Every problem you have is your responsibility to solve, irrespective of who caused it. This is called radical responsibility. 

A lot of people are obviously frustrated, sad, heartbroken, and they still deny it and say they are fine. If you allow people make you stop being vulnerable, you should realise that you are the one dealing with the loneliness, pain, hurt. You should allow yourself be vulnerable.

Emotions can only be self reported, and therapists know this. You may know a person is lying, but you can't say it for this person. People can only be encouraged to be vulnerable to be honest about how they feel.

#RetailReligion - Rev.Father Oluoma came with the truth, the whole truth and nothing but that truth! No bars were held as he talked about how the socio-political system of the country affects the Church and religion generally in Nigeria.

The first step to radical forgiveness is to acknowledge that there are those you haven't forgiven. Don't lie to yourself that you have forgiven when you haven't or you don't care when you actually do.

This is the idea that there is nothing anything that anyone can do to you that you cannot forgive because it is in your power to forgive. When you forgive, you are exercising power.

When you see people making smart arguments, sometimes, it is fear - they are afraid of being cheated, lied to, manipulated, oppressed, not being appreciated. The best way to respond, when you remember this central truth, is with empathy.

Hiding things by not saying the truth does not make things better. It is on you to ask for the truth and encourage people to tell the truth, than to be polite and hide it.

#RetailReligion - Mfon Ekpo goes deep and talks about what our relationship with God should be like as against what religion teaches.

A book from one of my mentors, Charlie Monger, is titled 'All I want to know is where I'm going to die so I don't go there'. This speaks to understanding reality for what it is not what you want to hear.