they Enjoy so much that they don’t want to give up.
• When faced with something that is one of your children’s weaknesses, let them do something that will fill them up with energy first instead of withholding it. This will give them the reserve energy to get this done.
• Leave comparison at the door: Strengths-based parenting starts with the parents. Instead of looking at the way others parent their children and trying to identify where you don’t measure up, focus on what your parenting strengths are. Get to know who you are and embrace the areas where you are strong.

Since implementing this, Analyn and Brandon have noticed their children (and even themselves) looking at people and identifying the strengths in them before jumping to conclusions and assuming what is wrong. It creates an environment that is much more forgiving.

“There is just something so incredibly rewarding about watching children grow into the best version of who they are, instead of what we think is best.”

The Biggest Helping: Today’s Most Important Takeaway

“This book is not an event, it’s a journey. It’s okay to spend a couple of months on a chapter. The whole idea is that this book isn’t just something you read once and stick it on a shelf. We wrote it to be a field manual because we felt like that was what was missing for us, and so we wanted to give it to the world.”

“It’s never too late for a do-over. At any age or stage your child is at, you’re still their mom, you’re still their dad, it’s never too late to start looking at them through this perspective of ‘what’s right with your son/daughter, and how can I be that parent that supports them along the way?’ It’s never too late for a do-over.

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Resources:

• Learn more at https://www.analynbrandon.com
• Read: Play to Their Strengths: A New Approach to Parenting
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AnalynBrandon
• Instagram: http://instagram.com/playtotheirstrengths
• LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/brandon-miller-873a6bb

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Today our expert guest is Dov Baron, twice cited as one of Inc. Magazine’s Top 100 Leadership Speakers to hire, the Meeting & Event Professionals Guide to the Top 100 Motivational Speakers, and named as one of the top 30 global leadership gurus.

He is a best-selling author and host of the #1 podcast for Fortune 500 executives, Leadership and Loyalty. He has interviewed and worked with leaders, and has been featured on Oprah, Ellen, CNN, Fox, MSNBC, CBS, Huffington Post, Larry King, New York Times, Washington Post, Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, and many other top-rated media outlets.

Dov didn’t fit in when he was a kid. Born in a ghetto in northern England, he was surrounded by alcohol, addiction, and violence. He left his home at 21 years old to begin to study around the world, and then in 1984 he became a public speaker.

Then, in 1990, something happened. Dov was an adrenaline junkie, and his friend and him decided to go free climbing. At about 120 feet up, a rock dislodged and he fell 12 stories down onto the rocks below.

That fall wasn’t the moment where everything changed, though. Dov just buried himself deeper into his own ego. It wasn’t until he reached his “choice point,” where he started to face that denial, and went through nine months of grinding against that before he truly saw a transformation.

Until we’re looking at our pain, you don’t really find your purpose.

Most of us don’t want to deal with pain, but your pain is not something to be afraid of. It’s a guidance system, not only physically but psychologically. It tells you what matters to you.

The Biggest Helping: Today’s Most Important Takeaway

“I want you to ask yourself a set of questions:

1. What has bothered me for as long as I can remember?
2. What is it about owning my power that scares me?
3. Who will suffer if I choose not to fulfill my purpose?

Somebody will suffer if you choose not to step and not play into your greatness. I see you, I believe in your greatness. I believe you were born with deep greatness. You did not come to this planet without a reason. You did not get your dreams by accident. They are your heart and soul crying out for expression.

Answer those three questions. Sit with those three questions. Meditate on those three questions. When you get the answers, go deeper, and deeper, and deeper, and you will reveal to yourself your soul’s quest.”

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Resources:

• Learn more at https://fullmontyleadership.com/
• All At Once Course: https://authentic-leadership-academy.teachable.com/p/all-at-once
• Read: One Red Thread
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DovBaronLeadership/
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDovBaron
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/pub/dov-baron/0/b69/132
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTVH_F-eqUGGLD4ap-rJE-A
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dovbaronleadership/

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